I have been with her for 5 years, last friday she asked me to leave. She didnt give a reason really, we have been fighting a little the last week though. I have been going there but no answer, calling and no answer. I took all my clothes with me. Left all the furniture. Now I talk to here tonight and she said she will call me when she feels like it. What does that mean?.......I asked if I could come see her and she says she doesnt want me right now. WTF is this? Should I wait a month and let her find someone else or should I keep calling and knocking on her door?
2007-10-16 14:37:15 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That means she's cheating on you. Sorry to tell you, but its the truth.
2007-10-16 14:39:46 · answer #1 · answered by mukwonago53149 5 · 0⤊ 4⤋
She might just need some time to cool off since you've been fighting a lot recently. When my guy and I get into an argument, I always want to get away and cool down but he never wants to. It makes me feel very out-of-control with the situation and even more angry than I was about the fighting. We've had to develop a policy where I say the magic words and he backs off and I can chill out before going to him and resolving the situation calmly. I'm saying all that because she may be feeling like that. I would give her a few days to calm herself and let her feel like she's back in control of herself. Then, call her and leave a message saying you want to meet and talk, rationally at whatever local coffee shop. Anywhere neutral, at a specific time. Make it a day or two later and then show up. She'll show up too if she has any interest in working things out with you. Let her say her piece and acknowledge how she's been feeling. Once you've worked things out, you need to let her know that ignoring you like that is not a healthy or fair way to deal with a situation. The two of you should come up with ways to cope that you both agree with.
Good luck
2007-10-16 14:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by colley411 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is that you leave her alone for a while. She's feeling like she needs some space right now, and that there's more to the world than what she's seeing right now. She's getting fed up with you for a moment, but if you two have been together for five years, then I don't think you ought to worry incessantly.
I suggest you wait a while so she has time to miss you. If you keep knocking on her door on your bended knees, she's going to get really tired of you, and end the relationship (I don't think you want that). So give your girlfriend some space for sometime, and I'm next to positive that she'll start to miss you after a while and will want you back.
Important: Just remember, when she does want you back, acting lofty and hurt and untrusting will just completely turn her off. When she wants you back, either accept if you still want her without any pomp, or refuse if you don't think it's worth it.
Just remember that she needs her space right now. Don't bother her for a while. Call maybe like once every three to four weeks, but too often. She will want you back, but give her time.
2007-10-16 14:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by never you mind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just my opinion, but been tere done that, and when a woman says she wants to be alone right now,..that usually means she needs time to be by herself and think.
If the fighting and arguing were getting worse and name calling or threats were involved ( you did this..you did that...)
it very well seem that you both could use a break.
IMHO...I would back off a bit, give her some time to think about what she wants or needs. She may start missing you, and just let her know you respect her wishes, privacy, and are there for her if she would like to see you when shes ready.
Go out on a "date" and just sit and talk when the time is right.
Good luck to you both ~
Chyanneraine
2007-10-16 14:45:43 · answer #4 · answered by Chyanneraine 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I'd assume she's done with the relationship.
Do you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you? I've been there. I finally had to ask myself that question. Even if she did call you up & ask you to come back, would you trust her? Would you have that idea in the back of your head that she may want to leave again?
I know how some girls play games but there's a difference between arguing a little & the problems being so minor that you work thru them AND just not working out and it's best to part ways.
Sorry to hear about your dilemma. Things will get better. Hang in there. :)
2007-10-16 15:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by Robin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she's moved on and does not have the decency, or the maturity, to be honest with you. Don't wait to see what she will do. You can't make someone feel something. They feel it or they don't, and she has made her feelings, or lack thereof, clear. You need to respect yourself enough to just stay away. Keep yourself busy and spend time with friends and other activities. She may eventually find that she has made a mistake and want to try again with you, but don't wait for that. While she is figuring out what she wants, you might just find the person that is truly right for you--someone who respects you and is honest with you. You deserve better!! Show her that. Good luck !!
2007-10-16 14:46:49 · answer #6 · answered by uscitizen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
then call her when YOU feel like it...what's good for the goose is good for the gander..what she means is, she'll call you when it suits her and not until, so what you have to do is don't bother, let her call you then don't answer, she's treating you like sh!t, do not tolerate it...stand your ground and do not take the bait, if she don't want you then it's time to move on...lay her at her own game, NO don't wait another month, by the looks of things, it seems that she's got someone else, so let her go and get on with your own thing...
2007-10-16 14:43:38 · answer #7 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a man please. Stop trying to fall after her wherever she goes. If a girl ever told me she would call when she felt like it I would use some expletives and tell her to f off. And dont give me this 'But I love her' bs because she doesnt love you. Dont make a fool of yourself, if you dont want to get hurt then you have to be the one that can just walk away.
2007-10-16 14:58:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her alone, give her the space she will either realize what she lost or let you know that she doesnt want anything to do with you.... but if you keep calling and doing whatever then she will not be able to figure it out and things will just get worst and worst.... and i bet once you lay off she will wonder where in the hell you went....
2007-10-16 14:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would let her know how you feel. Just talk to her. But it sounds to me like you should probably just move non. she sounds like a crappy girl friends anyway (no offence). I wouldnt keep calling and knocking that will just make her more annoyed. Good luck!
2007-10-16 14:43:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wee-Wah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should give her a little space.. she may need some time to think things out. but dont give her too much time.. you need to keep reminding her that you will be there for her no matter what... give her a couple of weeks and then get together and talk about what is going on with your relationship... tell her how you really feel. good luck!
2007-10-16 14:41:55 · answer #11 · answered by layla 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋