she is very pretty, young, and even though i tell her i love the way she looks a million times, she still doesnt like her chest. she is like an A or maybe even a AA cup, but i dont like big breasted girls. and i tell her that and i always compliment her looks (and sometimes her chest too), but she STILL doesnt like the way she looks. she was never this self conscious until she was with me (her first bf). is there anything i can say or do to help her? ...i feel bad that she doesnt like the way she looks.
2007-10-16 18:07:37 · 24 answers · asked by David N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she's 15, and i told her she's gonna get bigger, but that i actually hope she wont get too much bigger... cause like i said, i prefer them smaller.
we havent done anything, she just tells me that she wants them to be bigger for me. and it hurts that shes so insecure about herself and i cant seem to do anything about it :(
2007-10-16 18:23:03 · update #1
You can't do anything to change the size of her breasts or her perception of them, so don't bother trying that. Instead, distract her from her boobie-woes by complimenting some other part of her that she might already be proud of (positive reinforcement). For example, next time she complains about her breast size, say, "I guess, but those beautiful eyes / luscious hips / million-dollar smile of yours more than makes up for it." :)
And, as others have said, humor is a great way to deflect the situation and make her realize how trivial it is in the long run. I know a couple where the girl is butt-less and the guy has a big rear, so he teases her that he stole hers. What could be hurtful is turned into something they can both laugh at.
2007-10-16 18:40:40 · answer #1 · answered by Baron Hausenpheffer 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe make a rude comment about a big breasted woman on a tv commercial or something (Sorry). Being big breasted isn't as fun as it sounds (not when you're natural anyway). Have her walk around with ten pounds on her chest for a week and see how fast she wants the double As back. But you can keep growing until your early twenties. Also if the women of her family are big breasted, there's a good chance hers will get bigger too.
2007-10-16 18:11:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your gf that 50% of the men in the USA actually prefer women with very small breasts. They are actually more youthful and healthy looking. I ought to know.
In South America and Europe the women do quite a bit of breast reductions.
Only in Hollywood and Porn do the women think the big is better.
It makes the Doctors in Berverly Hills a lot richer but it stops there. Ask your gf if she wants to be a beautiful lady or a dairy queen.
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2007-10-16 18:13:36 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her she looks beautiful. Keep telling her this. You can say that her breasts will grow and to give it some time. Once in a while, you can also tell her that her breasts are looking bigger and that she looks real hot. She'll probably like that, then kiss her and tell her that she is perfect. I don't know what else to say, best of luck!
2007-10-16 18:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by --- 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your a good bf for loving her the way she is. I have DD cup. My husband loves them, but I wish they were smaller. I guess we have the same problem just reversed! Good Luck with trying to convince her. Women are never satisfied with our selves, if it weren't her chest it would probably be something else she was unhappy with. You can't make her love her body she will have to do that on her own. All you can do is be supportive & keep telling her how beautiful she is!
2007-10-16 18:15:58 · answer #5 · answered by QTpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-18 09:40:32 · answer #6 · answered by caren 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to get a breast surgery..(pause) joking! joking! Sit her down tell her that you love her and explain to her that breast is all that make a woman...emphasize certain people like "Jessica Alba" show her that just because her boobs are small doesn't mean you will be a "trash" in life. Finally conclude by telling her that she is still young..give it time..who knows maybe her "breast " might shoot out..Maybe not...whichever way..tell her that you still love her.
2007-10-16 18:16:17 · answer #7 · answered by ayok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is she? If she's really young, then maybe she's still a bit insecure. Otherwise, she would revel in the fact that you find her attractive just the way she is.
2007-10-16 18:11:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women always want what they don't have and think that every man wants...............It's nice that you are so supportive and understanding. This is something that she must overcome on her own. It's how SHE sees herself and something that she is not happy with..............If it's that bad for her, she may consider her options, but that's for her to decide............and perhaps you two together. A woman who is not happy with one of her physical features can eventually damage her self-esteem and confidence.
2007-10-16 18:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by artutina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are unbelievably sweet! i wish for more guys like you.
however i dont think there is a way for you to get her out of this.
same with me, it dosent matter how many times or how many people will tell me im a beautiful girl, I just dont believe them. it's what i see that they dont see.
seems like people are blind to what we see on ourselves sometimes.
it's something that has to change in with her and has nothing to do with you, but keep up the good words!!!they help especially when its from your bf and maybe they will sink in one day.
2007-10-16 18:12:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋