I'm a sister with a daughter. I've been looking to get married. However all the brothers that I meet are fake, and not really into their diin. There are sooo many brothers out there who are not on the straight path. They drink, swear, only pray on fridays, are obessed with sex. I mean what is going on? Or I meet a brother but we are just no compatible and have no connection. I finally met a man that I could see myself marrying. He's wonderful, but he's not muslim. What should I do?
2007-10-16 19:57:58 · 16 answers · asked by Brittany 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Marry him. I'm glad you see what others overlook.
God bless!
2007-10-16 20:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Marrying a Non Muslim man is forbidden to Muslim women but there are cases where the woman did daawah to the truth and the man became muslim. The biggest problem of marrying a non muslim man is the kids you would have later on in life, what religion will they be, would you share pork with him or have Halaal only kitchens, what if he gets alcohol in the house. There are many more negative aspects in marrying a non muslim man. Remember it might look like a bed of roses but later people regret it. Also apart from that there are websites like www.zawaj.com where you can register for free and look at Matrimonies and when you do meet a muslim brother who you click with then make sure you let him know what you expect of him..
Also there is a Salaat called Salaat Istikhara and Salaat Haajat (Prayer for Success and Prayer of Need) please check www.sunnipath.com for both and ask Allah for help.. Insha Allah you would be guided to make a right decision.
2007-10-17 03:49:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a revert to Islam and one of my favorite things about it is that there are rules and following them makes life easier. We don't know why some rules exist but Allah s.w.t. knows best. If you truly believe this then marrying other than a Muslim would be a big sin. I am married to an Arab man and it is very hard so many cultural issue to over come. Look for someone from your culture and religion to be compatible. Nicely make dawa to this man. If it is meant to be it will happen. You know the hadith about nothing passing you by if it is really yours? You will have many conflicts if he isn't a Muslim even though you dont see it now. Remember this life is only temporary and we are here to please Allah.
2007-10-17 04:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the purpose of your life?
As a muslim, it must be to submit to Allah's will. So submit to Allah's will.
He must have something better for you. At time we don't know or ubderstand. But in the overall PACKAGE of life that God gives to true believers, there are more GOODs.
You married before also and were divorced. What guarentee is there that this marriage will also last? If it does not, you'll end up with double pains: a broken marriage and disobedience of God.
Be patience, pray. He will have some thing good for you.
2007-10-17 03:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by Javed I 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't know if you want my opinion, considering I am not Muslim, but I do understand where you are coming from. As a Catholic, God is the center of my life, and I try my best to do His Will. I would say, pray to God about this. Ask yourself, "Does this man (or any other potential husband for that matter) bring me closer to God or hinder my relationship with Him?" Keep this question in your heart and God will answer and guide your heart towards what is right. I hope it works out for you.
God Bless :)
2007-10-17 03:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by WhiteTiger29 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I have an indonesian lady as an internet friend and she told me,she is a prostitute at night,since 2 years ago.She gave me reasons is that she is from a very poor family in indonesia and wanted to make money to support many sisters and brothers in school,support old parent.I asked her did your family told you to become a prostitute?she said no.I told her,God gave you a test of many problems so that you would come to masjid to pray,beg forgiveness and asks God for help.A good person when in trouble will come closer to God and more problems arises,the more she will come closer to asks/pray to God for help but a bad person will do the opposite meanings more problem,more away from masjid or God and start to come closer to bad elements/devils.The bad person starts to play with bad drugs,alcohol,red light district and later become old,become devil's companion to recruit more lost soul to become prostitute.I asked her,which side are you,good or bad?Alhamdulillah,she is now a maid earning a decent salary for her family.Now can I asked you to evaluate your self,are you a good person or bad person?
2007-10-17 04:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Britt: If this guy's "the one" grab him fast. I realize, that marrying within ones beliefs does contribute to the overall flow of things within the marriage. But ... Do you really LOVE him ? If you do then, act (of course you have to be sure he loves you) ! Remember; there are all kinds of beliefs within this world and each has their share of divorces too ! Muslim or not does not in itself, guarantee love for you and a happy and successful marriage. Love makes the marriage work - not the religion. Believe me ... I know of what I speak of.
Good luck to you and your newly founded love ! Allah or God has brought him to you ... will you accept him ?
2007-10-17 03:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wahid above said it best:
"All you have to do is to make it sure that, he believes in one and only one God who has no equal, no example and no relatives. If he agrees with this, certainly you have the freedom to marry him. I pray to God for your success and peace in life."
Talk to him about Islam. If he still believes that God has partners, then unfortunately, you can't marry him.
If it doesn't pan out with this guy, try eHarmony.com. They will match you up ONLY with compatible people.
Best to you and your daughter.
2007-10-17 03:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Dolores G. Llamas 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Explore your options. If you really care for this man, but feel you can only marry a Muslim, then he might be willing to convert. (Is that possible? I am not Muslim.) If that doesn't work out, he may not be the man for you. Patience is difficult, but a necessary virtue when it comes to marriageability...especially if you only want to do it once! Good Luck!
2007-10-17 03:03:39 · answer #9 · answered by leletanner 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sometimes a "non muslim" is a better muslim than most muslims....if you get what I mean
anyway, if you are into 6th century tribalism and other stupid things, no I guess it would be illegal.
If you want to be happy and live a good life, follow your heart
2007-10-17 03:46:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Dear brittany,
All you have to do is to make it sure that, he believes in one and only one God who has no equal, no example and no relatives. If he agrees with this, certainly you have the freedom to marry him. I pray to God for your success and peace in life. Take care.
2007-10-17 03:10:43 · answer #11 · answered by Wahidur Rahman 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋