I mean i love her with my whole heart. But i mean i hate that she has been with other dudes. i mean i have been wit other woman. but sheesh. what should i do not to worry.
2007-10-16 14:17:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I used to go through this too. It took me a long time, but what I finally learned is that if a woman is with you, it's because she likes you and wants to be with you. It's that simple. You don't need to worry about her past relationships, because that's what they were, past relationships.
Instead, you should be thinking, wow, she must really know what kind of guy she wants these days, and she's with me, so I'm that great guy she's been looking for! How lucky am I that I'm with this wonderful woman? All those other guys are unlucky bastards and I'm the one who's able to give her what she's looking for.
Seriously, don't worry about it. It'll just eat you up if you do and then that'll affect your great relationship. Remember, she's with YOU, NOW, and that's oh so right.
2007-10-16 14:24:58 · answer #1 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a good thing to remember: People change. After going through school and various relationships, people find out new things about themselves (and that's what dating is all about, is it not?), and learn and grow.
Sure she's been with other guys. You said you were with other girls in the past. Just remember that what's happened in the past is over and done with. Maybe if she hadn't been with other guys, she wouldn't know what she wants in a relationship (and that's just bad news for all).
The past is stuck in the past, and the future is too intangible a thing. Focus on the present and make it the best you can.
Best of luck!
2007-10-16 21:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by swrogueman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have reason to believe that she contracted an std from one of the previous guys you really should not worry about it. Frankly, it is not really any of your business what she did before you. If you think she may have an std ask her to get tested. Volunteer to go get tested with her. Then maybe she won't be offended.
2007-10-16 21:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she did before she met you is of no concern to you. You need only know that she is disease free. As long as she's faithful to you, let her past go, or you'll lose her.
2007-10-16 21:21:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lori E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the past in the past, and make your future a better place.
If she's with you now, then nothing else should matter. :)
2007-10-16 21:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by -Lynne 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let her find someone that truly cares for her --- if you did you would be thankful for her "past" as its made her the person she is today
2007-10-16 21:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That seems like a stupid double standard. Please grow up and act your age.
2007-10-16 21:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋