I'm so heartbroken I want to die!!?

Question

I'm 17 yrs old and my boyfriend of 2 years has left me =( I loved him so much I just want to die cause I don't want to live without him. I don't think I'll ever find someone like him again. He is my first love and I never been heartbroken before and I keep crying, I can't sleep and I can't eat. What can I do =(

Answer 1

It will pass. as it has done for many, what does not kill, makes you stronger.

Answer 2

Oh god... I'm so sorry. My girlfriend of a year and half left me 7 months ago, and I'm still nowhere near being even slightly recovered from what she did to me. Time is your only friend here. I remember when she left me, I could never get her off of my mind. Every minute, every hour of every day I Was thinking about her and how broken I was how, how much I missed her. But as the months went by, it got easier, barely though. Right now I am at the point where I have realized she was a ***** and I don't need her. But I still constantly think about her. You need some alone time, just some you by yourself time, to think things through, to cry, to pig out on your favorite foods, to just relax and do what you want, take it easy. Reconnect with friends, do something new. Join a gym, I did that, it takes up your time and allows you to feel better by releasing endorphins, and also because you know you look good haha. I know how badly this hurts and I wish I could take the pain away, but you need to go through this. Its a big life lesson and eye opener though; nothing stays the same. I dont mean to sound harsh, but you will someday see my point of view. Also, don't try and call him or talk to him asking him to take you back, he won't. He left you and you dont need him. You need to cut him out of your life and realize hes not coming back. Maybe in about 5 months you can start talking to him. But rightnow you need to foucus on getting your life back together. You can message me if you want to talk. Whiskey can also be a very good friend for you during this time as well. Best of luck to you<3

Answer 3

The truth is you'll probably never love this deep again. Which is probably good cause it means you'll never get hurt this much again either.

Time. Time will help the hurt lessen. Just try to put on a happy face during the day, do your job (even if that is just being a student), be nice to others, and cry a lot. Sometimes all you can do is let it hurt. But that has its purpose, we can't live in this world without pain and suffering. Suffering has a meaning but you have to find that meaning.

Answer 4

I understand and sympathize with your situation. Breaking up after 2 years of dating is rough at any age, and the fact that he was likely your first serious boyfriend probably makes it all the harder. However, look at it this way. You met him after being on the dating scene, what, 3-4 years or less? Think of how many more 4-year periods, and how many new people you'll meet after high school (bigger selection pool), that you have ahead of you to meet a new guy that not only equals this one but beats him in all aspects.

Lots of fish in the sea, girl. Don't miss the prime catch by pining forever over the one that got away. :)

Answer 5

Sweety, lift up your self confidence, you are a young, wonderful and vibrant person.

I've been through a lot too and much worst than that but I was able to make it. Look at the bright side, you are beautiful and there are others out there who much deserve your love. Pray my dear girl and keep your head up high.

What you can do right now is talk with your friends, write in a journal and transform yourself - eg have a massage, clean your room and closet, appreciate nature and life, spend time with your family.

Answer 6

There's really nothing you can do. Breakups are a part of life and you just have to know that there'll always be someone better down the line. Don't give up and more importantly, don't think that suicide's the answer. I think the cliche "time heals all wounds" holds true because you'll start to be able to function better and find yourself happier. For now, all you can do is cry it out. I find that satisfying.

Answer 7

And another ehug. I am not trying to be mean, but at your age what you feel is love truly isn't real "love". Believe me I thought more than once I "loved" this guy and man it hurt when we broke up, I cried and cried and thought my life was over, how could I live now??? Ya know what?? I survived and sometimes think back and ask myself "What were you thinking?" and smile. Things do get better, we make better choices, and we don't take it so "personally" if a relationship does not turn out to be "the one". Cheer up,, keep yourself busy with things that make you happy, be silly. It will pass.
I do understand what you're feeling, but pick ypurself up ... don't let em get ya down. Be tougjh.

Answer 8

Everything just takes time. You are still young and there are plenty of guys out there waiting for you. Everyone in life has to go through some point of moving on without there First Love.
You need to hang out with your friends and family more. this way it will help you keep your mind off him. Who knows maybe one day you guys will get back , but just not now. If it was meant to be then it will come back to you.

"A Wise Girl Kisses, But Doesn't Love, Listens But Doesn't Believe & Leaves Before She Is Left."

Answer 9

I am sure you have heard the saying that nobody ever really gets over their true love. So what ever you are feeling.. I am sure it is normal. Love can hurt more than anyone can possibly begin to describe.

You are so young. You will have a new love in life for sure! For now try and focus on things that do not involve a relationship... just let the time heal the pain.

Good luck... and I am so sorry.... and hey.. it is his loss he is not with you anyway. You are better off being with someone that wants you as much as you want him.

Answer 10

You can commisserate that you have joined the ranks of those who have gone through the same trauma. It is almost like the five-step grief sequence that has been advanced for those who have had a close relation or friend die. You just have to work your way through it. Find a good friend who can spare you a shoulder and go down to Friendly's and get a big banana split or something like that.

Answer 11

Women tend to be more emotional about love than men and they tend to throw all their feelings at a man in many cases over too short a period. Eg: Love at first sight.

You have to realize that you can't always have what you feel you want. And no matter how hard you try it may never happen. You have to step back and say just because I like him I can't expect him to feel the same about me just because I like him.

If you've approached a man and he didn't respond the way you wanted well then that's it. You have to move on and accept it.
Many women try to get "their man" by over flirting and using sex only to find out years later it was a big mistake.

People that try too hard to make things happen usually end up in divorce many years later because it was always only a one sided attraction bought on by too much pressure at the time.