Ok so I tried to break up with this girl because I think that I am afraid to hurt her in the future which I did, so then now every time she gets mad at me , I tried to do many things to calm her down especially with my own "sweet"side. What can I do to make it stable? It happens like once a week if not then some other weeks. If I try to break up with her then she will just make me feel guilty because she claims to "suicide". I've had bought alot of things she wanted, hang out with her friends instead of mine, and I gave almost everything up just for her. I even cutted some of the last classes I have in some days just for her. I was even patient enough to wait for her to get dressed while I waited outside in the cold. I am going crazy here people. Is there anyone willing to help with some advices? Thanks a bunch.
2007-10-16 18:08:53 · 3 answers · asked by xdersonxdamain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She doesn't need a relationship right now. What she needs is counseling or something because eveything she's doing and the way she's acting sound like the symptons of depression. She needs to concentrate on herself in getting it together. Try talking to her parents.
2007-10-16 18:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately being her slave and buying her everything she has ever wanted will never make her or you happy. if you genuinly dont want to be with her then you have to end it, she is using these comments about ending herself as a way to keep you but unfortunately you need to do what makes you happy.
a real relationship involves compromise on both parties and she obviosuly isnt willing to compromise so i would end it and find someone who will treat you as good as you treat them and make you happy.
just tell you your sorry but you arent in love with her anymore and you need to do what is best for you and her in the long run. let her know you cant see her anymore but you care and hopes she will take care of herself, if you are mates with her friends maybe call her best gf and let her know about her suicidal threats or even her parents, sibbilings so they can help her cope and just make sure she doesnt follow through. if she is really keen on you she will call, txt and try and see you all the time but if it were me i would end it and take some distance or you will never be free. it has to be concrete.
it will all be ok, you just have to be strong and stick to your guns, dont be guilted or bullied, do what you gotta do and walk away. good luck
2007-10-16 18:17:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship becomes more of a chore than it is pleasurable, then it is time to end it. Just tell her that you need to focus on school right now, and you are afraid that you just won't have enough time for her. She is not going to commit suicide. People that really do, never talk about it, they just do it.
2007-10-16 18:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋