It seems like I'm judged as boring, nice, safe right from the beginning. Women, I have come to understand, don't take much time to get to know a man. The man has to be instant entertainment, and move quick, or she may lose interest. I'm just not that way. I'm cautious. The extent of my flirting is talking with a girl. I'm not all hard up for sex (most of the time). I am really nice. I don't like conflict (but will defend myself if pushed). I think highly of myself. I'm great looking (no arrogance intended). I have high expectations, and strong dreams. I play piano and sing. I feel that I'm particularly a good catch, except for maybe my present living situation, which will change. I'm not here to impress anyone, nor grovel at a beautiful girl's feet. I'm looking for mutual attraction, and a sweet, affection, long-term relationship.
2007-10-16 14:28:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where are all of the good girls; the deep ones, who are warm hearted?
2007-10-16 14:28:56 · update #1
PS.
I never go around saying I'm great looking. But I have a high opinion of myself. Didn't used to though. I must admit, that same as any pretty girl, I am out there liking my compliments and stares, but I'm not un-warm. I just need to be known on a more one on one basis perhaps.
2007-10-16 14:48:30 · update #2
give us a break! guys have had short attention spans for AEONS longer! hehe naww.. i think maybe you're looking to hard. its like when ur looking for something u really need and its never there unless you're not looking for it!!!
yes its annoying but i guess patience is the key. when you're out looking for a girl in hopes ull find one who will see you for this and that which you are, you have expectations within her.. before u get to know her subconciously you assume shes going to love everything you love about yourself and even though u dont get too comfortable, one part of you does.. the part where you're sure she would like.. but in doing that you dont see what SHE wants and alot of people overlook that too!! and in the end, we end up feeling judged or used and question what happened because of this.
i dont think its you thats the problem or even the girls you've met! i think its just a matter of timing. sometimes looking to hard gets you into a hole because u convince urself too much or worry about whats going to happen instead of living in the moment of the both of you and not just YOU.
dont worry.. =] we all do that sometimes. i used to think guys were ignorant because ONE particular guy i liked never noticed me even when i "hinted obvious things" and i thought i was pretty fly myself :P.. i gave up looking or trying and a year later, i found a guy who i've now been with for a year and he was nothing like i had imagine my guy to be and it was fabolous. the most fun about it was it was a total suprise.. unexpected and it was nice getting to know each other because i didnt expect him to say certain things to me or compliment certain things about me that i thought a guy would like (as with the OTHER guy i'd aimlessly tried!!)
i know how it feels but im sure you still have alot of time.. you're still young!!! dont take things TOO seriously.. just have fun and let anything come your way.. no barriers.. just let it come.. if it goes it goes, there's always better fish in the sea.
and think of it this way.. if you truly have all those qualities and a girl rejects you, its THEIR loss really.. not yours. they're missing out on the best someone can give them and you sound pretty fair on the basis of a good relationship! so if it happens again just tell yourself they really werent all that worth your time and someone who will give their time and affection to you will come along and they WILL be worth while so its worth the wait dont u think? =]
2007-10-16 14:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be patient.You just have not found the right girl.You are young, so you will eventually.However, going around saying that ' I know I am great looking ' is very off-putting, even if you are warm and kind, and affectionate.. the fact that you come across as being not so...humble about your appearance, might be why these girls do not stay with you long, and seem to loose interest very quickly......maybe you do lack insight into other people.?Even if someone is great looking it does not warm the opposite sex to them if they openly admit it.?I am sorry, but this would put me off you right away without even getting to know you.Sorry....P.S I think you are attractive, but not great looking...maybe you just have to high an opinion of yourself.?
2007-10-16 14:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain...but from the other side since I'm a girl. Sounds like you need to get to know different kinds of girls. Personally, I'd rather a guy who took his time over some guy who just wanted to move fast and have sex or whatever.
2007-10-16 14:35:53 · answer #3 · answered by Mud 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we are in the same boat..altho sometimes i wonder if guys just go for the anorexic blondes who dont kno anything from A to Z..its ridiculous
not all girls are like that.i like to get to kno the guy b4 nething major happens
2007-10-16 14:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by Em's 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. It depends whether you meet the right person or not.
2007-10-17 04:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by compendious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-10-17 01:55:11 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are just going to have to be paient and she will come to you
2007-10-16 15:15:41 · answer #7 · answered by rascalflattsfan12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-16 14:31:04 · answer #8 · answered by Jac 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋