What Am I Suppose To Do If I'm In Love With A Girl Who Has A Boyfriend?

Question

I'm in love with my best friend's sister, there has always been a flirty connection between us, but as long as I've been in love with her she has had a boyfriend. I can tell she likes me, I can tell by the way she acts when she is around me, and the way she is different around her boyfriend when I am around. I don't want to try and steal her from him, but what is the best thing to do if I really like her, and it seems like she really likes me?

"You should try not to be in love with someone who's not available. It's not healthy. Wait until you find someone you like more, or she ditches her boyfriend. You could always make a polite offer to her, don't think of it as 'stealing', or something to be ashamed of."

I think of it as stealing because over the past year and a half I have become friends with her boyfriend. I think him and my best friend (her brother) would both have a problem with me trying to move in on her while she is still with him.

"Just stick around her. But don't try to steal her away(but you already knew that). If you do that, things will turn bad--and she might get mad at you if her b/f breaks up w/ her over it all. so play it cool. Are you guys still in high school...if you are then the relashionship w/ her current b/f is not likely to last too long. But every relashionship is different. Anyways...be there for her when they break up. Then you too might be more likely to get together and no one can be mad at you!"

She and her boyfriend graduated from high school last spring, and now we are all in college. They have been togethor for almost a year now, and I've been waiting pretty much the whole time. It really sucks.

One thing I would like to add in from previous answers, she didn't start flirting with me while she was dating this guy. It goes back to when we were both younger, long before she had a boyfriend, and long before my friend would have been ok with me dating his little sister. I don't know if she has ever realized that her brother would be cool with us dating now.

"If she is strongly committed, she will let you know and there is nothing wrong with that."

My best friend, his sister, their younger brother, their parents, and her boyfriend all live in the same house. They started living together even before they started dating, it always seems like that adds complications to their future break up, and will keep them togethor longer than the 2 of them actually want to be together.

Answer 1

I think the best thing to do is talk to her about it. If she has feelings for you too she could break up with her boyfriend for you. Wait a month or so, then move in on her. It would probably be good to ask her ex and her brother. Good luck!!

Answer 2

The best girls are already taken, right? If she was really "into" her boyfriend, there most likely wouldn't be any flirting going on between you and her. There are a lot of girls who will keep a guy around for social and personal validation, not necessarily because she wants him. She may just be looking for something better and is not sure she has found it with you. If there is already a connection there between you and her, what are you waiting for? Find out what your best friend thinks about the situation. If he disagrees, state your case. If he is really your best friend, you have a pretty good chance. If you want to get what you want, you can't just sit around and wait for it to happen. "If it's meant to be, it will happen". While this may be popular belief, I got some news for ya. It only happens in the movies. Take what you want bro.
Don't act like her boyfriend before you are her boyfriend, otherwise why would she go for anything further.

Answer 3

You sound very very younger and would possibly not recognize extraordinary varieties of affection. The love your boyfriend has for you is entirely extraordinary than the affection he has for his mum and dad. I believe your truly query must be will he ALWAYS take your facet when you selected to face towards his mum and dad. There should not have to be a scan. If you like him and he loves then you definitely you'll desire him to be glad. Coming among him and his mum and dad isn't a well approach to keep a healthful courting.

Answer 4

BE BOLD!!! Chicks dig that. Go after her. Don't worry about breaking them up. It sounds like a high school thing and those relationships don't usually last anyway. Talk to her and let her know that you are really into her and she is making a mistake by being with that other guy. If nothing else she will dig all the attention. By the sound of it she likes you and would be willing to give you a shot, if you suck it up and be a man. If they break up then it wasn't ment to be.

Answer 5

Well first of all I would not call it love. But the fact she has a boyfriend should not be a deterant. If she is open to flirting with you, then assume she is open to looking for someone better than her boyfriend. Don't look at her boyfriend as a probelm, just as a fact.

If she is strongly committed, she will let you know and there is nothing wrong with that.

Answer 6

if her brother and your friend don't feel comfortable with you "stealing" her then you should probably just wait until she either breaks up with him or he breaks up with her, but if you really want her and she has a boyfriend you should be a vice-boyfriend, try to show her how good of a boyfriend you are, but don't get all freaky because you're going to scare her, you can try being nice to her, you know just try to be a gentleman around her.

Answer 7

get her boyfriend some new boots. concrete boots that is ;)

seriously tho, youve just gotta weigh it out. is the maybe kinda sorta chance of getting with her worth the maybe kinda sorta chance of screwing everything up between your friend and her bf. you could just come clean to her and see what she says, but honestly, i think if she was going to take it seriously she would have done something about it already. maybe she doesnt wanna screw things up friendshipwise.

just look at the worst case scenario and the best case scenario. if the best case scenario involves people still being mad at people, and the worst case scenario involved everyone being mad at you, then you really need to consider which is worth more.

Answer 8

well if you ask me i would say leave her alone it could be just friend ship and that is all. there are women who like to flirt also and it could be nothing. you could sit down with her and talke to her ask her find out if there is a chance you never know she may have cared the entire time it could be just try and communicate and talk is the best thing in cases like this.

Answer 9

Yea, just wait i have the same problem but the girl i like isn't technically going out with the guy she likes. it seems that i have an uncanny knack for falling for my close Friends. *sigh* not to dump my problems on you but yea, wait and see where it goes if she doesn't for a small amount of time ask her out. well i wish you luck! have fun out there!

Answer 10

omg...you're in college where there's lots of pretty girls to get to know...sure it'll be hard and u think i don't understand...but how long is long when ur waiting for that girl?...i say move on because it'll be her loss by the time she realizes she can't get with u...or...if u get a gf...u might just fall in love with her n marry her...but u should talk to her too...let her know how u feel before u get too serious with another girl........