I am going through a divorce with my husband. My husband is blackmailing me to come to a settlement on his terms. He has bleckmailed me every possible way includign brining a cop to my house and threatening to take the dog away on charges of me abusing the dog. ( I have single handedly brought up my dog like a baby for the last two years). When that dint healp, he started harassing everyone in my family includign trying to take away my sister's job, calling up and harrassing my parents, threatning me of any and evething (very smartly and cautiously within legal limits). The problem is that we own a business that he wants to take control of and cheat me with the money. Should i stay and fight and run for my sanity ?
2007-10-16 16:08:04 · 11 answers · asked by Romi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My attorneys ask me to fight with this pyshychopath to be able to make my future secure but i am at a stage of running away considering a new threat that comes my way everyday through my families
2007-10-16 16:30:10 · update #1
I have really good attorneys but the mental sress and traums seems to be too much to take. My family is 100% with me but I feel i am putting them through way too much harrassment. By the way, i got rid of him and his mom from the house. I am at peace with my baby labrador.
Now he is torturing me at work (we work together - aaahhh ) - very smartly. We are loosing more and more employees everyday and he is doing is all to devalue the business - that I started and nurtured and trained him to run for last 7 years. :-( Now i am being threatened to run away from it :-(
2007-10-16 16:35:20 · update #2
Stay and fight. Or trade your share in the business for his share in the house (granted they have the same value). And if he wants to play dirty you should do so too. And this is where some people like to start recording converstations on the phone.
Ways to make this stop: Block his number so he is not allowed to call your parents, if he persists, your parents should notify the police and file a complaint (which will go on his record) for harassment. You should also file a restraining order if you are able, so when the cops knock on the door they know there is more to the situation then just a potentional animal abuser, especially when the tip-off comes from the ex. And unless they can prove you abused the dog, especially when you explain to the cops that your in the middle of a divorce, they are a lot more understanding.
Try to catch him doing something illegal, get a tape on the phone, even phone records of the number of times HE has called YOU can be brought into court on grounds of harrassment.
Stick this out, it will get better. If he wants the company, hes gunna have to pay you well for it, or he can suffer. Just be strong. And BTW it is illegal for him to make fake complaints. If your sister's boss has been made aware of the situation... ask if he is willing to sign an affidaivt (a sworn statement telling his story with what happened and your ex trying to have your sister fired, its also administerable in court).
Take him for all he's got and dont look back!!
2007-10-16 16:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIGHT!
This abusive bully can not be allowed to take everything from you.
If you are part or whole owner, you need to get control over your business.
Talk to your attorneys and have them file a restraining order to keep him away from you, your dog and your family... he is way out of hand. An arrest would be a GOOD thing.
Get to the business over the weekend and have the locks changed so he will not have access, and call the employees to tell them what is going on... you may have to get them to stay home for a couple of days.
Move yourself and your dog to corporate housing for a little while just to minimize contact and give yourself some cushion.
2007-10-16 16:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
caller id is something your family should have, blocking his numbers is also a way for your family to stop his calls. Make a complaint to the local D.A.s office about the calls and then let them handle it.
You know you have done well with your pet so stop worrying. If you have not harmed the animal you are safe on that issue.
Have your family members notify their bosses about the trouble being caused, so they can be forewarned of the problem should he try to get another family member fired.
Stand and fight for what is yours, the business is half your so take what belongs to you. Get a lawyer and let them know what is going on and have the take care of the jerk. If you can not afford a lawyer call your local bar (lawyer) association and ask them for help they can give you the names of those in your area willing to help.
2007-10-16 16:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by desiree c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course your attorneys want you to fight. Otherwise they don't make any money. His number should be blocked from all the telephones in the family so he can't harass them. There should be laws that govern the splitting of the company. Stop acting like you give a darn about anything that was yours/his/ours during the marriage. I would have handed the dog over (and I am sure he would have handed it back). Don't let him see that you care a hoot.
2016-05-23 02:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you SHOULD get a lawyer or some form of legal representation...find out what rights you have as every state varies on marriage laws.keep a log and date everytime something happens,go into detail,that way if takes you into court,you can go to the date he is accusing you of,and bam you have your info right there of what happened.but you do need to get out of the house its obvious hes abusive and trying to manipilate you into staying by throwing guilt trips aka - quote - threatening to take the dog away on charges of me abusing the dog.by the way under any state law..harrasment and threaten there are no legal limits for that..it is what is harrasment and threaten and against the rules....basically dont stay with the jerk ,hes trying to control you and get a lawyer.
2007-10-16 16:23:17 · answer #5 · answered by k-rozz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't let him walk all over you. Fight for your rights. You have witnesses, and you have evidence. And plus, if you just run, he will use this tactic again on another woman, and I don't know about you, but I wouldn't be able to deal with the fact that I had enabled someone to do that.
You seem like a smart woman, and you should stand up to him and show him what he had married. Someone who knows what she is doing and won't give up on her rights.
2007-10-16 16:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You stay and fight!!!!! Do not run!!!! That is what he wants... Remain strong during this tough and stressful time... it will be well worth it! And do NOT settle! If he does not want to give you want you feel is right, then let the courts do their thing.
2007-10-16 16:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by LyndasCa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in a few ladies who have been through the grinder already. Have them humiliate him every time he comes near you.
2007-10-16 16:17:29 · answer #8 · answered by i_am_the_fig 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fight back. Sic a vicious attorney on him.
2007-10-16 16:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really hope that you have an attorney who can advise you.
2007-10-16 16:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋