Why does this happen?

Question

Ok, I grew up not really knowing my dad, so when I heard from him and decides to live with him I was happy for like a month or so, then I got really depressed and started cutting again, and then I decided to move back to my moms because of my step mom, but about a month after I moved back to my momsI was the same way...happy at first, then a month later depressed and cutting again...so..why can't I just stay happy.

Nothing has really happened to make me start again, I just got depressed again and started cutting and stuff again..anyone have any idean why this is happening? What can I do to just make it stop?? Thanks in advance!

But I seem to be happier for like a month or a little more after I move...then poof...it's gone (the happiness).

I am 19...I am hopefully gonne move out on my own soon. But maybe that will help having my own space??

I work atleast 50 hours a week, I am still at my mom's because I am trying to save up money to get a place of my own...when i first turned 18, pretty much the first 5 or 6 months I was in the mental hospital...and I am still getting back up on my feet...so I can't really move out on my own yet.

Answer 1

Why do you cut yourself?
I can only imagine possibilities, but can't give you a definite answer.
It could be a way of drowning out your emotions (you don't like what you are thinking about so you do something to distract yourself)
Or, it could be that you hate yourself because of something horrid that might have happened to you - sometimes a victim of abuse feels so cheap about himself or herself, that they despise themselves, and do things to express that.
Or, it could even be just plain bitterness, and you have to lash out at someone - and you are the closest person!
Those are 3 guesses, but even knowing why isn't the solution. I join my voice to others who have encouraged you to get therapy - and if the therapy doesn't work, find another therapist. But don't give up.
The longer you carry on doing this, the harder it will be to stop.
I suggest you really get a solution to this problem before you strike out on your own.
Do you know that God loves you and considers you to be a very valuable person? To such an extent that He gave His Son to die for you, so you could be His. You are very important to Him, and He wants to help you.
Get therapy, and at the same time, get to know Him.
God bless!

Answer 2

Cutting is scarey and very hard to stop once you have done it before. I know, i used to be a cutter. In fact, for as dumb as this may sound, i'm a 27 yr old mother of 2, married and here at the beginning of the year i had a slip. For me, what i do, is when i get like that, i write. You know that a journal can be the best therepist. Or it is for me. Has worked for years, but in jan. i didn't use my writing and that is what happened. But just cuz it works for me doesn't mean it will work for you. I'm not talking about writing stories and poems. I'm talking about writing your feelings. Letting out how you feel will help. Sometimes telling the ones around you doesn't work cuz it seems like they don't understand or feels like they don't care. Which if that is how you feel, doing that will not be helpful. That is why i suggest the writing it down. Then you can look back even a year from now and feel good about how much better you have gotten.
Also, don't feel like your different because you are ok for a month and then get depressed. I guess i'm curious if you have always been like this or if it is a new experience for you. If its new, a lot may have to do with the fact that you are 19. Are you still in school? Is there a reason the keeps you still at home? Many kids your age are off on there own and starting college and well, beginning the new chapter of being the "Real World" by now. Maybe that may have something to do with it. To me it sounds like you are as much of a free spirit as i was at your age. So much to do, what are you going to do and all that jazz i guess.....lol
At 19 i felt like a butterfly fighting to get out of my cacoon. And when i did, i felt i had the world at my finger tips. To me there was no limit to what i could do or become. Then i found out i was pregnant, so there went that, but i would have it no other way now.
You need to find your footing. No matter what it may be. Do you have a job? Even doing something you love to do will ease your mind. That may take time also to find what that is. For me it is music. To find the time to play now is hard, and i don't have my sax anymore. So when i get a chance i play the piano at my parents. Even listening to it. What is your favorite music? Listen to that. Or believe it or not, and you may hate classical, but some really does help. And i'm not saying you have to listen to Mozart or Bethoven, find your favorite, there is many to chose from, if that is your thing. Try taking a warm bath, and drink a nice warm cup of herbal tea. I love peppermint tea with a dash of milk and sugar. It calms my nerves and tummy. Drown yourself in a great book. Nothing that will make you feel like you do now but something that will take you off to a different time and place. Ok, don't laugh but i drown my self in a harry potter audiobook. Just got on the 6th one now. I also love Michael Crichton. He is wonderful.
But anywho's here i am writing a dang novel, and leaving you to read it. Sorry it got so long, but how do you write about these things in 2 words....lol
Good luck and i hope that some of this helped. Remember that you can do anything that you put your mind to, and that nothing should ever make you look down on yourself. No matter what it is.

Answer 3

Some time we cut or hurt ourselves as a way of dealing with abuse or pain. Physical pain can deaden or lessen emotional pain. Most people dont understand depression. How you can be happy one minute or sad the next. Your body is having high and low mood swings, which can be difficult to deal with.

I have suffered with depression for many years. I practically cut myself off from people and living. I finally seen a doctor who help me deal with many issues. Plus there are several medications that help alleviate chemical imbalances.

Depression is a disease that can happen to anyone. Dont cut or hurt yourself to drive away emotional problems. With friends, family, your doctor and prayer you can live a normal life. And if you dont have many friends (ones that understand what you are going through) I think everyone that answers your question will be honor to be called your friend.

Answer 4

deep inside you cant except what has happened with your parents where thwere not together that is why you feel depressed over this . give it time you still youg and always look at the good times you all had as a family even there not together but there there yet . and no stepmom or dad can fill there shows no matter what and please dont think that because there apart . that they dont still love you they do as for making this stop try talking to a minister and read your bible feel free to email me anytime if you would like to god bless i tuley mean that . my honest opion? ref< came from a home just like that myself...

Answer 5

Cutting is a way of avoiding feelings and emotions. When you first do something new, it is exciting and it occupies your mind. Once you have time to think, you must be thought blocking. Whatever it is, maybe you question whether your parents really love you...only you know...it is up to you to allow the thoughts and feelings to the surface so that you can deal with them. If it is too painful, DO NOT do it alone.

Answer 6

Pray to God continuously whilst attempting, as God is helping folks that aid themselves as an alternative than people who find themselves lazy. Lord Krisna stated in Bhagavad Gita, we ought to deliver out our works and resign the fruit of our movement. So we have got to preserve attempting and uncover pleasure in doing our paintings, whether or not or no longer we get the preferred outcome. We must no longer lose desire. Do your exceptional and go away the relaxation to God,it is going to all come proper a few day or night time.

Answer 7

cutting is not a wanting to die action, cutting is actually a cry for help. your depression stems from something you are holding on to and you are afraid to express it. Letting go or talking to someone you trust may help. You need to search deep within to find that one situation that is causing this depression. Living with mom or dad is not going to cure that cutting at yourself . depression sets in when you hold on to emotion like hurt, disappointment, rejection, shame or any of a multitude of feelings. They will become depressed in your soul and will cause you to react like this. Why punish yourself like this! You are a child of God, he created you with purpose,
he loves you and I'm sure family and others do too. I suggest counseling with a church pastor, start hanging around with positive christian people, you don"t mention your age but I assume you are a youth and today's youth are facing peer pressure and bad examples of who you should be, but one thing for sure God created you for who you are and loves you . please do not cut anymore it is just hurting you, you belong to Jesus and he cries for his children, seek counseling and look at yourself in the mirror, you are a reflection of your creator, he will give you purpose in life.

Answer 8

depression can come and go at anytime for no apparent reason and it has something to do with a chemical imbalance in your brain. anyway, talk to your doctor to see if you can get some medication to help you out

Answer 9

as we grow up,we come to see reality in a different light,the best thing to do is reflect(meditate)on your feelings and learn from them.feelings are subject neither to criticism nor judgement,only actions can be judged.as right or wrong.

Answer 10

It's not where you are that makes you unhappy. You are unhappy inside and you can't get away from that. I would suggest therapy.