how do I start a conversation with a girl I don't even know?

Question

Well how do I talk to them or message them on myspace, or communicate with them without being some creep, or without boring her. Is there any topic girls like to talk about and never get tired of? How can I make girls WANT to talk to me after I start a conversation with them? I'm desperate I need help!

Answer 1

call, clothes, but she'll think u're a psycho

Answer 2

There are two approaches, depending on her personality. I prefer the straight-in

"Hi, I am _____. I was browsing _____ when I came across your _____. I was also interested in _____ and ______. What do you think? "

The alternate is the razzle-dazzle, best characterized by the approach used by "Maverick" played by Tom Cruise in Top Gun on "Charlie" in the bar. While you can't exactly sing to her in an e-mail, you may do something like include a nice CSS styled message that says "I'd really like to get to know you!" :D Yes, there's a chance you'll come across as a creep as well. :D But some girls may feel flattered. Just don't ever recycle the message!

Answer 3

I had the same problem with a guy in my class! If you have a friend who's also friends with her, you should all start a conversation! If that's not possible, then just say, "Hey, what was the homework?" Or you could say "Hey! Your in my (blank) class, do you like that class?" Then she may start to talk to you more if you start with small talk! I hope I helped! Feel free to best answer me! =] xx

Answer 4

start by saying hi and go from there. If its on myspace, check to see if she has like 200 friends, if she does, she will accept you as hers and about once a week, send her a hello message. Nothing to creepy though.

If she is set to private or has about 20 friends, that means she's not looking for a date so you'll have to come up with something that she wont be able to resist.

Flatter her.

Answer 5

The best beginning for the conversation is, "Hi".
(I am sure you can master that!)

The second step is to introduce yourself, "Hi, I am Jim."
(Not too tricky, is it?)

Then it goes depending on circumstances.
The three most popular and foolproof conversation-starters are:

- Make a comment about the surroundings;
- Enquire about something unusual in their appearance;
- Ask for a comment from a woman's/man's point of view.

Let's talk about those conversation-starters in more detail.

1. Making a comment about the SURROUNDINGS.

This is the safest and universal conversation-starter. Wherever you are, something's always happening around you. There are people, or cars, or queues, or something else. Even if there is nothing happening, you can make a comment about that! Use a bit of humor in your comment and most of the time you will get a favorable answer.

For example:

- Hi, what a chilly/hot day today (on a hot day, say it's chilly, on a chilly day, say it's hot -- it's VERY funny). I see you are also shivering/sweating. By the way, my name is Jim. What is your name?
- Hi, you know, you look very pretty with these awesome roses as the backdrop. By the way, my name is Jim. What is your name?
- Hey, this queue doesn't seem to be moving, does it? Since we are going to spend the next few hours here together, I guess I should introduce myself: I am Jim. What is your name?

2. Enquiring about something unusual in their appearance.

This requires some skill but after a while you will be able to pick up something in an instant. It can be a tattoo, a piece of jewelry, a handbag, or even an unusual color. People don't buy things at random. They buy them and wear them because they LIKE them, or because they MEAN something to them. They have some pleasant emotion attached to it. If you mention this thing, you can tap into this pleasant emotion and they will consider your advances more favorably.

For example:

- Hi! I could not help but noticed this interesting ring. It isn't an engagement ring, is it? If it is, I will have to end my life in a monastery. And by the way, my name is Jim.
- Hi, I was looking at your earrings; they are exactly what I was looking for, as a present for my sister. Where did you get them? And by the way, my name is Jim.
- Hi, I could not help but noticed the book you are reading, “Men are from Mars, women are from Venus”. So, what do you think about it? And by the way, my name is Jim.

3. Asking for a comment from a woman's/man's point of view.

This is my favorite!
For some mysterious reason, we just LOVE rendering our opinion as a woman/man. This is such a successful conversation-starter; you can use it anywhere, on anyone. Even 90-year-old grannies will be happy to answer your enquiries.

For example:

- Hi! I am Jim. My friend and I were talking about what women value the most in men they date, and could not agree. Could you please help us out with a woman's opinion?
- Hi, I am Jill. My friend and I were talking about what men value the most in women they date, and could not agree. Could you please help us out with a man's opinion?
- Etc, etc.

It doesn't matter what you are asking about. The point is, we all understand that men and women think differently and we appreciate a thoughtful stranger who makes an effort to learn from the source.

That's it!

You see, it's not scary at all. Just go and try it - first on the people you don't care about, and then on the people you like. You will see that men and women alike generally respond very positively to a friendly stranger.

Start with the service personnel at the shops and cafes. They are PAID to be nice to you. Look them in the eyes and strike a conversation. You will see how easy it is.

Once you learn the skill of starting a conversation with strangers, your life is never going to be the same. You will be able to feel at home wherever you go - simply because you know how to talk to people you never met.

Answer 6

Dude, you are freaking out over nothing, you are obviously crushing over someone. Just bring yourself to talk to her, be yourself. If she's not interested you when you are being yourself, then it is not even worth it. Just be real, dont be a fake, thats is the biggest turn off for ANY girl. So my advice in a nutshell, take a deep breath, walk up to her, and say hi and be yourself, talk about what you like, learn what she likes, what she is into.

Answer 7

Start with a simple greeting and a open-ended question.. Open-Ending meaning that they can't answer it with just one word (No yes/no questions!), and if they take the time to talk to you I'd bring up the topics of music, sports, books, video games, hangout spots.. Don't go into religion or politics and don't gossip and you should do fine!

Answer 8

Say hi, and ask how they are, what's up, and that sort of thing. It'll make them feel comfortable. And it all depends on what the girl's into. If on her myspace it says she's into animals, talk about animals. Do that and you'll be fine.

Answer 9

I have a clipboard and I'm taking names....can I have yours?
also Im conducting a survey on how I might improve my chances of meeting and falling in love with someone on MYspace? any suggestions
Just copy and paste the above statement, its yours for free.

Answer 10

Chocolate! We all love chocolate! Seriously, just treat her with respect and LISTEN to what she talks about. Then continue the conversation. We get tired of men who do nothing but talk about themselves!

Answer 11

The best way to start a conversation with someone you don't know is to keep is simple. Just say Hello.