I messed around with a coworker who has been attracted to me for a long time, but never approached me about it because I am in a relationship. We have already determined that we are just friends with benefits and we messed around once (no sex) and he hasn't been returning my calls. I don't see him at work because he is assigned to another section for a couple of weeks, but I am not understanding why he isn't returning my calls. I have tried texting, email, and leaving a note on his car windsheild, but he hasn't bothered to answer back. I call using my cell phone and my home phone-I get no response. Help!
2007-10-16 13:19:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave it alone, it's getting a bit stalkerish! And read the book "He's just not that into you", because if he wanted to talk to you, he would either call or answer your calls. It's concerning that you're more worried about this guy than your own relationship.
2007-10-16 13:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has developed a conscience?
If you are in a relationship maybe he feels bad for helping you cheat on your b/f.Then again maybe he has found someone else.Do you realize that "friends with benefits" is nothing more than "disposable sex toy, use at will then flush when done"?
This is all ANY girl is to a guy who wants to be "friends with benefits" or vise versa.In the mean time when your b/f eventually finds out, will it bother you if he dumps you?How will HE feel?
Think about it.
2007-10-16 13:26:18 · answer #2 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this guy is having second thoughts or has perhaps found someone else himself. I would keep your distance. Perhaps the old phrase " absence makes the heart grow fonder" might ring a bell? Give him a chance to make the next move. sounds like you've done all you can. If you value the friendship at all, don't keep pursuing him, let him come to you when he's ready.
2007-10-16 13:27:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there's a pretty strong message that he's sending you. Don't you see it? He probably feels that he made a mistake messing around with you and now just wants you to go away.
2007-10-16 13:24:11 · answer #4 · answered by Eric 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i would have to say that maybe you came on a little strong for him, like leaving notes on his car and texting him a lot, he probably just doesnt have the balls to tell you that he might not be interested. in my opinion just dont worry about it anymore
2007-10-16 13:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by emilyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP everything you are doing and let it go and move on. He's either not interested or he's moved on. Just let it be. And if he does try calling you after all this time ignore him like he did you.
2007-10-16 13:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by ????? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in a relationship, why do you care so much about this "friend"? Because you're a cheat.
2007-10-16 13:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that you are the one in a relationship why should he get his feelings invloved with you?
2007-10-16 13:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by dmngoodwmn1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe now that he knows he can have it, he doesn't want it as much as he did before? Maybe he doesn't respect you anymore because now he knows that you are a cheater? maybe it freaked him out that you're stalking him now? let's see...maybe he's just not that into you.
2007-10-16 13:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by bustobabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well! probably he has someone that he love but just enjoy messing around with you, forget about him, he doesn't love you.when someone love someone they don't treat them like that.
2007-10-16 13:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by steph r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋