I was wondering how can sibling abuse lead to the victims having difficulty in relationships and not wanting to disappoint people?
2007-10-16 18:42:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well its a friend of mine and i was also wondering how do i help him become more comfortable talking about it?
2007-10-17 10:08:09 · update #1
The problem with any victim of abuse is that they have to alter themselves to fit whatever situation the abuser throws at them usually to try keep the peace, or not be further hurt. This then becomes a form of self denial or creates feelings or unworthiness because the subconscious message becomes "I am less important than the other person." This creates conflict (because on one level they know it's not true).
To be confident, strong and happy we need to be able to be ourselves and not fit into a mould that others want.
It can also make the person fearful of people, situations, life which leads to anxiety, resentments.
Eventually the person gets to a point where they can't do it any more and it starts to come out as rage, depression or some other abnormal behaviour.
I'd say sibling abuse is very damaging as it happens in the early years before the child has developed their own character and coping skills. I think it's hard to change behaviour patterns that are formed before the age of 8.
If it's happened or is happening to you I think it needs to come out into the open and be dealt with.
2007-10-16 20:36:30 · answer #1 · answered by flip 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sibling abuse of any kind (physical, sexual, emotional) is very hard to deal with because your siblings are supposed to love you no matter what. Any sort of abuse that leads to depression will make you have a hard time in a relationship because when your sibling hurts you and does not love you, the natural thing is to assume no one else will love you either. I struggle with that with my sister all the time. Anyone who has suffered sibling abuse to the point where it is jeopardizing other relationships needs to talk to a counselor. It might not involve getting on medications... sometimes juts talking to someone helps.
Good luck!
2007-10-16 19:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend is a victim of sibling abuse. Her older brother used to beat her up every time their mom left him to babysit her. He also criticized everything she did and called her names on top of that. My girlfriend never told her mom until she became an adult because she was so scared of him. This is the same kind of abuse that can stem from any relationship, whether it be a sibling, spouse or a parent.
2007-10-16 18:52:59 · answer #3 · answered by Cece 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bullies come from any number of places.
Parents - siblings - classmates - teachers - coaches..........
Victims of these bullies seem to have developed an internal belief system that says "so long as you are good enough..............and don't provoke or disappoint .........(the bully).....life will be OK. but, if (the bully) does
not get his way, all that is pleasant about my life will end".
2007-10-16 19:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by Hope 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In the eyes of the abuser or the abused?
2007-10-16 18:50:01 · answer #5 · answered by Teacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sibling is the closest person to your life. They become even more important than your parents. So if your sibling doesn't like you, you think no one else can.
2007-10-16 18:47:52 · answer #6 · answered by christigmc 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's an individual case by case basis.
2007-10-16 18:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sibling abuse? - i guess your meaning, abuse at the hands of a sibling?
I dont see the exclusive connection, what are your sources - like where did you read or hear this?
2007-10-16 18:46:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋