My sister is getting married in a few weeks. I'm the maid of honor but I'm also an extremely (and I mean EXTREMELY) broke college student with basically zero income. Whatever money that I DID save to give as a gift over the course of the year went towards last minute bridal shower expenses and gifts.
Would you be upset if your sister didn't get you a "gift" for your wedding? I've given hours of my time towards printing up menus, table numbers, cleaning picture frames, shopping for things, etc...but do you think she'll be hurt?
2007-10-16 12:02:02 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Unless your sister is very materialistic then no I don't think she will be hurt. Personally I would not be hurt in if you were my sister. I would appreciate all the work you have done and the fact that you are my maid of honor. I wouldn't stress about it!
You could also get her a nice card and maybe a homemade gift (if you are crafty.) I loved all the picture frames I got, maybe you can find an unfinished one they are pretty inexpensive and then decorate it. Or give her an IOU in the card, and then get them a nice 1st anniversary gift. I' sure whatever you can do they will appreciate it.
2007-10-16 12:11:05 · answer #1 · answered by Reba 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would understand that you are a college student.. (i was a broke college student once myself) and I would be extremely happy with everything that you have done for me to help me with this occasion. I would rather have your time than a gift. I know what goes into a wedding and it does take every spare minute you have and she should appreciate that fact. Consider your sisters personality, i'm sure you know her better than anyone. Is she materialistic and just wants the gifts? Or she a thoughtful person and recognizes the effort you are putting out for her. I think you are the only one that can answer that.
2007-10-16 12:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married next year and my sister is my maid of honor. Even though my sister is not a student, she's having a financial problem. When she got married, I was really poor too but I managed to give her 500 bucks. however, I don't expect her to give me any gifts. I don't expect her pay for anything since I am doing a lot better now. I am planning on to pay for everything for my sister including the dress, flight, hotel, etc..and only thing I asked her to do was stand right next to me when I say 'I do' to the man I love. That's only thing I care about, not what kind of gifts I get from her.
2007-10-16 17:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the exact same boat when my sister got married. I was upfront and told her that way she wouldn't be wondering why I didn't get her a present. I ended up getting her a present 6months later (nothing big, just a $25 item off the registry). You have a year to give a gift by etiquette standers. Plus, one of my brides maids was in a PhD program, and she didn't get me a present until 8 months after my wedding. Honestly a nice bride won't care. If someone is going to be upset when you don't make a lot of money, and you've put a lot of money into their wedding already, then they aren't a nice person. Also, you can ask your parents to put your name on their card/present too.
2007-10-16 12:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by klm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not be hurt (and I have 4 sisters!). You HAVE given her gifts....just in a different form...as in TIME printing up menus, table numbers, etc. All the things you mentioned.
I am sure your sister knows how broke a college student is. Buy her a nice card that says everything you want to say. I'm sure she will understand!
2007-10-16 12:23:20 · answer #5 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why she'd be hurt if she's aware of the situation (which I would assume she is since she's your sister). The fact that you have put your heart into being there for her and helping plan the wedding and iron out the details should be gift enough as a sister. I'm sure she will understand and appreciate you for what you sacrificed to help make her life easier versus what you gave her on a monetary level.
2007-10-16 12:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by Miss C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she knows your circumstances. She asked you to be her maid of honor because she wants you to be a part of this most joyous day, not because of whatever gift you'll give her. Don't just ignore the gift, though: write her a nice card, telling her how happy you are for her, and how happy you are to be a part of this wonderful ocassion. When you give it to her, tell her that you wish it could be a fancy gift, but that your good wishes and good intentions come from the heart. She'll understand.
2007-10-16 12:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm getting married in about a months time and all of my sisters are in my wedding. None of them, however, have the funds to get me a wedding gift, but thats not what matters. She is your sister and she loves you regardless if you get her a wedding gift. In fact she is probably more grateful that you have been helping her through this stressful time. So i wouldnt worry.
2007-10-16 12:19:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know your sister, but you two seem very close. The best thing in this case is absolute honesty. tell her your financial situation and by letting her know for sure why you cant afford a wedding gift she wont be in a position to be hurt. Good luck.
2007-10-16 23:29:08 · answer #9 · answered by Jeffrey P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister was/is in a similar situation and she didn't give us a gift. I could care less, she was part of our day and what she did for me and our wedding day was more important than any gift - and meant more. She keeps saying she'll get us a gift, it doesn't really matter, her being part of it meant more.
2007-10-17 03:24:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋