My Girlfriend and I have a 3 month old daughter, We are both 30. We weren`t plannning it to have a baby but we don`t regret it.She`s not working nor has health insurance, so we have many bills. I get paid decent at my job enough to cover bills but still have to budget weekly. She will not get off my back for 2 seconds, I help with the baby when I get home and only sleep 2-3 hours a night. I understand it is not easy to be a new mother and I know women go through emotional fazes around this time.
The problem is she won`t back off for a second without pounding me with constant nagging and it is getting to me.
I`ve tried to talk to her and she promises to lighten up , but it only lasts a day or so. She is also the type to say insulting things when she is angry.
2007-10-16 16:17:36 · 9 answers · asked by Ray M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It could be the pressure of the new baby so it might not be a personal thing. On your day off, offer to babysit the whole day (I know, I know...) but this might help your girlfriend lighten up. Taking care of the baby full time, even when you do not have a paying job, is a full time job in itself and it could get overwhelming. As the baby gets older, however, it would get easier.
2007-10-16 16:24:47 · answer #1 · answered by Samantha Jones 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make excuses for her if you have made her aware of the situation and there is no change insight. Both of you are being pulled in different directions which weighs down the stress on your shoulders. I cannot give advice in this area because I have never been where you are. All I can say is when-ever you are feeling like the nagging will make you explode. Leave the room.... leave the house. Take a spin around the block or run. Do not fire back at her with insulting comments. It will make you as low as she is. I wish the best for your family.
2007-10-16 23:26:59 · answer #2 · answered by sarahbelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what is she nagging about ?is it something your doing...then change what your doing.is she stuck in the house all day long..maybe she needs to get a job or hobby outside of the house,you know it gets pretty boring looking at 4 walls all the time,even the sanest person goes crazy.i know youre tired, but she may be tired too.is there any way you could take care of the baby and let her have a night out.or let a neighbor/friend take care of the baby ,and take your wife out for a romantic evening..doesnt have to be expensive.are you spending any time with her,you know something affectionate without leading to something else,try going up to her once in awhile and hug her and say you loveor her.surprise her by fixing dinner or do some laundry or other chores ,not for any particular reason ,just do it just because...is there something she really likes you to do for her...then do that.but be patient,sometimes we dont realize how bad we really sound,but understandably get upset when our husbands are not listening to us.just some thngs to think about :)
2007-10-16 23:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by k-rozz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby is only 3 months. Just ride it out for a little longer and things will change. Make sure you keep yourself calm.
She seems to have a short fuse, and pretty soon you will too. At that point, you'll start getting angry everytime she gets on you, even when its unfair.
2007-10-16 23:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by lay429 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, post-partum is a booger, but this is abuse.
She apparently isn't getting it when you are being tactful, so turn it around so she will understand you clearly.
Tell her to get OFF or get OUT.
If she doesn't like how you are providing for the family, she needs to get off dead center and get a job... part-time or otherwise.
If you have to, go to a friend's house to get some real sleep.
2007-10-16 23:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COULD IT BE POST PAR TUM DEPRESSION? WOMEN CAN DEFINITELY BE MOODY AROUND THEN. IT ALSO HELPS BOTH PARTNERS TO BE ABLE TO GET OUT OF THE HOUSE FOR SOME ADULT TIME, EVEN THO IT MAY BE DIFFICULT, BUT A PERSONS SANITY SHOULD BE VALUED TOO. I HAVE A 7,6,5 YEAR OLD, SO IMAGINE WHAT THAT WAS LIKE WHEN THEY WERE ALL YOUNGER...HAHA....I'M STILL HOLDING ONTO MY SANITY BY A THREAD. GOOD LUCK TO BOTH OF YOU.
2007-10-16 23:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by spitfirearies 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that she's aware of how the nagging bothers you, you should actually start to take care of some of the things she's nagging about.
2007-10-16 23:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lovey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it best to go your own way and pay your own bills.
2007-10-16 23:22:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does she swallow?
2013-12-10 15:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Frank 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋