my stepmom discovered the other day that i am not as innocent as i had led her to believe. My stepmom and i are really close, she came into my life when i was four and has been the only real mom that i have. then this year came around. I just turned 15 a few months ago. my stepmom was doing laundry when she found a note that i had written to my boyfriend. after reading this letter that was in NO WAY for her eyes, she went snooping through my room. well, she found alot of things that let her know that i have been sexually active for a bit. she found letters, e-mails, and pictures that my bf and i took as a joke (we NEVER thought that anyone would see them)
well, when i got home, she called me into her room, and told my older sister to take my younger siblings to the park. my stepmom had everything that she found lying on the bed. she demanded to know exactly what i had been doing and for how long. i didn't know what to tell her..to be continued
2007-10-16 15:39:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i told her that it was none of her damn business. she has never slapped me, b/c she says that she doesnt beleive in it, but she did right then. i was crying, and she was crying and we were both screaming at each other. by the time that it was all done, she knew that i have been having sex for six months, and that i didn't always use protection. She also found out that i skipped school twice last month. now i dont know what to do to gain her trust back. i know that she still loves me, at least i think she does, i just dont want her to me mad or disappointed in me forever. what do i do?
2007-10-16 15:43:49 · update #1
um ok.....................there comes a time for some parents ad it does come as a shock to find out when your child is sexualy active.she is hurt by finding this stuff......................i would tell her that you regret she found out this way...........and that it doesnt change the love and respect you have for her...........also tell her how hurt you are that she felt she had to go through your things...best to try and stay calm as you can when she is upset with you ...good luck
2007-10-16 15:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EDIT: OK so you ended up in a screaming match and you got smacked. What you need to do now is go up to her and say "I'm sorry for screaming, but I'm scared and embarassed. Can we talk, please? I could use your advice on how to handle things now."
original post:
It's time to have a grownup discussion with mom. You need her to take you to the clinic to be thoroughly checked for STDs and to get on birth control.
Then you need to understand the emotional, mental, and physical effects of what you are doing. What if you have a breakup? What if you get pregnant or get the crabs or herpes or HIV? What if your boyfriend decides to see other girls?
This is not a simple matter of getting naked. It's an adult action that you should seriously think about.
Above all, be honest with the stepmom about your feelings. She's been there and can help or understand.
2007-10-16 22:46:33 · answer #2 · answered by equal_opposites 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom no step here, is concerned about you. Do you know how HIV is contracted, she's worried about pregnancy, STD's the works. Old school, don't do in the dark what your ashamed of coming to light. You are 15, not the adult that you seem to think you are. Come clean and talk straight to her, You don't know what your getting into. You need guidance. You need straight talk, now is the time. If you think your grown enough to be sexually active, you need to be grown enough for straight talk.
2007-10-16 22:52:06 · answer #3 · answered by luvsmusiz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We went thru a similar situation with our daughter. So, speaking as a parent... NOTHING YOU EVER DO WILL MAKE HER STOP LOVING YOU. (Remember that.) She trusted you and you have broken that trust. She is mostly disappointed in you, combined with a little mad at you, and a little disappointment and mad at herself. She wants no harm to come to you, but you have brought these things on yourself. You have to gain her trust back. Don't ever lie to her again (unless it's about her surprise birthday gift). Come home when you say you will, or at curfew they give you. Keep up with your studies. Do your chores. Most of all, act responsible. Our daughter used to ask "Why do you treat me like a child?" Well, it was because she acted like one. So act like a responsible teen and you will be treated like one. But it will take a while. Good luck
2007-10-16 23:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sucks for you all i can say is do not lie anymore come clean and except anything seh tells you do not argue it will make it worse
2007-10-16 22:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by Corey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋