do u think a kid could actually hate their parents or one of them? or do u think they can only dislike them cause deep down they love them even though they are mad?
2007-10-16 19:53:00 · 13 answers · asked by Rayray 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my bf says he hates his dad all the time.. but i say no u dislike him cause i know deep down he loves his dad he's just mad.
2007-10-16 19:53:41 · update #1
It really depends on the situation and the people involved. I am sure that a child COULD come to hate the parent. Constant abuse - verbal, physical or sexual, could do it. So could a feeling of abandonment, especially if the parent kept in touch with only another sibling, or went on to have another family which they treated far better.
While in an ideal world there would be no reason for a child to hate the parent, sadly for many children this world is far from ideal.
2007-10-16 20:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend,
Children are supposed to love, honor & respect thy parents. But what if the parent (or both) isn't deserving at all? We're talking of irresponsible parents, parents who physically, sexually, emotionally & psychologically abuse their children, either one way or another. There is a borderline between "hating" parents (because of abuse- battered kids) and disliking them (because of difference in values, restrictions-rebellious kids). The former has no love left whatsoever with the parents, in fact, it's no surprise that "hate" is what they feel, while the latter might rebel but deep inside, there is still love.
2007-10-16 21:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by BERNARD C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when young emotions feel extreme, it probably feels like hatred and with age / experience - a better understanding comes. It takes effort on both sides to make any relationship happy. If he is stubborn and wants to hang on to anger/ resentment it is possible he has real hatred. I remember hating my Mum when I was young because I felt she was unfair but as I got older I understood the unhappy marriage she had been trapped in. That's not to say it's healthy or desirable though.
2007-10-16 20:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by flip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure whether it's hate or dislike in your bf's case, but I know teenagers can be violent enough to kill their parents (if they're mentally ill), like the infamous Menendez brothers did to their parents in Beverly Hills. They made a movie about it and thank goodness those guys are in prison.
Your bf should get counseling if he's saying he hates his dad. Regardless of the reason or who's at fault, it's eating him up inside.
2007-10-16 21:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes Hate is just extreme angry because they are so much a like but no one wants to admit it. Dad is upset because he's trying to stop his son from making some of the "Bad Mistakes" he did. Son is pissed because in his eyes Dad is holding him back, restricting his "Freedom"! Nether will give in or compromise. "Sadly" Sometimes it takes something drastic to happen before they both see that these little matters aren't that big a deal and see beyond it!
Unfortunately all you can do is "Stand on The Outside Looking In", Make little hints and suggestions at times (Without hurting your relationship) and Pray they do See things and get back together before something "Drastic" does happen!
"It takes more then One to cause a Fade like this.
2007-10-16 20:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by sidecar0 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that a parent can stir up feelings of severe ANGER, hatred, and deep resentment...My father abused me as a child, and I hold resentment towards him--BIGTIME!!! However, deep down...I love him...I just HATE the person he is, and how he treats me..
2007-10-18 10:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as we try to escape this cold, hard fact, we are programmed by our parents (or legal guardians). They influence us to become who we are more than anybody else. So, yes, absolutely, it's possible for a child to actually hate their parents. Children's emotions are completely pure, but they are also flighty--one minute they hate their parents, with true despite, but then next minute, the parent could be their hero. Ah, to be a child again!
2007-10-16 20:37:03 · answer #7 · answered by lindsaylou 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's just dislike, because I don't think you'd be able to go to the point where you hate your parents, you know?
Unless they abuse you to the point where it's over the limit, I guess you couldn't possibly hate your parents.
But like the person said below, I guess it depends on the situation.
2007-10-16 20:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by beatlesgirl. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think kids can absotively posilutly hate their parents and the reasons why i think u can hate them is if they rape abuse and discourage whatever you do.another circumstance i believe in is when they try to change who you are! dont ever ever!!! let them do that it could be one of the worst personalities in the WORLD stay the SAME i repeat stay the SAME! because in time you will change so dont let them rush you!!! so dont listen to a damn word they say one love Goodbye
2007-10-17 12:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by kureece g 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think kids can hate their parents for sure! i think most that say they do, definately dont. but i mean under certain circumstances like abuse, rape, stuff like that. or even just a parent putting their kid thru hell by being extremely mean, strict, taunting, etc
2007-10-17 10:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by Viv 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋