Are people getting more perverted?

Question

My daughter has a shirt that she got at Daddy-Daughter day camp. It's a one day event in our community every summer where Daddies take their young daughters and they do things like go on a nature hike or work with horses in a stable- it's a bonding experience to encourage Daddy-Daughter bonding. It's a lovely idea, really. Well the t-shirt says "Ask me how much my Daddy loves me."

I left my daughter at preschool yesterday. She wore the shirt. The substitute preschool teacher completely blew the shirt out of proportion and thought it was a sick joke about child molesters & incest. I was furious when she called me about it.

So, according to my first answerer, any shirt that says "I love my Daddy" or "My mommy loves me" is grounds for an investigation?

I was furious because she calls me (after interrogating my child) and says "This shirt is not funny. It's really sick."

Those are HER daddy issues. Not every child in America's.

Answer 1

No - people are just more paranoid about abuse or possible abuse. Teachers in some areas are now required to report cases of possible or suspected abuse. This sub may have actually thought that your daughter was being abused, or she may have just called due to CYA, so that if something ever developed, she could say, "I'm innocent - I called the mother about this".

And if you responded to her in a furious manner, in my opinion you overreacted.

Answer 2

To answer your immediate question: YES. Television, movies, the internet, and society as a whole are making perversion mainstream and commonplace. We have congressman and senators getting busted left and right (no pun intended) doing perverted, often illegal things. We had a president get caught in the office with an intern. It has desensitized us against these things, making them more socially acceptable to many.

As far as that teacher is concerned, I would publicly ask what is going through the mind of someone that immediately thinks that way. That teacher is probably a closet perv, and should be outed. I would also say call a lawyer about addressing what your child had to go through. That can do terrible harm, and just because some pedophiliac sub has a sick mind does not mean that your daughter should have to address that kind of issue at such a young age. This is also the first step at reversing the perversion that is overtaking many schools.

Answer 3

Undead Monkey is right on with this. I would go over this persons head and go straight to the owner complaining about this. Who was this woman to assume that the tee shirt meant anything more then what it said? This woman is looking for something that doesn't exist, and she is probably looking everywhere so that if she does find something wrong somewhere she can be called a HERO for 'saving' a child.

Now your daughter, at such a young age, is going to wonder what loving her daddy has anything to do with getting the 3rd degree from this selfish sub.

I would demand that this woman lose her job or you will take your daughter out of the care of this preschool and recommend the same for other parents.

To answer your question though, I don't think that people are getting more perverted, I think that this woman was just looking to cause a problem.

Answer 4

Sadly, there are too many very perverse people out there. As for the teacher's innappropriate "misunderstanding" of that shirt, that's really pathetic, she's just downright nuts for even coming to that conclusion.

I bought my daughter, 5, a t-shirt that says "My Daddy Loves Me". Nothing innappropriate about it.

I'm sorry that you had to deal with such ignorance of an innocent thing.

Answer 5

I do hope this sick teacher did not blow up at your daughter..

And yes, I think people are getting more perverted.. Sad I know. But I think they are getting More perverted in the way they are looking at things and not necessarily the way things are.. Hence the teacher having a problem with your daughters t-shirt.

All she really should have done was 'ASK' your daughter about the shirt and that would have cleared things up.

Also, did she really think that if your husband had really been a pervert (we KNOW he is NOT) would have really gotten your daughter a shirt and advertised it..?

Answer 6

Set up a meeting w/the owner and calmly explain your problems w/the teacher's accusations and request a written apology from the school and the teacher (if possible). This will help you get this off your chest and help the school understand that this kind of accusation is over the top and that there needs to be some kind of policy re this kind of baseless accusation.

Answer 7

Maybe the sub was enormously jealous, because she felt unloved by her father.

Maybe the sub was abused when she was younger.

That is not your fault. It sounds like she was the one with the problem. The shirt just had a sweet and innocent statement on it. You can't control the perceptions of other people. If someone gets offended by something that innocent, I pity them.

Answer 8

I think people are far too politically correct these days. If something has even a hint of anything that they see as dodgy, then they start getting over upset about it. Don't worry about this mad woman, she is not worth worrying about.

Glad your daughter had a good time!

Answer 9

I would be pissed off too. I would also complain as high up as I could, all the way to the owner of the day care. I would also make it a point to complain to that person more than once and DEMAND an apology.

Answer 10

That teacher needs to get her mind out of the gutter. It's one thing to be concerned but that kinda assumption required a huge leap.

Answer 11

that's like asking a rhetorical question, as the years go by the issue of sex becomes a more open one more things are viewed from a sexual stndpoint....to answer your question yes....and pertaining to the teacher, its her own negative mindedness..you're better off ignoring her and getting on with your life.