anger problems?

Question

lately i have been getting so angry sooo easily, i dont know if i have an anger problem but all my friends say i do. u can say one thing to me and i will get sooo mad i feel like literally hurting that person, like i'll be on he verge too, its weird but im never like this, but i stopped smoking weed for like 2 weeks and i tried acid and ever since i did i get so upset at night that i feel like im going crazy cuz i get so depressed i feel like i have no point in life. so i plan it all out but the next morning im ok. i dont know what my problem is or what to do? is it cuz of my less smoking weed or is it cuz my mom died almost a year ago? im not sure but please respond

Answer 1

You are angry because u feel like u need to fill the void inside you, you need to have purpose, and this is normal. First of all u need to address the drug issue. Drugs will bring you up and down but they will never bring purpose to your heart and this purpose is what we all are looking for. Your mom dieing probably had some to do with this also cause she was probably very important to you.

But ask yourself this, what would your mom want for you if she were alive today? She would probably want you to be happy, healthy, in love with a nice guy and having meaning in your life.

You can do all of that but the first step is getting some therapy and then addressing the drug problem, also you have taken a huge step today by talking about your problem, so that huge:) . The fact that you feel guilty about wanting to hurt someone means you have a conscience and that is also a good thing:).

Just dont keep anything inside, its never bad to talk. Talking is what lets things out and shows your willing to let someone help you.

Answer 2

I want to say its from the loss of your mum. I lost my grandmother a few months ago and I had/ have a similar problem. When she was sick I would get so angry - livid - over the smallest things. (Granted ive been told I have angry issues, but it had gotten worse. i.eTurning off a fan would infuriate me , but I held it in)
Then when she died I would be ok during the day and unbearably sad at night crying for hours on end.

Try to find a way to get some closure. Talk to someone. If thats not your thing find whatever works for you. Personally, I'm writting a story to deal with it.

Things will get better
:)

Answer 3

See anger management, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 4. For grief related depression, go to http://www.mind.org.uk/ and type "grief in the taskbar, and enter. Call: (U.S.A.) 1800 445 4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email [e-mail] Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/grief.html and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com/ and http://messageboards.ivillage.com/ Other websites: http://www.griefnet.org/ and http://www.helpguide.org/ and http://www.mental-health-abc.com/ and http://www.counsellingforloss.com/article8.htm and http://www.boblivingstone.com/?q=node30 Understand that there are often several stages of grief.
The stages are:

Denial: The initial stage: "It can't be happening."
Anger: "Why ME? It's not fair?!" (either referring to God, oneself, or anybody perceived, rightly or wrongly, as "responsible")
Bargaining: "Just let me live to see my son graduate."
Depression: "I'm so sad, why bother with anything?"
Acceptance: "It's going to be OK."
Kübler-Ross originally applied these stages to any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This also includes the death of a loved one and divorce. Kübler-Ross also claimed these steps do not necessarily come in order, nor are they all experienced by all patients, though she stated a person will always experience at least two.

See www.amazon.com for books on the various stages. After a while, consider making a photoalbum/scrapbook and/or a shrine, in remembrance, and set aside one day per month on which to reflect. Many religious organisations offer counselling, or you may feel more comfortable with a therapist, to express your thoughts, and feelings. Journalling may help in this. If the depression continues, visit your doctor, and see depression treatments, at ezy-build, in section 2.
Suggested Resources on Grief and Mourning

Livingstone, B. (2002). Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager's Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, http://www.boblivingstone.com/.

Livingstone, B. (Planned August, 2007). The Body-Mind-Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise, Pegasus Books.

Simon, S, & Drantell, J. J. (1998). A Music I No Longer Heard: The Early Death of a Parent, Simon and Schuster.

Grollman, E. (1995). Living when a Loved One has Died, Beacon Press.

James, J. W. & Friedman, R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook, Collins.

Worden, J. W. (2001). Grief Counseling and Grief Therapy: A Handbook for the Mental Health Professional, Springer Publishing. Weed doesn't help, long term, (personal experience) and it takes some time to re-establish the biochemical pleasure pathways in the brain: the loss of those "feelgood" chemicals may well be contributing to your problem. Ensure you have plenty of things to fill the void created by its absence (I used free online Texas Holdem [don't play for $$$: HOUSE WINS, AND THERE ARE SHARKS!!!]: others may use Xbox, Wii, or many other things).

Answer 4

I am sorry to hear about your mom.I heard when we lose our mom or dad it can be a life changing time.Anger is very difficult to figure out ,I too have much anger and i am in counceling for it and also I was put on wellbutrin it seems to help.Also I to got clean and sober back in 1994 best thing I ever did but not alone ,through AA and MY LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST.If you not at the spiritual spot do not worry just find a good support group and stick with the winners.AA all the way.May God Bless you and keep you clean.Dave

Answer 5

It's normal to go through depression and get really bad tempered after you have stopped smoking marajuana. Stay off it and other drugs and after a few months your moods will start improve. Its just a natural withdrawal symtom. Drinking 8 glasses of water a day will help with the depression and will help your body return to normal quicker.

Marajuana itself can also make you depressed and quick to anger, so just keep off it, drink lots of water as stated above and if you really feel you need more help go see your doctor.

Don't take anti-depressants however unless you feel you really need them as a lot times they can make these things worse if you don't have a chemical imbalance to begin with.

Answer 6

You sound like you really need to talk to a professional, who can help u understand what u are going through. The weed, acid etc is just a crutch and doesn't solve the real problem tat is on your mind.. Please see someone who can really give u some good advice as to help you good luck

Answer 7

You need to see your doctor; this can be treated very easily, either with meds or therapy or both. If you don't have insurance there are free clinics that can help. You'll be amazed at how normal you'll feel.

Answer 8

Could be clinical depression.