So, there's three guys I like. Shane, Johnny, and Eric. We're going to ignore Johnny (because he's a senior, I'm a freshman. xD), and we're going to ignore Eric due to the fact he has a girlfriend. I think. Anyhow, let's focus on Shane. I don't really want an answer that simply states, "Move on", because I've tried that. ANYHOW. I've liked him since last year, about mid-year, and he basically told me he'd never go out with me. And it wasn't anything random, I did go up and ask him out myself. And then I forgot about it, or at least tried to...but being around Shane to much made it kind've hard to stop liking him. Over the summer, I never really stopped liking him, just kind've...dropped it a bit, because I didn't see him or heck, even talk to him. And now school's up again...and my feelings are back, as strong as ever. This is also probably one of the first guys I don't "obsess" over, meaning nobody really knows I like anyone, aside from my closest friends. Any ideas on how to deal?
2007-10-16 13:12:52 · 5 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't want love. o.o I'm asking more on how to get over him, or how to talk to him a bit more. I don't "love" him, I simply like him. I just happen to like him a lot. Don't get the two mixed up.
2007-10-16 13:22:24 · update #1
Not to mention I don't really focus on the large rejection. I mean, I've been rejected a good amount. I've only been accepted once, and that was...a disaster. The rejection part doesn't truely "hurt". No counceling needed. o.o
2007-10-16 13:24:00 · update #2
If I were obsessed, I believe I'd think about him every time of the day. I don't. I'm a straight 'A' student, and my friends and family overwhelm my focus. I don't think my lack of concentration on those areas are a problem, to tell you the truth.
2007-10-16 13:28:03 · update #3
And it's just that easy to find a guy I like. o.o I can't really find someone and like them automatically? And I can't simply stop liking someone. You don't think I haven't tried? Seriously. *dies* This wasn't the best idea in the world. -_-
2007-10-16 13:29:55 · update #4
Good god....I already barely see the guy. o.o Three times a day for less than a minute, at the most, really.
2007-10-16 14:33:31 · update #5
try to deal with ur emotions..tear tear...n-e-ways try to start to talk to him ask him y he wont...and act urself dont try to act sumone who ur not...this happend to me i didnt act who i was and i didnt get who i wanted..try ur best...
hope ull get a chance
GOOD LUCK
2007-10-16 13:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cutie_Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are choosing to pursue someone who has already stated that he would never go out with you.
Find someone else that is not a senior, does not have a girlfriend and has not stated that he will not go out with you.
Think about it, if a random guy likes you, and you are not interested in them and would never go out with them...would you change your mind?
You are obsessed over Shane, you are kidding yourself by saying the you are not.
Concentrate on your schoolwork, your friends and family and other activities that you have in your life and a new guy will show up that will be interested in you, close to your age, and without a girlfriend. Perfect.
2007-10-16 20:22:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get counseling.You cannot "MAKE" him love you.I am sorry I know it hurts to be rejected but you are going to HAVE to accept that fact he does NOT have the SAME feelings for you that you do him.I pray the LORD will comfort you and help you get over the hurt,otherwise it will destroy your life.
2007-10-16 20:18:44 · answer #3 · answered by Joe F 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find something to fill the space in your heart reserved for him like a different person or even a hobby of some sort. sometimes i fill my love void with hate.
2007-10-16 20:20:35 · answer #4 · answered by Skwisgaar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
limit your self how much time you are around him and find someone
2007-10-16 21:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋