Recently, my step-son called to thank me for gifts I sent to his daughter. But shouldn't she have thanked me herself? Where's the joy in giving to someone who isn't considerate enought to acknowledge it? But the way she is 13 and she knows how to use the phone, she called me asking for these things, so couldn't she have called to say thank-you?
2007-10-16 14:48:21 · 9 answers · asked by flannelpajamas1 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The daughter should have phoned or better yet, sent a thank you note. However, she will never learn the proper way to acknowledge gifts if her father does it for her.
2007-10-16 19:33:19 · answer #1 · answered by Michael B - Prop. 8 Repealed! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are so right, dear one!! And I wouldn't let her get by with this either. I wouldn't scold her or embarrass her, but I would, when the time is right, I would have a little talk with her. I would say, 'I know you're young honey, but good manners will be your best friend all your life.' 'I was surprised that you didn't give me a call letting me know that you got my gifts and you liked them. You're daddy did, but those were your gifts - from me, and I would have liked to have heard from you. Do you understand?" Now, I've gotten you another gift - a gift of Thank You cards. The holidays are coming up and you're going to get a lot of gifts from a lot of friends and family. I'd like for you to take the time to write these notes of thanks to them - ok. If you need help sweetie, I'll help you, ok!"
Now I suggest that you buy some really 'unique' cute teen cards. Things that would interst her - not necessaryly you. Ha. Your little 13 year old is young and just getting into a world that is whirling around her, and she really isn't equiped to handle it all correctly. Her daddy thought he did the right thing - so, why wouldn't the daughter? Just put her under your wing and start teaching - have fun!! Have a day out! Get her nails done and buy the cards, stamps and address book! You'll have fun and she'll love you!!! What more could you ask?
2007-10-17 14:43:09 · answer #2 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could be very shy and felt very uncomfortable calling. Or sorry to say that she could just be rude.
If she was too shy I think a thank you note from the daughter would have been more appropriate than a call from her father. If she called you to ask for things it shows that she is a bit rude and not very shy. I would not buy anything for her next time unless you have a talk with her and explain the why her behavior was inappropriate. Some one has to teach her some manners.
2007-10-16 22:05:54 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♣♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she should have called herself. I would call her and ask how she liked the gifts and then maybe u could get ur thank u. Better late than never.
2007-10-16 21:53:32 · answer #4 · answered by kermit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your step-son should have told her to call you. If she called you to ask for these things, then there is no excuse why she can't call and thank you. If this is the only time she calls you when she wants things, I would stop giving.
2007-10-16 22:28:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sebastian 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she should have made the call herself or sent a handwritten note thanking you for the gifts. Her father is not teaching her appropriate ettiquette skills.
2007-10-16 21:56:51 · answer #6 · answered by sundsqk321@sbcglobal.net 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes by all means.... She and she alone should have not monly called but written a wonderful card with na note inside... She asked for these things. She must be a real spoiled bratt? ood luck Grant M in Pennsylvania
2007-10-17 14:38:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she should have thanked you, but it's not your place to teach her this, but rather the responsibility of her parents. So I think you should just enjoy your relationship with your granddaughter and not hold it over her head. As for the joy of giving, there is a lot of joy in giving without expectation of thanks. Just try giving anonymously to some people in need in your community and see how it makes you feel.
2007-10-16 22:02:16 · answer #8 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His daughter should have phoned or sent a thank you to you personally. Your stepson isn't helping her learn proper etiquette by filling in for her. Maybe you could suggest to him that in the future you would prefer her to send a thank you.
2007-10-16 21:53:17 · answer #9 · answered by dawnb 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋