work. We have tried several times but it can't work. We are too different, we want different things out of life. We can't meet in the middle. I had a great time while it lasted..but it is over. I don't mean to sound selfish but it can't work. I told him we could try to be friends...he said it hurts to much. He calls me at least 2 times a day wanting to talk. Now he wants to do lunch. I am trying to prevent turning into a b----, but I do not know how to handle this situation. I thought I had it under control. I thought it was over. I want it to be over. Any suggestions?
2007-10-16 12:55:51 · 6 answers · asked by simplesimon 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like the only way to make it over is to be a b___h and cut it off completely. You two can be friends late once both of you have moved on completely. I've learned from experience that the months following a break up after a longterm, can't be "just friends." Someone always still has that routine of having someone avaliable to them to talk, share emotions, or just have someone there. After he's moved on either with another girl or even just having him be happy being single with friends and a job or anything, then that's when the friendship can start. As for now, you just need to stop talkign to him.
2007-10-16 13:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if there IS a total answer! But, basically you have to end all contact with him or he'll never go away.
Sometimes, almost nothing works until so much time has gone by and he finally gives up. It's hard for some people to give up on someone they love. I have the same problem....right now. :-(
2007-10-16 20:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by ol_skater_boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simplesimon, I regret to inform you, that these guys are right! You mustn't leave any "part of the hook in"! It just makes it harder on you!
Like someone told me one time,"no one dies of a broken heart"!
And the tools you need to help you are; tell him how you feel, and that he needs to be mature enough to accept that! Because the way he is pressuring you, is very immature, and he is relying on you not seeing that ! He just needs to come to a true reality!
Personally, it took me 9yrs., to come to my reality, but I finally did, and I feel a whole lot better about my situation!
2007-10-16 21:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by musicman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you gotta tell him it's over, you're moving on, he should to, your sure he's a good guy with lots to offer, you hope he meets somebody he has more in common with, stuff like that as long as it's sincere, you don't have to trash him in the process of getting on with your own life ...nobodywants to hurt anybody else, but people have to take some personal responsibility for getting over their hurts too, you aren't responsible for his pain anymore than he is for yours
2007-10-17 00:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by onecowboyjake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut it off. It will only make things complicated for you and prolong his pain.
2007-10-16 20:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by m k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what I did & file an R.O.
2007-10-16 20:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋