I Love my son with ALL of my heart and am not complaining one bit, but is there anyone else out there that does not spend anytime aways from their child? I don't do anything, nails, shop, anything, alone.....
thanks
2007-10-16 18:50:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The comment on Andrea Yates is not funny....killing your children should never be made into a joke, especially when it has happend. Let me clarifly this, i ENJOY each and every day that i have with my son, and it doesn't bother me that i spend all my time with him....i was just wondering if anyone else felt that way. Thanks!!
2007-10-16 19:04:36 · update #1
Yeah, everyone took this the wrong way, I ENJOY my life just the way it is, i was just curious if anyone else's life was like mine.....
2007-10-16 19:06:12 · update #2
I'm kind of biased because my first child is due in January. I can't wait to spend every second with him...but I'm sure I'll understand what you mean by March. One hyphenated word answer...Baby-Sitter.
2007-10-16 18:54:25 · answer #1 · answered by JJJJJJJJJJJJJJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could spend more time, but I have to work. I think a little bit of time away is healthy for both. After a while you start to take each other existence for with a grain of salt. Spending some time away reminds you how much you miss them. Also I think being too child centered is what ruins some marriages. Mom and dad need time to themselves.
2007-10-17 02:38:50 · answer #2 · answered by billy f 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly ok to need time away from your child. An hour soaking in the tub or getting your hair done is just what you need to recharge and be able to keep going as a mom. You also need that "me" time so you don't lose the part of you that is an individual and just become this "mom" person. It's not healthy if your whole personality gets lost after you have a child.
2007-10-17 02:08:19 · answer #3 · answered by missbeans 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i spend all of my time with my 2 sons, one is 4 1/2 and one is 2 months. Its kinda crazy...i know all the episodes of Spongebob squarepants...i have 1 close friend to talk to but she lives 6 hours away...so i really only get to talk to her on weekends. I work 1 day a week & it gives me a break from being around just the boys all the time. My son also goes to preschool 2 days a week & its nice to get a break once in a while. Dont be too upset, once your child starts going to preschool you'll feel better..you wont know what to do with yourself. It will give you time to get out and do stuff by yourself. You will feel refreashed once you go to pick him up & exciting when he tells you about his day.
2007-10-17 02:00:22 · answer #4 · answered by MTE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep. I'm a stay at home mom, and my daughter goes everywhere with me, whether it be to the store, to run errands, haircuts, to the doctor's office (I'm 5 months pregnant), or on an outing - everywhere. I don't have any time away from my kids, but that's okay, becuase it's my job as a mom and I love spending time with them. I'm with them 24/7/365 and you know what, on the rare occasion that I am away from them (if they're over at grandma's becuase my husband and I have to go to the nearest city which is 100 miles away), I miss them like crazy and can't wait to get home!
2007-10-17 10:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Mrs. GM2*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My second was entirely breastfed, no bottle/pacifier for him. I didn't get to go on a date with my hubby for eight months! He turned two in May and I just recently spent the first night away from him to have my third. I had to stay 48 hrs. He would not cuddle with me for almost five days as he was upset I left him. It absolutly broke my heart. My newborn also had to stay for 7 days and I had to miss part of my older 2 days to establish a bond and breastfeeding with him. I'd never felt so torn in my life. At times, I miss working. On those days, I remind myself how lucky I am to not have to miss out on their every new acomplishment (I had to work while my oldest was young). I've decided to try and have a date night with my husband once a month because as much as I adore my children, I do need that time for myself. The first time we went on a date after my second, we were lost w/o our stroller. We had to carry everything ourselves! We laughed about it! We've managed to go out about once every couple of months since. My hubby sometimes watches my younger two so I have an easier time at the store as well. Try and obtain some alone time, it feels very strange at first, but also very refreshing as well. But yes, until my second could use a sippy cup, I spent all my time with him. As much as I loved it and was blessed to have been able to do so, I do enjoy a break every once in awhile too.
2007-10-17 03:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by mamasmurf_50 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not good. You need some quality alone time. One day he's gonna be living his own life (and I'm not talking about teen years- when he's in preschool) and you'll be left with nothing. That's the feeling you'll get. You need to care for yourself and love yourself and pamper yourself so that you can reflect the care, love and pampering children deserve. Think about airplanes: you put on the oxygen mask first. . .
2007-10-17 01:54:43 · answer #7 · answered by u2gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, and I guess that's what we signed up for when we decided to get pregnant. Although you can make an effort to make time for yourself. That is entirely up to you. I can understand, though, giving your all to your kids. But there is a point in which you have to remember your husband and ultimately yourself. Because without the 2 of you there would be no child.
2007-10-17 02:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by mercedez76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before my husband and I sperated I spent all my time with my kids. I was fine with it at the time. Some people are and some people aren't.
The bigger question is: Are YOU OK with spending all your time with your child? If so, enjoy it! If not, then find a way to take some time to yourself once in a while.
They are only young once...and once it is gone it is gone. Enjoy the time you have with him - take your time if and when you need to.
Take care!
2007-10-17 01:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by MamaMilk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't spend much time away from my son. I never ever spent time away from my son while my husband was deployed. It got rough at times. Now, I'll go to the store really fast without him while my husband's watching but other then that I normally take him with me.
2007-10-17 06:58:38 · answer #10 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋