Like it said, i feel like i'm not going anywhere. All i do is work, suft the net, make out, and party sometimes.. I have 2 years of college done. But i have no idea where i see myself in 5 or 10 years, let alone 6 months. does anybody have any ideas of how i could get some direction, or even just have a goal or two i could be working on while i'm trying to figure out where life is talking me? Any help is great. thanks. i'm getting kinda desperate...
2007-10-16 16:01:53 · 33 answers · asked by ~Hobo_Blood~ 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Is there anything in life you are passionate about (for example: animals, sports, cars.....). If so, try to do something related to one of your passions. Otherwise start looking up jobs now and see if any of them interest you. If they do, start looking toward going into that specific field.
2007-10-16 16:06:33 · answer #1 · answered by throw_strikes2006 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly don't smoke pot. It is one super-dobie de-motivator.
People your age are going through the biggest transition in life. Recognizing these feelings inside of yourself is very perceptive. The best way for someone to get their feet on the ground, is to see a psychologist. Start with a counselor at school even. It's a very good thing, and really will show your own self that you are a good caretaker.
Another thing that you can do, can practice, is to keep ALL of your agreements. Be where you have agreed to be on time... always. If you tell someone that you will have something done on Tuesday. Then have it done. If you are going to pick up someone at three, then be there. If you are going to fail keeping an agreement with someone, then let them know before the deadline. Doing this means that not only do you take yourself seriously, you also respect the other person's making an agreement with you. You respect them... and yourself.
I hope this helps :)
2007-10-16 16:16:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have "no ambition motivation goals". You are also 19.
Congratulations! This means you are a normal 19 year old. The only known cure is to age. Which will happen, whether you do anything or not.
On a more serious note, if you are experiencing fatigue, prolonged sadness, changes in weight, withdrawal from your friends, etc. etc., then you may be depressed and you should seek help.
And for Godssakes stay away from Army recruiters. They'll have you in Iraq in six months. You are exactly the sort of people they target.
2007-10-16 16:14:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not alone in feeling that you have no direction. That's why so many students get liberal arts degrees these days.
I'd speak to one of the careers advisors and counsellors at college for some ideas.
You need to become inspired and motivated. Start out by trying a few hobbies that may have interested you, and even trying some things that you might not have considered before. Start widening your horizons and getting out and meeting new people. you sound as though you are bored, too, and stuck in a rut.
2007-10-16 16:08:27 · answer #4 · answered by concerned neighbor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. When I was your age I had a direction and motivation and it caused me to rush through everything. I'm 22 now and I look back and I wish I had stopped to smell the roses and maybe party a little along the way.
Your direction will come. While there's still time, party a little and live life as it comes.
2007-10-16 16:09:30 · answer #5 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 19 and just got out of that rut myself! I've found that if you can find one thing (not even a goal. Just a hobby) that trully makes you happy, you can start building a list of goals (even if it changes ten times over, it's the fact that you HAVE a list). And remember, don't focus on the HUGE goals of "Where will I be in 5 years!?" Focus on something small. Example: You buy a video game. Set small goals weekly (or even daily) of where you'd like to be in that game/what level (MMORPGs are great for this) and try to reach it. :)
2007-10-16 16:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Tdragon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many have felt the same way you do. The best help I know of someone who felt the way you did was to see a therapist. Not because they (or you) were"crazy" but a therapist or counselor, psychologist can give you the undivided time to point you in the right direction. This is what I heard worked for someone in your same shoes. Alot of places will only charge what you can pay too. Look in the phone book under counselors. Psychologists and social workers.
2007-10-16 16:06:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should start from what you really like to become (except having party, surfing the net etc... which you usually do) i am talking about your dreams- job, house, car, or even dream wife to be with for the rest of your life? by then you will have the motivation to attain all your dreams, if you strive hard to have those.. because people obtain direction in life IF they have a TARGET and the target i am talking about are your DREAMS soooo i hope this will help you to set your goals and to have direction in life...
2007-10-16 16:12:46 · answer #8 · answered by AVALINE C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that sucks. I would first pick a major, business? engineering? sumthin that requires u to work and take it seriously. stop the partying....go out only once a week....force ur self. turn ur computer off and only use it after 10pm or when u need to work on an assignment. u need to get motivated or nobody will marry u cuz u wont have a job or money and if u dont work hard now....u will end up having to work ur whole life with some low pay job.....and then u can completely forget about the partying.
2007-10-16 16:06:22 · answer #9 · answered by Na la 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, what do you plan to do when you get out of college? If you have no idea, think of what you are interested in research careers that are in that field. If you have no idea what you want to do or what you like, start attending an activities on campus, talk to people, volunteer, etc. Find your passion. If you have a few majors/careers in mind, research what classes you need to take. Talk to your friends and especially your professors, they could have some valuble tips. Best of luck!
2007-10-16 16:09:45 · answer #10 · answered by bearofthesnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being too hard on yourself, at 19 with 2 years of college and working behind you, you are okay.
Take it easy, get a degree that offers job skills and have fun while you can.
It is not an easy age, but you will make some great memories.
2007-10-16 16:05:35 · answer #11 · answered by Joy M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋