anyone else had this problem, she does'nt know about it.
2007-10-16 23:27:32 · 25 answers · asked by dann_501 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did fail to add, that i am already married, so infatuation's out the window, dating women as never been a problem either, although i have,nt since being married.
She is however a distant cousin, of whom i see for the first time in 12 years last week, and remembered how i felt about her then.
Kids; dont want them, lust; no chance.
2007-10-16 23:50:38 · update #1
that's a tough problem man
are you sure its REAL love? gotta make sure first and if it is do what's best for both of you
2007-10-16 23:32:11 · answer #1 · answered by arman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My aunt married her first cousin. They had quite a difficult marriage because much of the clan do not approve of their relationship. What I know is, it is not really incestuous to be in love with your first cousin, but their children will suffer from genetic disorders. As with my aunt and uncle, one of their children suffered from asthma but their other 3 children seemed to be normal. ( 1 is gay but I do not consider it a disorder).
So, I think, its ok. You are not committing a sin, but if you can focus your attention to someone else then maybe it will be less stressful.
You're right don't let her know yet, it may just be a source of her going far away from you.
Relax, you are human, just keep yourself under control and always consider the probable consequences.
2007-10-16 23:37:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Phew... I have no cousins called Dann =] Hehe
You may not be in love love, however more... i dont know, you know?
If you are in love, i wouldnt say anything, because the whole family is on the line (if of course your belifes are that marrying first cousins are wrong) -
Give it time, dont think of her, wait for the feeling to go away... Find another girl =] Dont jump into anything quickly
Good luck
2007-10-16 23:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you feel was only an infatuation. Remember it is not right to fall in love to our close relatives. Hey! wake up! their are so many girls out there where you can focus your attention. Go out and find one for you. Avoid letting her know or your world will fall upon you.
2007-10-16 23:39:05 · answer #4 · answered by poorguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did for along time. She was the same way with me. Both knowing it would never have worked, we sat, discussed it, then agreed that whatever happened, we would always be there for each other. Sort of like brother and sister. Came in handy in 06 when m dad died.
2007-10-16 23:31:30 · answer #5 · answered by seanpatrick77 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Really try and find someone else and dont tell her. the cousin thing cant go long term but it would be a cheap wedding only one family to invite!
2007-10-16 23:32:45 · answer #6 · answered by pinkgirl2604 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Greetings...
Well... as for Muslim's... we are advised not to marry our cousins. if its second cousin then its OK. scientifically proven too... it doesnt work well genetically if you marry your cousin. there are quite a number of cases where their child is retard or very slow in studies and more. think about your future child. if she doesnt know... then remain as it is. its ok... God is grateful... you know that He will give you something better in return when you sacrifice a little. He knows better what is best for you... you'll discover how beautiful life is when you do something good. ;) well... love is great...
2007-10-16 23:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by nine z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u have just go through a first step it will be better for u to take that step back.. here i am not talking about legal or illegal but just think she is ur cousin and even she does not know wht u thinks about her.. so it wud be also easy to forget what u are thinking.. best of luck for the future
2007-10-16 23:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Manpreet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some societies it is OK to marry your first cousin. If it is so in your case, go ahead. If not, forget about her and divert your attention to some one else.
2007-10-16 23:30:49 · answer #9 · answered by Swamy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i really think you should move on away from that........i thought a lot of one of my first cousins but i do not believe in marrying inside the family..........it has been done but i do not think it is morally right.........i would not tell her.......love her but do not go beyond that find someone that is not a relation to you......also marrying to close kin can have deformed babies..........
2007-10-16 23:32:33 · answer #10 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cousin couples are perfectly normal.
Go to this website.
http://www.cousincouples.com/
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2007-10-18 06:51:25 · answer #11 · answered by Chad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋