sometimes i feel like my dad doesn't love me as much as he used to. i used to be REALLY close to my parents, they thought i was perfect and innocent and sweet, and they were so lucky to have me. but last year when i was 18, they found pics of me "with" my boyfriend. in a few weeks, mom went back to being the same, but my dad lost somthing. we're still close, but it's not the same. he used to see me doing somthing signature "lindsay" and get this look in his eyes and come over and playfully pat me on the head. i can't proove it, but i think now, every time he sees me do somthing cute, it reminds him that i'm NOT cute anymore. i don't feel what i did was wrong, he was my boyfriend and we we're just experimenting, but i DO feel like i lost a part of my dad. makes me sad :( anyone else out there relate?
2007-10-16 17:59:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didn't leave pics around. mom went on my computer when i was still logged into yahoo and accidently hit "yahoo pictures" , and i'm actually 19 going on 20 now.
2007-10-16 18:11:18 · update #1
your dad lost his 'little girl'.....and his trust in you...it's hard to get back and you may never get it back. Just love him and hope he always loves you in return...(don't take pictures and leave them for people to see...that was an idiot thing to do..) You aren't wrong, but you're growing up...parents have a hard time with that sometimes..
2007-10-16 18:05:48 · answer #1 · answered by Chrys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will always love you. However the new wife will naturally get closer to him. Remember though that a wife can not fufill a daughters role and vice versa, so you need not feel threatened. Being his daughter will always be a special position that not even a new wife can replace. You should try to talking with him a little and if he is aware of your concerns then he may be more sensitive towards you during the transition of an added family member. I have attempted to say this as diplomatically as I can and I hope you receive it that way.
2016-04-09 11:33:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how bad the situation is, you dad will love you forever - it's an unending love. Your dad is hurt, you are his little girl, and he just doesn't want to see that kind of behavior from the pair of you. Having photos of whatever the pair of you were engaging is hurtful to any parent.
Don't break the bond that you have with your parents...especially your dad. Tell him you love him with all your heart. Perhaps you and dad can go have dinner together, this way you can strenghten the relationship and speak frankly.
I know you'll friend a way...take care sweetie!
2007-10-16 18:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Wanna-be-Dear-Abby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still loves u just as much as he used to, he just REALLY found out that you are not his little girl anymore. Dads love their little girls but they do grow up. He will learn to relate to the woman you have become, but you both have some adjustments to make. He probably is worried about u and the choices u make. Not that they are wrong, Dads just wish their little girls would NOT grow up and that ANY male that looks at their little girl would dissolve or die even.
2007-10-16 18:08:53 · answer #4 · answered by Augie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Dad most likely always wanted to keep you as his little girl forever. I am sure that seeing pictures of you and your boyfriend took that little girl picture out of his head. Possibly forever. A lot of men love to look at pictures like that... but seeing his daughter! You have to try and imagine the shock....
Try not to let the way he is acting bother you.. hopefully things will return to normal eventually.. Once the shock wears off.
2007-10-16 18:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by think about that~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a dad, maybe I can relate to his side a little. Dad's love their little girls very much. When they find out they aren't their little girls anymore, they feel their own loss. When my daughter moved to another state (she's 20 BTW), to live with her boyfriend, I knew I had lost her (at least a part of her) I felt like she didn't need her daddy anymore, and this hurt. I know that she will always be my daughter and I love her as much as ever, and know she loves me, I can't help but feel that that little girl that needed her daddy to love and protect her is gone and isn't coming back. It saddens me to think this. Your dad loves you, but I know what he is feeling.
2007-10-16 18:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The relation between father & daughter is peculiar and in the purest of form psychologically, mentally & spiritually. This is a bond of love which never ever comes to surface, no declaration or show off. Never think that your Dad doesn't like or love you, he always does. He, by nature hides his feeling of love. If possible, show my this answer to him, he may or may not agree on the face of it.
2007-10-16 18:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by navind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad does not love you less. He is dealing with the fact that his baby is grown up. Very hard for a dad to let go of his princess. He is uncomfortable because he saw you naked in a sexual act and doesn't know how to deal with it. That is all. Men see pornography as something that turns them on and he saw you like that and is probably disgusted with himself. It probably keeps going through his mind that you know he saw it and feels dirty. Tell him you love him and give him that big giant hug you always have and it will go away. My stepson found pictures of me that I had taken for my exhusbands birthday (I found them in his room) we have never had the same relationship since. It is just uncomfortable. But I love him more now and more every day. NEVER less. just hug him and call him daddy!!!
2007-10-16 18:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jamie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A parent always loves their children
2007-10-16 18:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by g g 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's a stage ur father is passing through...he still sees himself as an overprotective father..and he still see u as his little girl...but the reality is that u r not..and he just cannot accept that his little girl has grown up so fast...
Give him time..he will eventually adjust.
2007-10-16 18:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by ayok 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋