2007-10-16 13:41:04 · 14 answers · asked by Margaret B. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is bad. Any parent that has to resort to spanking with tools has lost control and has no idea how to effectively control his/her kids. And on a bare bottom no less. Definitely bad.
2007-10-16 14:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My mom always used the term a "good spanking" as one in which she paddled us with the back of a hairbrush. So, in her mind she considered it good. She was teaching us a lesson. Isn't that what parents are supposed to do?
Of course to me, and also my siblings, getting your bare hiney spanked with the hairbrush was not considered so good. We went to great lengths to not get spanked because it really hurt and we hated it. But sometimes spankings just couldn't be avoided.
Also, my dad spanked us once or twice with a belt, which was referred to as "the strap" and he would use the term "a good lickin' with the strap." Note the use of the adjective "good" again.
Bottom line (pun intended) is that the answer may depend upon which side of the paddle or belt you're on. As a kid I hated being on the receiving side - we all did. But I'm sure that my mom and dad thought that they were doing the right thing when they spanked us as in the aftermath of a spanking comments to others such as "it was for his own good" or "I taught him a good lesson with the hairbrush this afternoon" were self-assuring.
As an adult, well there are some of us who actually enjoy getting a "good" spanking now and then. So my final answer is that IF YOU'RE A KID IT'S BAD. But IF YOU'RE AN ADULT, THEN SPANKING CAN BE A GOOD THING, either giving or getting.
2007-10-17 10:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by Dan T 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Spank with your hand because paddle or belt really hurt.
2007-10-16 20:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by Cool Dogg Ringer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too dangerous to use objects to spank...with the world today, who knows what would happen if CPS found out you were to use a belt...
using your hand is best anyway...but the key to spanking is for the parent to be in control of emotions. if you feel like your emotions are running high, take a deep breath and calm down before you spank...if you are angry, you could smack harder than you meant to, and you never know...could hurt the child or turn into abuse.
2007-10-16 20:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by mkshny_4eva 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i spanked my daughter with a paddle until she was around ten started about seven.. before it was my hand.. then the paddle stop and the lectures and arguments started the grounding and cleaning everything out of her room except the bare necessities..
2007-10-20 18:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by julie m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I (and many others as children)was spanked with a belt by my (our)parents and a paddle by my(our) teachers.It helped to keep me in line and I die or become a maladjusted weirdo who shot people from a tower because of it, but I work and and pay my bills and am happy today.
2007-10-16 21:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was spanked with a leather belt, I will never use one on my children.
2007-10-20 09:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
>Is spanking with a paddle or belt good or bad?
BAD for the butt !!!
Maybe sometimes "good" for the kid, or even for the teen -- OUCH !!!
2007-10-20 11:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jim 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is always bad, the method, the instrument, the reason doesn't matter. It is an assault and should not happen.
2007-10-17 15:31:49 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn G 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
If you're going to spank, do it with your hand.
2007-10-16 20:44:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋