How are you supposed to find the right one for you? I am sick and tired of trying to change my self.... why can't i just be who i am and like it? so what if i am not the skinniest, smartest, most athletic or beautiful girl there is? Why can't i just be happy with that?
I keep trying to change myself because sometimes i feel i am a loner... i just keep to myself and am shy! sometimes i am ok with that and other times i wish i could talk to more people and make more friends! i think my deepest fear is i will never find someone that loves me... a man, that i love and will love me and take care of me... i am only inhigh school, but i really do fear that i will have to pretend to be someone i am not to find my true love....
What should i do? and why is this happening? am i really just not good enough?
2007-10-16 19:41:29 · 9 answers · asked by Seriously though... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh, and i am going to graduate this year, so don't say its so far away to start thinking about! thanks!
2007-10-16 19:42:35 · update #1
The first thing you need to do is stop trying to change yourself. It's like lying, you will never be the true person to the person you truly want to find if you keep changing. Stop trying to find the perfect person, and just be yourself. Then he will come along!
2007-10-16 19:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by jesusfreak0206 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very common problem in adolescence... And undoubtedly isn't easy to deal with... Nothing can help u except your own will power and faith in God... Look, the things u want the most and look for them impatiently take more time. A watched pot never boils. Just enjoy the good things around u and try being contended... God doesnt give anyone perfect lives... But when u thank God for whatever u have, He understands that u value life which is a gift! When u dont want more, u get loads..so just keep holding on... Great things come to those who patiently wait!
2007-10-17 02:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to read some books about learning to communicate with others. Other than that, I would not suggest you try to change anything. College will be a very different experience. You will see. Things will change for you. Don't get so anxious. If you had boyfriends in high school, they probably would not even be around by the time you finish college anyway. Real life is just beginning for you.
2007-10-17 02:47:53 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just Be Yourself There Is Only One Of You That's What Make's You,You!,
I Say Just Have The Attitude You Normally Do and Ask Him Out Thats What I Did It Worked Perfectley!
2007-10-17 02:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. McLeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, i know exactly how you feel. I think the answer is to find someone who will let you be yourself, someone who you're comfortable with and loves you for who you are. Its a bit hard to be yourself sometimes because certain people make you feel like you have to be or act a certain way. I wouldn't spend too much time with people like that. You gotta hang with people who celebrate you not tolerate you
2007-10-17 02:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Ceejay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many, many people go through that. Girls and guys alike do. I think you should just be yourself and let go of all the doubt. Just because you don't have a boyfriend, it doesn't mean you can't be happy. I was happiest without one I think. You will meet someone when you stop worrying about it, that always happens. But remember, you can't meet someone if you don't go anywhere.
2007-10-17 02:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being yourself means wearing many hats/personalities....
it's preferred etiquette in many social circumstances.
being able to adapt is a good thing.
you will change what you can change and want to change if it is for happiness. if it is a change that goes against your deeper spirit...that may cause conflict and not a good thing.
your basic values you should keep and not change.
just make sure the person you are interested in a future with has the same basic core value/spiritual system.
2007-10-17 03:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, you just said exactly how I feel. I'm a man and long to have true love one day, I am curious if you are 18 or older and living in the Knoxville TN area. Let me know. I'm 24 by the way.
2007-10-17 02:46:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, STOP! Who brainwashed you into thinking you are just "supposed to be yourself"???
Forget THAT.
THINK about this EVERY DAY for the REST OF YOUR LIFE. . . . .
Don't just "be yourself" -->> BE WHO YOU EVENTUALLY WANT TO BE!
Understand??
Only concentrate on being the woman YOU eventually want to become. . . and you will get there A HELL OF ALOT FASTER than if you were just "yourself" every day.
If you do it RIGHT . . . people WILL want to know you.
I guarantee it.
:)
2007-10-17 02:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋