2007-10-17 00:58:04 · 8 answers · asked by Ahmed Z 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The other party is using you for what? You need to clarify this question.
Is the person using you to get their daughter into college? Are you being used as a reference on a job application? Confront the party, if you have this concern.
2007-10-17 01:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lighthouse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely feel a dork but at the same time, there are a lot of circumstances involved why these things happen. Obviously, no person in his right mind would allow himself/herself to be consciously used, right? Unless he's downright out of his mind. I would confront the person and whether or not that there is love involved, all the cards should be laid on the table for once and for all. What happens next would depend again on the severity of the issue. If it's worse, a divorce or not letting myself be involved with that person any longer would be the best option. If it's not, then maybe things can still be patched up, but it would take time to heal of course. Trust, sincerity and honesty should be now earned AGAIN by that person for him/her to be deemed deserving of any emotional attachments or even an acquaintance on my part. Afterall, trust is really earned in the first place and not just given away freely.
2007-10-17 01:43:38 · answer #2 · answered by archangel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would assess the situation carefully. In these types of situations, someone needs help. Am I making myself available to be used? If that is the case, I would distance myself from the situation. I might also seek help, if I felt this were a weakness that I had and I saw that many others were using me, also.
However, if I felt that I wasn't someone who readily submitted to being "used," but found that I was in a situation where I was being used, I would consider the person's reasons for using me. Do they need help? If so, I would talk with them and see if they could get the assistance they needed, so they won't have to take advantage of others to get what they need. If I felt that they were just "takers" then I would let them know that's what I felt about them and distance myself from them so that I couldn't be used in this way any longer.
2007-10-17 11:09:53 · answer #3 · answered by JenV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of depends on whether you mind doing whatever that person is using you for. If you don't mind, finish the task up (if there's a task at hand) and then talk to the "user" to let them know how you feel about being taken advantage of by anyone. If it bothers you then you just express your feelings, in a professional manner, to the other party to let them know you don't appreciate being treated that way. Being "called" on something would be embarassing enough so it's your best option.
2007-10-17 02:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by TJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah...revenge, but no.
Move on with your life which should not include the so called friend. If he or she brings it up, then discuss. You also bear some of the responsibility for not seeing that the other person was using you. If they have used you they probably have used other people as well and trying to reform them will be futile.
2007-10-17 01:53:13 · answer #5 · answered by neonman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be "used" is like being treated a property or a thing. If somebody's using you, keep a distance so you won't get taken advantaged of and eventually get hurt. Be wise, and pray about it.
2007-10-17 01:11:39 · answer #6 · answered by vienna M 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. You can only be used if you allow yourself to be used.
2007-10-17 01:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by EvilWoman0913 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i assume it's general usage using you for what ever reason!
it's very simple i dump them like a bad habit!~
2007-10-17 03:09:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋