Is it time to call it quits my fiance has a child and so do I but he babies his son so much?

Question

last night my fiance came home from work and I was asking him what else he wanted to go with dinner and his son walks in the room and being very polte doesn't say a word ad walks back out of the room well his dad calls him back and said what baby ??? and I was like weren't we just having a conversation ( waited until the child walked outta the room )and he said but I haven't seen him all day but I felt like he was completely disregareding me and my daughter but he says he wants us to be a family ?????

ok I must have mistyped something my fiance got home and him and I were talking and his son walked in the room my daughter was in her room I was in midsentence and he calls his son back into the room to give him and my daughter something but he didn't call my daughter I was fine with him coming into the room and waiting until I was finished speaking but before I finished he walked back to his room I understand that my fiance has his sn to look out for first but he has taken on the role of my daughters father and yes I guess Iam trying to say that his son is spoiled because his mom left same as my daughter opposite parent and his dad is like well he gets he feelings hurt but my main issuee is the disrespectul fiance

Answer 1

Sometimes adults MUST take a backseat to their mates/spouses child from previous relationship, that is what being an adult is all about, having the maturity to know when this is appropriate. If your fiance had just come in from work, then his son had not seen him all day either, and as the ADULT you should not mind the CHILD coming to his father and greeting him, speaking to him, or pulling his attention from you for a few minutes. Sometimes life is not about YOU, sometimes it is about the people around you, especially when those people are children. I cant imagine being jealous of a CHILD, and that is what it sounds like you are. GROW UP!!! or find a man without a child you feel like you are competing with. How would you feel if you were pressured into rejecting your daughter in favor of your man? Just be glad you found a man who is willing to accept ANOTHER man's child in his life.

Answer 2

Why would his son walk in the room not say a work and then walk out. Did he feel he was interrupting the conversation at hand and felt uninvited to join in? Sounds to me like his son does not feel accepted by you and your daughter why else would he do that? Does not make sense. I feel you are leaving something out here that would help others understand what is going on. Maybe his dad called him back because he did not want his son thinking he wasnt welcome in the same room with you and your daughter while you were having a conversation? You should have been the one to invite the boy back in the room this will help him understand that he is as much a part of the family as everyone else.

Unless you are trying to say he is a spoiled boy. What are you saying?

Answer 3

Oh for pete's sake do this child a favor and move out. He does not need an adult around who competes with him for attention from his father. Get some parent counseling before your daughter turns out just like you.

Answer 4

so ur going to walk out bc hes showing attention to his son over you, geez lady you should have known u were going to be 2nd in his life when u realized he had a kid. u sound very immature to be wanting to leave over a silly issues such as a side dish. ur not mature enough for this relationship.

Answer 5

Never marry someone that doesn't show the same respect for you and your daughter that he shows for his kid.

Answer 6

I would figure it out now before you marry him its not fare to your child