am at my whits' end and feel stupid but I just dont know what to do anymore. I swear I tried all possible and radical ideas I could. I moved, I changed job, I made new friends, I go to the gym, I joined the local theater group to do some stage painting ... but I cannot stop thinking about him and now I'm at a point where I've become physically sick. I get a lump in my throat and have to run to the toilet to be sick and then I cant do anything but cry until I feel ok again. Why after 6 months does it still hurt so bad???
I know he doesnt want me and I know he is seeing someone else, I can live with the facts but my stomach just turns itself inside out.
What on earth can I do that will make me think and feel normal again? I have been on dates and met guys but as soon as it comes to kissing those other guys, I back off cause he pops into my head.
2007-10-16 23:16:04 · 4 answers · asked by soulsurfer 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It just takes time, i know its been 6 months seems a long time but you obviously loved him a great deal. I've been through it too and it feels like it will never end.
I think you are doing the right thing in keeping yourself busy but sometimes you just have to let him go no matter how hard it is.
The truth be told he wasn't right for you and that is the first thing you have to come to terms with. You don't have to forget about him but the moment you do just think of something different, something that makes you smile. Keep dating, there doesn't have to be commitment and having your ego massaged will help no end.
Good luck...
2007-10-16 23:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've done all you can ... it's only six months. You've done things to occupy your time, now try something to occupy your mind more. Start reading. Not romance novels, other things. Join a book club of some sort.
And if you have to cry, then cry. You're still grieving, so it's okay to feel like this! If it's affecting you physically, then take some sick days and enjoy your duvet and your DVD player ... basically you can pamper yourself, you've earned it, hon.
As for other guys, well, don't bother until you really feel you're ready. Obviously you're not, so you're going to need another while to get over this break-up. It will get better again!
2007-10-16 23:32:26 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I found out my wife of 20 years was screwing around early January '05.By june I had the degree nisi,final part of divorce.Tho I gave the tears up about this time last year,she still in my mind ,sometimes.The only times she is out of my system is when I am with someone else.Forgeting is never easy but life HAS to go on and yes,eventualy it will happen.A new love is the best medicine.Good luck.
2007-10-16 23:34:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
discover something else to occupy a while- %. up a sparkling pastime...or my own widespread is determining, that way if and as quickly as I run into the guy who made me lovesick- i visit sense confident in understanding i seem solid!
2016-10-12 22:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋