I used to have a boyfriend but he was a drunk and verbally abuses me. But he's also really sweet and romantic and amazing. In my mind I'm always like, "I HATE YOU!" but then when I think about how uneasy his life really is, I always feel bad. He used to tell me he loves me. Now he left me and fell in love with someone else, and it used to make me cry so much. Help?
2007-10-16 11:52:07 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha thanks everyone, you're all really supportive. it's been like almost 2 years since he left me, and I'm strating to forget him, but i still remember the pain, you know? I'm currently looking for a good college, so... yeah, I'm pretty much moving on with my life, just sorta picking at the scabs of my old wounds, you know what I'm saying?
2007-10-16 12:02:22 · update #1
Hello! He never love you. A person does not abuse the one they love. Get over him. You never loved him either. You loved the fact to try to change him. He's probably abusing his so call new love. Find some one that you can truly love and love you. :--#)
2007-10-16 11:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a drunk and he verbally abuses you... that should be enough, if he's fallen in love with someone else that is a good thing, let him be someone elses problem. Having an "uneasy life" is no excuse to abuse another person, if you honestly believe you deserve to be abused the by alll means you should really miss him, if not forget about him and move on with your life..find someone that will treat you with a little respect and not use his hard life as an excuse to abuse you
2007-10-16 11:57:50 · answer #2 · answered by mrharderson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just think about how it would be if you were still with him and he did this to you.
he sounds like a complete loser, and you don't need that for your sanity. right now, it seems like the worst decision you made, but in reality, you saved yourself from things escalating to bigger irreversible things. THANK GOD he wasn't physically abusive.
surround yourself with people that care about you and know what you were going thru. get those built up feelings about him out in the air for others to hear, and take the advice that comes as a slap in the face. it may not be what you want to hear, but its the best way to get him out your mind.
you have to convince yourself that this was a lifesaving experience and now you know what the signs are, so when the next one that comes along starts showing signs, "head for the hills" early. get the thought out your head that theres a chance of yall getting back together, and laugh to yourself that there is someone right now that's about to experience the same thing you did.
good luck and stay strong mama.......;o)
2007-10-16 12:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ebony da *Dimepiece* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're better off! Don't let some silly guy get to you. That's what happened to me and after like 2 years im over him. He has problems and if you're with him he'll do it again. It's just the fact you want to help him and that's why you want to be with him. What to do then? Get a new boyfriend and soon you'll be over that one with all the amazing things this one does for you.
2007-10-16 11:56:01 · answer #4 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not love. If you want to froget him concentrate on the negatives until you get mad at him. You'll hate him for a wile and then you'll get tired of that and then he'll be gon e from you're mind in a what that he won't be attractive.
Have fun. Date. go out and forget keep your mind off of him as much as possible because a guy like that isn't really worth it.
2007-10-16 11:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by Nana Medina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do better, guys like that will never change until they hit their lowest and to do that everyone needs to leave them, in the end you would be pregnant and would break up anyways, so its best you focus on something else, like work alot of go shopping, hang out with friends, write a story about your realtionship, or fall in love with someone else. I was in the same thing except it was drugs, no im so glad I left him.
2007-10-16 11:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by miakista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
forget him that's how they all are they treat you like a princesses and then step on you like an ant. its not worth the abuse! you can find a way better guy than that. you have to become strong for your own sake because if you don't get over it then he still has control over you and you're giving him you indapendance. don't think about it please because when and if he brakes up with that other girl he's going to come back for you and the whole story will start over and you're back to the begining. just tell yourself you deserve better and move on with your life. BE HAPPY! ^_^
2007-10-16 12:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by karinacrimson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I tink you should move on with your life. He has, so why dont you. Surley you can find a guy who will be good to you and treat you the way you deserver to be treated. Someone like that is just a looser. So forget him. There are other fish in the sea.
2007-10-16 11:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by adriane z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fortunately time heals all wounds, and this may not work for you but it works for me. I ask myself don't you deserve someon that is as wonderful as you are. Ilove myself way too much to settle for less and I can't possibly love someone else in a healthy way unless I know and love myself more!
2007-10-16 11:57:48 · answer #9 · answered by youngphilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u mean, but u need to decide whats best for u, whos gonna treat u right and respect u.Maybe u should talk 2 him and try 2 get sum closure.
2007-10-16 11:56:22 · answer #10 · answered by mschantell07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋