rules. I am a good girl and rarely give them any slack. I've come across an opportunity in the city to work with a major magazine. However, i live in staten island. It's a difficult commute. She doesn't want me to do it. She never wants me to do anything. She is paranoid and suffers from mental disorders. I rarely go out on weekends with friends(to be honest, i only have 1 real friend)..because she doesn't let me. I don't know what to do anymore? Her paranoid behavior is driving me insane.
2007-10-16 16:21:55 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Go for the interview and LAND THAT JOB!
You can handle the commute for a little while.
If the static at home is too much, then see if you can crash with your one friend and in the meantime look around for a roommate situation you can afford.
For many people, their family is their first set of obstacles to overcome. You have to set yourself free.
If your mom is that bad, you need to call the United Way Agencies in your area for a referral for your mom to get some real help. Sounds like she needs to be in assisted care.
2007-10-16 16:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 26 married with 2 kids, have my own place and my mom still runs my life!! I'm not allowed to go to concerts, or out with friends for drinks......I'm a mother and should be home with the kids, which i agree in part. But come on already!! My point being, moms will always try to tell you what is right & what to do. Try to understand she is just looking out for your saftey and doesnt want anything to happen to you. You are 21, legal age now to do all....get yourself a place to live. You have to respect your moms wishes while you live under her roof...thats just how it goes (if you dont it will just create more tension) but if you really want this job start searching for a place to live closer to the job. You mom will deffinitly not like this decision, but as time goes on she will see how good your doing in the situation and start to back off a bit.
2007-10-17 01:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by MTE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling that you are from a culture that doesnt want or like change. It is time that you spread your wings and fly. If your mum suffers from what you say she does, then she needs serious help. You are 21 years old ; start acting like it. I say make a stand and start living your life before 21 becomes 42.You might live with your parents and abide by their rules, but sweetheart you are only human.
2007-10-16 23:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by eddie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Know you are feeling guilty, parents tend to do that to us. it sounds like you are the only child or the baby. do not let that job opportunity go, you will regret it. You can still love your mom and have a close relationship with her while still going after your dreams, maybe it is time to move out. but always maintain a good relationship with mom especially if she is having mental issues. we only get one mom in life. and blessings come when we honor our parents no matter how difficult they become, Good luck!!!
2007-10-17 00:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by need to move on 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell that you care about your mom. But you can't stop living your life. There is help out there for your mom and people that will help you. But you can't stop living for other people. What if some day you marry and want a family? Every one needs space to grow and learn. Go and have a good life.
2007-10-16 23:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by patches 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a great interview, get the job, move out and kindly ask your mother to find a therapist. It will be good for her and you as well.
Good luck girl. You deserve to be YOU!
2007-10-17 01:24:08 · answer #6 · answered by brasileirinha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find creative ways to communicate with your mom. Sometimes you may have to communicate without using verbiage. Take action to get what you want without causing conflict. Do for her what she tires or finds difficulty to do for herself, to leave the window open for opportunity to get some you time in to do what you want.
2007-10-17 00:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Pristina C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like youve got a good oppurtunity - if you dont take it, in 10 years time you may be typing this...
I am 31 years old and my mom still has dominion over me!..
2007-10-16 23:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by miserable old git 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take the job and move out. I know that area is always looking for roommates.
2007-10-17 00:26:26 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keyword your 21 time to move out and be an adult
2007-10-17 00:11:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jay Rock!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋