Have you ever been abused, mentally or physically?

Question

Don't want lots of details, just curious. I almost ended up through a sliding glass door, and I'm at fault.

Answer 1

I pray that not everyone has suffered physical abuse. Mentally though, we probably all, at least, feel like we have, since that is in the "eye of the beholder" and something that we judge by how we are made to feel. Obviously some instances are clear cut when it comes to this and some subjective. One person's mental abuse could be another's mainstay, I think. I'm positive my son has thought I mentally abused him by asking politely that he clean his room.

But Freedom, it concerns me that you feel you were at fault when it came to ending up through a sliding door. Whatever happened, you did not deserve that to happen to you. A true abuser has a way of making their victim feel responsible for their own abuse. How twisted is that! Take care of yourself Freedom, you deserve much better than a slam with a sliding door!

Answer 2

Not physically but emotionally and the effects for both is actually equal and lasts long term. The early part of life determines largely a person's fate in terms of personality, attachment, empathy, self esteem, ability to form close long lastin healthy relationships. And 90% of brain is form in first 4 years. 3 months of neglect in first 3 years will take many years to fix. The earlier the trauma the more dramatic the effect will be on the child. A child need to be given adequate care according to the stage the child is in. If proper care is not given or abuse occurs it disrupts the child's development. There are so many factors involved, whether people believe you, whether you get help, the duration, understanding of others that can affect the result of person's development after abuse. A less dramatic abuse can cause mega problem in long run if there is no understanding, compassion towards the person especially if the person is shamed into silence. With early intervention severe abuse can be made better. But if it happened during the first 4 years the person is likely to become a psychopath. All abused people should go on this website: www.alice-miller.com Abuse can cause mental illness.

Answer 3

Yes, I have been abused mentally and physically. After 26 years or being married to the abuser, I was divorced. Unfortunately, two children have sufferred the devastation of this divorce. They have a mother and father, but no family. They spend Thanksgiving and Christmas alone. There is no one to celebrate their birthdays. Their father is now dead, and I am left to feel the guilt.

Answer 4

Abused as a child, almost everyday. Still have scares on my back, arms and legs. Also mentally as well. My dad was very strict. I'm glad, and don't hold grudges, or hate or anything like that. I love my dad with all my heart. I'm not in trouble with the law, not on drugs, or alcohol, I've never stole anything, or robed anyone, and I have respect for everyone everywhere.

Answer 5

yes, my whole life til I was 18 and moved out on my birthday. My mom was the culprit~~~she was verbally and physically abusive and I went to high school with huge bruises all over my arms and it was the 70s when nobody got involved or asked questions. She's getting hers now~~~is dying s-l-o-w-l-y of myelodysplasia~~a rare kind of blood cancer that is gonna turn into leukemia shortly. She is weak, dependent on my Dad to get up out of a chair to go to the bathroom etc as her blood cells keep her weak. I can't really say I am all broken up about it. I feel for my 16yr old....that he hasn't seen his grandparents since he was 7yrs old but they are always "going camping" when we want to go see them. I won't even know when she dies....very sad and messed up.
Talk about dysfunctional families!

And YEP! she always tells us what a wonderful Mom she was to us....and we don't remember things right.....how odd.....3 of the 4 of us all have the same memories and my sis is 10 yrs different so she was raised an only child really.

Answer 6

When I was younger, my dad use to get quite angry after drinking too much, and the slightest thing wrong would result in a pretty severe spanking, but only on the rear end, never any punching or hitting.

Answer 7

emotionally, physically. - yup and yup.
Post this in Psychology and you would find out you have lots of company.
It sucks.
Do your best to get out of it.
Usually the abuser will blame you - that is the modus operandi of those types - and if you point it out, you will only put them in a rage usually.

Sorry that you had a crappy night, really.
No one should have to go through that.

Answer 8

Pretty much everything except physically, and the verbal abuse can really shatter your self-esteem.

Answer 9

And who hasn't been??? Everyone has suffered from some kind of abuse in their lives from about the time they start walking.

Answer 10

Yes, he had a temper he could not controll. I got my divorce. Thank God and Greyhound he's gone !