every time when we're in public it seems like he's extra affectionate. i don't mine him kissing me or him holding me but like practically fondling my breast, or picking me up so that i won't have a choice but to wrap my legs around him because hes so tall (6'5 and i'm 5'4) is like over the line in public don't you think? (This happens when we're in school, High school)
i've told him about it several times, but it's like he forgets, he'll stop for a couple of days then he's like right back to it.
so i was thinking about embarrassing him for him to get the picture, by grabbing his crotch in front of everyone. do you think this will be effect or more of a turn on?
2007-10-16 13:13:45 · 12 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha i really don't think that's a good idea lol. he needs to respect you and make that clear to him. he is probably more affectionate (maybe he doesn't even realize it or think this is the reason) because he wants to make sure everyone knows that your his girl and to keep other guys away from you. or he's just that kind of person
2007-10-16 13:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk about it. don't embarass him, it'll make him wonder if you still like him and it's not respectful. would you think it to be funny if he pulled your shirt over your breasts in class or something just to make a point to you? nope. and neither would he if you grab his crotch. if i were him, it would make me wonder what the f*ck is wrong with you.
it would be terribly disrespectful, everyone would laugh at him and stuff. do NOT mock your boyfriend like this in public. because if you do, yes he will probably be less affectionate when others are around, but chances are his love/trust for you will no longer be the same and he won't be affectionate anymore at all.
i know you're in high school, but this doesn't give you an "ok" to treat your guy as if you're some little child. if you want to do idiotic stuff like this you probably shouldn't have a boyfriend.
rather than persuing this "plan" of yours, talk to him. tell him that you have no problem kissing/hugging him in public but that you don't want him to touch your breasts because other people may see it and this makes you uncomfortable.
also be sure to tell him that you do like it when he's affectionate when you guys are alone.
but seriously, i'm not kidding: do not make him look like a total idiot. even when you are not someone's girlfriend it's just not the cool thing to do. try to handle the situation in a more adult way.
2007-10-16 13:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't retaliate against him. More than likely, he expresses his affection through touch, so this is why he can't keep his hands off you. A gentle approach would be best in this instance. Tell him that you love his touch, but you'd prefer it if he put the moves on you in private so you can fully enjoy each other without others watching.
In the meantime, be grateful that you have such an affectionate boyfriend. Many women would kill to have a guy like this. Additionally, at least he's trying to stop doing the things that bother you. This is more than what some others do.
2007-10-16 13:19:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't grab him. What you need is intervention from a third party. Talk to the school counselor. She'll smooth it over with him and at least make him feel like he can't do it whenever he wants.
Don't start caving to your guy now, he'll only pressure you for more. You stand up for yourself and don't be afraid to say no.
2007-10-16 13:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grabbing his crotch will probably make him angry, as well as embarrassed. It sounds like he's proud to have a girlfriend and is doing everything in his power to show people that you are "his" so to speak. If he forgets gentle remind him when you are out that it makes you uncomfortable and reposition yourself so that he's not groping you, take his hand and hold it rather then have it around your shoulders.
2007-10-16 13:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i don't think you would like to do that. because when people look at you then they will have doubt about you and u just embrassing yourself. just tell him to stop and if he don't then just walk away from him before he gets the chance to touch your breast again
2007-10-16 13:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Somala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he doesnt respect you or your feelings very much. let him know its not acceptable and you arent going to put up with him making you feel like a whore in public.
2007-10-16 13:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by trixie6336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten him. He's probably just a little over excited that his girlfriend's so purdy xD.
2007-10-16 13:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by r3alrage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do that because to a guy that is a turn on. JUST LET HIM KNOW THAT U FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE WHEN HE DOES THIS AND IF HE DOESNT STOP THEN YOU AND HIM SHOULD STOP SEEING EACH OTHER FOR AWHILE BECAUSE IT IS DISREPECTFUL TO YOU.
2007-10-16 13:22:45 · answer #9 · answered by paul s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pending on the guy, it could be a turn on.
2007-10-16 13:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋