I don't want to hear "get counseling" I just want to hear whether anyone else does this and how they feel about it. ?? I don't know why, but I just feel so angry and bored if I'm not half drunk? I'm sure it's not brilliant. God forbid I get treated like Hunter Thompson, or W. Somerset Maugham, but I need to hear from someone who feels the same, or at least had at one time or another?
2007-10-16 16:41:12 · 17 answers · asked by Guinness 5 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Holy Captain Morgan! These are some fine answers indeed. Thank you very much... I mean, I feel great, look darn good, and I don't know... maybe I'm in denial, I am no dummy, I have a finger on my pulse, and I LOVE RUM! hmmmm. Yes, I admit to being a tad damaged psychologically, but are not we all? Coping~ Key.
2007-10-16 17:02:58 · update #1
How old is your daughter? 5? she's just started school so you're going through that transition from 24-7 mother of a infant/toddler to mother of a big girl. and you might have a little more free time to rethink you're own childhood which as you say had a few problems but, don't we all, true.
Nonetheless maybe seeing your daughter at this age has sparked some deep seated feelings that you, like most children suppressed at that age being ill equipped to resolve them emotionally and that could be coming up as this unexplainable anger. subconcious unresolved issues will put you in a holding pattern where you can't really settle in to anything like a pastime that would prevent boredom and hence you are bored. The main reason why people drink excessivly is to avoid feeling something that you believe instinctively will hurt you and childhood hurt or trauma is recorded in the body as unknown fear of being hurt. The childs mind can't process or understand the trauma so it stores it and you carry it with you and it causes all sorts of problems throughout your life that are hard to understand because youre not really aware of the source of anxiety. but it is very real.
Now the next part is to allow yourself to release it. And this means talking about it reliving traumatic experiences of your past and resolving them with an adult mind and adult coping skills. Some of these things that made you store anger as a child are completely forgotten as actual events at this point and all that remains of them is a gut feeling of angst. alot of the actual events were rewritten as something you could understand as a child and to dig up and get to the actual source of your pain requires a level of honesty with yourself that few of us are used to having.
It's hard to "fix" the past and release your little "demons" as I call them. I have done this by setting out on a search mission in which I spend hours a day meditating and talking (when someone who cares is available) out my fears and my childhood traumas until slowly I start getting answers and memories and revelations as to the cause of my feelings. I don't know if everyone can do this but therapy is not effective for me so that's how I do it. And its hard but I don't think drinking will help I'm sorry to say and it could easily hurt if you aren't very careful. My rule of thumb is never libate to feel better when you have a problem. Only as a conscious recreational enjoyment tool. If you're trying to stop feeling bad the answer is unfortunately to feel bad more and embrace your pain until it heals. I'm sorry you are going through this but at least its coming to the surface and you will heal eventually. The more you accept it and deal with it the faster you heal. Don't be afraid to indict your parents or siblings or someone close in your life because invariably the pain was caused by them but once you discover what they did then you can forgive them because they probably didn't know any better. But it's all part of healing.
Or you could just deal with it by drinking but if you're like me that is not good enough and you'll even enjoy the process of bettering your quality of life. In as much as I can being a e-friend, I love you and believe in you and that's not something I have a choice in so don't get all up in my sh!t about it. I'm sorry I just love you. So do with me as you will. Oh and Stacey's sitting right here and she say's she loves you too but I think she's being a pervert about it.
2007-10-17 00:42:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes,I used to do that all the time, and at one point I felt that it would be the best way to just off myself ,because I was to much of a pussy to eat lead. WRONG, the mental and physical pain that goes with alcohol is beyond belief and can really only be understood by someone who is and has dealt with addiction. like you I was angry all the time,bored,discontent,lonely in a crowded room and just flat out miserable.in short the booze stoped working.over the years I pissed away jobs that most people would kill for,hurt my family and destroyed relationships with some truely great people.I stoped growing as a person. I've been to several rehabs and detoxes. I can't knock rehabs and counseling because there is alot of information you should know if you are having a problem with addiction.However, the only thing that was ever any help is AA. I'm sure counseling is good for some ,but talking to people who have the same problem,the same feelings and issues is the only thing that works for me.
KEEP IN MIND ALCOHOL IS A DEPRESSANT . I certainly hope you haven't reached the point that I have in my addiction. BUT IF YOU CAN'T SEEM TO STOP OR IF YOU GET SICK WHEN YOU TRY.DON'T STOP ON YOUR OWN SEEK MEDICAL HELP(DETOX) ALCOHOL DETOX CAN KILL YOU.BE CARFUL. good luck. religion is for people who don't want to go to hell. AA is for people who have been there. I have been sober for over two years now.I have a great job,my family trusts me again,my friends actually want me around. I my life is far from perfect ,but i'm happy .
im me if you want to chat god luck.
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2007-10-16 17:38:44 · answer #2 · answered by digger 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I hope your not trying to kill yourself, we need your salty personality out her in YA land.
I am not much of a drinker myself but back in my younger days (way more than a few weeks ago) I was. In order to help yourself, you need to know/admit what you are angry about or why you are bored. I know you say you don't want to hear it, but you do need some sort of counseling. Not AA stuff necessarily, because you problem may not be that you drink, but what makes you drink.
Most people I know acting in the manner you describe cannot solve it without help of some kind. Maybe you have a close friend who can help, but find somebody to help soon.
2007-10-17 05:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by ghouly05 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a person who used to drink 24/7 almost, and when I nearly reached the "Pearly Gates" I had to quite, but it is still an on again battle.
Good Luck
2007-10-17 05:53:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is going on in your life that provokes you to do this? You are the only one who knows if you are suicidal. I've been there, many times in the past. Counseling didn't work for me. The only thing that helped me was having damn good friends.
2007-10-16 16:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by The Unconventional Desert Rat II 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dear, if you're not trolling, we have that in common.
Some people like to drink. I know I do. I enjoy consuming alcohol; I like the taste and I like the effect. I like to drink.
Even AA stats: if you want to drink, and can, that's your business.
It's when you want to quit drinking and can't, that you should see AA.
If you aren't harming yourself or anyone else, what's the big deal? Alot of people won't agree with my assessment, but who gives a rat's a.s.s? I like to have a few drinks, big deal. Isn't that better than going on some anti-depressant medication, or going half out of my mind with stress?
There's a reason alcohol has been around 2000 years or more. It's even in the Bible. Even Jesus drank.
Just my opinion, email me if you wanna discuss more. Meanwhile, check out moderndrunkardmagazine.com
Cheers.
2007-10-16 16:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Madame Morticia 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I'm drunk right now. just came from a bowling alley. My company had some firm party there, bowled 110. I bowl better drunk. Sometimes you need to remember, sometimes you need to forget. Right now, I'm having to concentrate to hit to right keys. it's ok Guin.Nothing to worry about. In the end, we're all just spirits passing through. Catch you on the other side hoem girl.
2007-10-16 17:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Goldmind 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It goes and comes. I can be drunk for a summer, then sober in the fall. I don't tell myself to quit drinking. That's bull. I just get tired of it, eventually and cut back a LOT. Also, I'm vain, so knowing that it will age me helps. Sure, I'll make myself a drink to make my shower, or vacuuming more interesting. So what?
2007-10-16 16:46:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lovey 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honey, if you are feeling angry and bored if you are not buzzed or drunk, you DO need counseling. You are border-lining on alcoholism and are on the Britney & Lindsay bus. Also not doing much good for your liver.
2007-10-16 16:44:36 · answer #9 · answered by nostalgia2007 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
this is personal advice, not medical advice
i used to be pretty much constantly suicidal. that was many years ago. i can only tell you what kept me from doing it
once you take that step, it is very final. you cannot undo it. so you have closed every door, permanently. and i like my doors open.
i think your feelings & what you are doing about them (i.e., drinking), are normal for many people. but you can have better. and there are things to look foreward to
2007-10-16 16:45:19 · answer #10 · answered by disgruntleddog 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋