ok he is a catholic and I am a jehovah witness, but i really do love him and i want to be with him but my religion requirement is to marry someone in my religion, and its so hard to let him him go cause he love me for me no matter what, he is even willing to have a personal study with a sevant of jehovah witness to be with me. so i kinda dumped him today because of my religion, but then he cried his heart to me and told me he wants to be with me and said he would do anything to be with me. so what do you think we should do about this relationship?
2007-10-16 14:30:40 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
While I am not Jehovah Witness, I am aware of the requirement that says you have to marry a man from your religion.The problem with this rule is that your heart does not always follow it as you have discovered.Please do not take my next statement as a put down of your religion or faith but only from the point of view of love: would you rather marry a man of your faith whom you did not love or a man ( like this guy ) whom you heart chose but who is of a different faith. Isn't GOD ,no matter your religion , a GOD of love, who wants us to love one another.Did Jesus ask what faith one belonged to before he loved them or did he just love them. If you truly love this guy the way you say he loves you ,don't lose him over this issue.Continue to love him even as you both try to find ways to bridge the gap between your respective faiths.And there is always a way.I do not believe that the GOD we all worship would punish you both because you fell in love since GOD is pure love.Go for it.
2007-10-16 14:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So he is willing to change his religion. Are you? Are you as willing to compromise? Or does he have to do it only your way? You indicated that "he was even willing to have a personal study with a servant of jehovah witness" to be with you so you dumped him! Well that sounds like a rational decision ....NOT! If he is willing to have a personal study (which seems to be a requirement of your religion) then why would you dump him? In other words, you dumped him because he is WILLING to be flexible enough to consider changing? What are you, nuts?
How old are you? This doesn't sound like much of a match. You are far too immature for him. He's willing to compromise. In fact he would "do anything" to be with you so you are using that fact against him like a whip. You are emotionally jerking him around. While that may satisfy your vanity and ego, it's hardly the basis for a mature, healthy relationship. If you really care about this boy, you'll treat him with courtesy and respect and leave him alone. It certainly doesn't sound as though you have any respect for him, let alone HIS religion! And there can be no love where there is no respect.
You have a huge amount of growing up to do.
2007-10-16 21:41:06 · answer #2 · answered by D 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're BOTH Christian so that means you have some common ground. You should research Catholicism to see what's similar between your sects of religion, and then decide if there really is too much of a difference to make things work. If he's willing to convert and is serious about it, I think that's also important, because it shows he's committed to you and willing to accommodate you. It may also show a genuine desire to be spiritually closer to you, which is one of the most important aspects of a relationship.
2007-10-16 21:38:57 · answer #3 · answered by ♛Qu€€n♛J€§§¡¢a♛™ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's willing to have a personal study thing, then I'm guessing he's worth being with. I mean, it really depends on how strongly you feel about your religion...but personally, I'd go with the love.
2007-10-16 21:35:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK dude dont let a religion stop love!! would u rather find ur soul mate outside of ur religion, or someone in ur religion that is going to look shabby because of this guy?? dont let ur mind be over ur heart! GOOD LUCK! ;)
2007-10-16 21:35:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, and I don't want to be rude, but I think that is very unfair to both of you.
If he is willing to accomodate to your needs, why are you dumping him?
What if you never meet anyone as special as him again?
If he will do anything to be with you, there isn't a reason to let him go.
You are making a big mistake.
2007-10-16 21:59:51 · answer #6 · answered by anon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can convert, that way you'll marry someone in your religion.
2007-10-16 21:38:07 · answer #7 · answered by RentHead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him another chance. It seemed like he wanted to see things through your eyes.
2007-10-16 21:34:06 · answer #8 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG I don't even know ur religion and I already hate it. Why did you dump him? Ur so stupid ur gonna regret it later.
2007-10-16 21:38:04 · answer #9 · answered by ▀▄▀▄▀ кαяίs ▄▀▄▀▄ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
LOVE > religion.
Get your priorities right girl.
Does your god want you to be miserable?
What a very FRACKED up god you have.
2007-10-16 21:38:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋