last night my fiance came home, and told me he's boss is taking his 1 week off because my fiance didn't put someone in the army for 2 months and my wedding is this friday... and i already did all the invites,cathering, and city hall schedule... by the way my fiance is an army recruiter... im very upset and im pregnant & I'm stressing... help i need advice...
2007-10-16 13:07:53 · 13 answers · asked by EvoPandaPnay 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
oh by the way my wedding is up North California my fiance is station in soCal... and he had been asking his bossie sgt. for long as time ago n i had been waiting n he knew about me & him getting married... p.s. it is really hard to put someone in the army
2007-10-16 13:38:15 · update #1
I agree with the guy that answered first. See if your fiance can get the day of the wedding off. Maybe he can tell his boss and he'll let him off for it. You shouldn't have to rescedule your wedding because you fh didn't recruit enough people.
2007-10-16 13:17:36 · answer #1 · answered by tainted_obsession 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i assume it relies upon on your travelers. I, for my section, might have a perplexing time attending a marriage that starts at 5:00 on a Friday via fact i are not getting off artwork until eventually 5:00 and then i might could desire to circulate abode and alter in the previous going to the ceremony. some human beings would possibly no longer have the skill to/desire to take day off from artwork to attend a marriage. And if everyone desires to return and forth an hour or 2 to get to the marriage and that they artwork on Friday, it is going to reason issues. As on your buddies no longer having jobs, lots of them could and in the event that they only began (which may well be authentic in the event that they graduate from college in could or June), they could no longer have the skill to take off any time from artwork via fact that maximum companies have a coverage of ways long an worker desires to artwork there in the previous taking holiday (in many situations approximately six months). in case you're set on a Friday wedding ceremony, don't be upset if human beings can't make it. If it relatively is extremely significant to you that each and all and sundry your travelers attend, you may probable think of approximately doing a Saturday (or perhaps Sunday) wedding ceremony.
2016-10-07 01:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by torrez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't advise telling your fiance to tell his supervisor to kiss it and just go. Your wedding would be postponed for quite a long time because your fiance would subject himself to NJP, possibly lose a stripe, his job as recruiter, etc, etc.
However, his boss has a boss, so your hubby to be should work his chain of command. I'm sure something can be worked out but if not, hubby to be has no choice in the matter.
2007-10-16 14:28:19 · answer #3 · answered by Chris L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way the Military works. It isn't really fair, because right now many people do not want to enlist. Maybe he can cut a deal where he gets the one day off for the wedding, but then he has to work two weekends instead of just one to make up for not recruiting numbers. I know it sucks, but all of us in the Military have been screwed more than once.
2007-10-16 13:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand the question. Are you saying he's making the wedding impossible? Cancelling leave? He needs to go to his next higher commander and reverse this, or just tell his boss to kiss his ***, and if he wants to do anything about it he would then expose himself as a complete idiot. You don't take actions that cancel a persons wedding.
2007-10-16 13:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this will be your first taste of the military. What I would do if I was him is to bring it up to his supervisor and talk to him about letting him go for at least half the day to get married.
US Army 15 years
OIF 2003
2007-10-16 13:24:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats a tuff one. as far as invites goes, let everyone know its canceled but will still happen. cancel caterings and all of that. Stop stressing, its not good for you. your boyfirend will marry you and you will live very happy for a very long time with your family. something came up. its just getting set back a couple of weeks. remember its not the ammount of money spent but the ammount of passion in the cerimony.
2007-10-16 13:15:08 · answer #7 · answered by Para-diddle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave can be denied and/or yanked for ANY REASON.
with the Army being the most lenient with waivers and having the the loosest Quals with regards to age and ASVAB score, not being able to find one qualified individual in 2 months seems to be a bit of a stretch.
He should have tried harder.
2007-10-16 15:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best that i can tell you is to try and make the best of it...invite all your friends and family to show you how much they love you by having cousins pick up flowers, the moms make food, a friend who is a musician play during the ceremony, and a friend play music during the reception....and see if you can find a local reception hall that isn't booked or have it in a pretty backyard! i hope this helped...good luck!
2007-10-16 13:20:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as it sucks.....my wedding was rescheduled 3 times and finally we managed to sneak in a trip to the justice of the peace 4 months after our original date. its just a part of military life....but at least i wasnt disappointed when i was forced to give birth at an overseas hospital alone. your most likely gonna have to cancel everything.......maybe you can fly to california and go to the courthouse and get married??? he could possibly get the leave situation taken care of by using his chain of command, but doubtful they would get him home by friday if that is the case.
2007-10-17 02:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by CRmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋