what do men think of single mothers when looking for a new partner??

Question

my friend has recently seperated from her husband, and i think its going to be for good...but she made a comment the other day about good men not being interested in a single mother as a partner? i said she was speaking complete rubbish, but im starting to question myself now...so...what do men think abot single mothers as a potential new gf??

sorry...what i mean is, are men put off?
or do they think that single mothers/fathers will settle for anything that comes along because of their circumstances??

Answer 1

I lived with a woman that had three daughters for 7 years. LOVED IT but I f**ked up and lost her. I taught the oldest to play guitar and she is a music teacher today, played in symphony in Europe where Mozart etc played. The other girls went on to be successful. The happiest time of my life!!!!!!!!!!
Tell her to be patient and choose carefully, men are out to take advantage of vulnerable women with kids. If she acts desperate she will do harm to the kids and end up with a con artist. PATIENCE is the way to find the right man.
Kids were 5,3,2, when we got together. I really miss them and Carol Jane and I are friends to this day. Wish i would have been more of a man and kept my penis at home,

Answer 2

Just as Dusty said, totally agree. Women CLAIM they want freedom and independence, but in actuality they still need men to be the decisive ones and they want men to give them leadership and guidance (also an additional bank account isn't bad). The whole issue of single mothers is that of course many of these women have made mistakes during there previous years. Thats why there is an abundance of single moms in college, because they screwed up and got pregnant and now they want to do what they had PLANNED to do before they made that mistake years and maybe even decades ago. No smart man (at least imo) would ever let himself be a save-a-ho to a woman and taking care of someone else's children in place of the real father...are you kidding me? How many women do you see who call themselves independent and free yet they hang off a man like he's a tree made of gold? And when these same women are tasked to answer or think for themselves they are passive and you barely hear a mutter from them and if you do, what they say usually doesn't make much sense (some are even college educated women too)? How many times have you seen a woman approach a guy anywhere and ask for a date?

Answer 3

In my experience it doesn't put most decent guys off. The fact is, having a child does not make a woman any less attractive, intelligent or fun to be with. In fact the presence of a child potentially opens up a world that most single men have not experienced before, and it could therefore be an exciting change from the norm. I know guys who are dating single mothers, and all 3 people in each relationship are loving it.

Answer 4

Most men do not want someone who has already started a family if he hasn't. There are different reasons, some are too inseccure to handle it, too immature, and some just do not want to be in a relationship that has baggage from another man. However, the ones who do not want to be with a single mother are usually not ready to settle down and have a serious relationship. Being a single mother usually weeds out all of the jerks right off the bat.

Answer 5

There's nothing wrong with single mothers. Every woman is different. My mum and dad divorced over 20 years ago and she hasn't been interested in another man. My dad though remarried but my stepmum passed away 2 years ago. So i would say if she wants another man go out maybe join a social group or if she has a hobby to improve on it with a course I'm sure they'll be plenty of men who will not be bothered about her being a single mother.

Answer 6

Hiya Charli, i am a single mother. I have a 7 year old little girl who I've raised from birth on my own. She only sees her dad a couple of times a year. I've never found men treated me different because i had a child. I met a wonderful man, who i am now engaged to, and he is absolutely brilliant to my daughter. he treats her like she's his own. Any man who has a problem with children, are obviously not worth knowing. In the past, when ever i met someone for the first time, the first thing I'd mention is my daughter. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

Answer 7

I don't think there is anything wrong with dating single mothers but you do have to get on with the kids otherwise it can mess everything up.
I met a wonderful woman on an internet dating site 2 1/2 years ago. She has 1 son and we get along fine.
I ended up marrying her in July of this year and we are very happy so it can work

Answer 8

Hey Charli

I think you may find that a lot of men disagree with you. For me being with a so called single mother, has many advantages, in that they are committed, otherwise how could they raise their child/ren, they are able to multi-task seemlessly, they also tend to be good at doing what needs to be done, they are strong, their one of societies largest group of carers, and fundamentally they do a great deal without ever being given the dues they deserve.
Being honest for me to watch women interact with their children does it for me.
Hopefully i hope your not puking yet, but i think single mothers are amazing, and rather than just wanting to have more chids with them, maybe some men among us need to support the ones they already have, afterall is that not what responsibility and being in love is all about, etc etc

Charli tell her not to be discouraged as 'patience' will bring to her what is for her, and it's important to also remember we are what we eminate, so she should try to sweep aside negativity.

Good luck and take care aye
GA

Answer 9

She's quite right I'm sorry to say. In all honesty many men tend to pre-judge single mothers by any of the millions of negative sterotypes out there. & this is from personal experience.

And unfortunately there's an element of preditors who take advantage of the situation to gain access to vunerable kids. Thus making the whole situation even worse. Luckily this is not from personal experence - but the fear does tarnish things.

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Answer 10

How would a never married, childless woman feel about a divorced/separated man with kids? It's not always fair to the person who doesn't have kids. Relationships with single parents are often more difficult and stressful. Many men will not want to get involved..