One of my colleague is really mean to me.. she is very political and changes her behavior according to her need. She is put me on her bad side (I dont even know what issues she has with me). My other colleague wants me to let go and invite her to my place. I dont want to entertain mean people who play with peoples lives for their alterior motives and thats why dont want to inviter her. More I try to explain my situation in this scenario, worse I feel about myself. It has happened before that I dont get necessary support from this colleage friend; though I always stand by her. Our relationship (we are good friends) is strained because of this. What should I do?
2007-10-16 17:16:18 · 10 answers · asked by loveuall 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
You should continue to be polite to the person you don't get along with. You may, if you are alone with them, ask what it is that you did to offend them, so that you can fix it. If you don't get a straight answer, or if it's something so trivial it's silly, then forget all about it, there is nothing you can do. But if it's all a misunderstanding, you may be able to clear it all up.
If talking it out doesnt help, and you really did try, then tell that to your friend and explain that you just cant come to an understanding. Tell her that you do still want to be friends, but that you don't think you can get along with the first person. Hopefully they will understand. If they don't, there is not much more you can do.
2007-10-16 17:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone hates you or is mean to you it gives you an empty sickening gut feeling. It's funny no matter how old we get we are still capable of feeling the way we did in elementary school when a kid is rude in the lunch line. It's easy to say forgive and forget but that doesn't remove the pit in your stomach. I found my easy fix for this situation. I am am mother of two (a 4 month old and a 2 year old) so whenever I get into these situations I throw myself into playing with my kids and look at the big picture. I force myself to deal with the person one-on-one because I don't have time or energy to waste when I have a full plate already. Spend your angst on third world poverty and then look that person dead in the and smile because you don't have time to deal with sniveling fools when people are dying in Africa. This is totally random I know and I may be slightly crazy but smile and nod and know you are the better person for not being like them.
2007-10-17 00:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by bellyfat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this co worker is mean to you I would not spend time with her outside of work. If the other person cannot see your point of view it does not matter. You do not have to invite anyone into your home that you do not want there. I would not let the other person bully you into it either. Stand up for yourself and be firm. Do not feel bad about yourself for not wanting people around that treat you badly. You don't sound like good friends. If she were a good friend she would at least see your point of view and not want you to be uncomfortable.
2007-10-17 00:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not friends. Friends are nice. She is not nice. People who behave badly to friends and others need to be told. Politely tell her what her bad behaviors are without "attacking" her as a person. She probably has a personality disorder though and won't take it well. Good luck.
2007-10-17 00:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her why you don't like to be around that colleague and if she doesn't understand, maybe she's not as good of a friend as you thought.
2007-10-17 00:25:25 · answer #5 · answered by Lauren P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People like that do not know how to take responsibility for the way they act. You need to cut her off. Don't subject yourself to such rudeness, you only have one life, spend it with people who love you, support you and are therefore deserving of your company. Unless she learns to take responsibility for her rudeness, Cut her Off.
2007-10-17 00:32:20 · answer #6 · answered by Old Soul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this: If any of your friends are making your life suck, then are they really friends you would like to be with, no less friends at all?
2007-10-17 08:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by kingdoms_united_2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive and forgive and forgive and...
Of course, this is only good if you believe there is something to forgive, like a wrong done.
What does wrong mean, if we all came from a bubbling pond of primordial sludge?
Gypsy Priest
2007-10-17 00:24:49 · answer #8 · answered by Gypsy Priest 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this is YOUR party. invite who you want there.
when the other coworker has a party SHE can invite who she wants there.
do not let the mean one into your house if she's not welcome. it's YOUR HOUSE and YOU pay the bills!
2007-10-17 06:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by ohmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be friends with her
2014-02-11 18:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋