Jesus said forgive one another?

Question

I am new here and I have asked 2 questions, One was deleted and other is about my life, see link below

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The other was where I admitted I was an alcoholic and have been sober for 18 months, I have been in rehab for the 2 years and just got out, I became a Christian, love God and now I am on the straight and narrow thanks to Jesus, this question was deleted

I know what I did was wrong and I will pay for that for the rest of my life, some people lashed out at me and called me a murderer

Jesus forgave me why can't my fellow Christians?

Trooper & I received an email saying my question was deleted

Answer 1

I also lost my question when I was sticking up for you, don't take it to heart, we forgive you and if you need someone to talk to email me, I will always be there for you

Answer 2

Part of maturing in spiritual growth is the painful realization that God is not going to wave a magic miracle and make the consequences of your past actions disappear. You have to move forward from where you are.

Forgiveness is not something you can make somebody else do. They have to work that out in their own hearts and minds. All you can do is make the effort to reach out - send cards for birthdays and all that just as any mother and grandmother would, etc. Write a letter saying that you understand their anger and that when they are ready you are willing.

That is all you can do. While obviously you "want" to have a relationship with your kids and grandkids, what you "want," regrettably, is not the criteria for how the world works.

Painfully, we must deal with the real world consequences of our past mistakes - and the ripples spread out. While you are waiting for them to reach a spiritual maturity they yet lack, you are going to have to build a new life that can have room for them later but doesn't depend on them now. You can do this through your congregation, through employment, through your alcohol support group, and through volunteering for charities, etc.

Hard to hear, I know. But straightforward advice is what you need, not wishful thinking. I wish you well.

Answer 3

Hi Candi
the big difference between you and me is I was lucky, there have been time that I was not fit to drive either,
the difference is that I never had an accident.
granted that was several years ago, and thank God he took all desire for Alcohol from me when I turned my life over to Him.
and we are not the only ones that have been out there with too much to drink.
all we can do is start over, and take it one day at a time. be the best that we can be and pray that thing will work out.
if you need to talk, or need prayer feel free to contact me,
my mail box is open. and I will never condemn you.
george

Answer 4

Forgiveness is an extremely humbling experience. It takes courage, maturity and an unselfish attitude. That's a lot to expect from most people. Know that God has forgiven you. That's a great start.

I have no answers for you. God does. Yours is one of those burdens that needs to be given to God. He will find a way where there is no way. He is faithful and will give you the desires of your heart if it is in accord with His will. It's time to pray.

Answer 5

thats the only thing that matters is that Yeshua died for you and forgives when you ask for it. what the rest of the world thinks doesnt matter. narrow is the gate and straight is the way and few will enter in. keep up the good work! you sound like your on the right track!
i dont know why your postings were deleted. are you sure? did you check your profile page? maybe they scrolled out as new questions came on?

Answer 6

i forgive you, but as a recovering addict i know that i am to make amends and try and restore the damage i did the best i can, not seek forgiveness. whether someone forgives or not is up to them. do all you can. as with your children, that is an amends that will take the rest of your life. and we don't make amends expecting something in return. read the big book again. work your recovery with a sponsor if you don't have one, get one. let go of your self pity. find ways to serve others.

Answer 7

Hold on to your belief that Jesus has forgiven you and worry not what or how man feels cause mankind owns or have no hell or heaven to put you in. God has the last say so over any soul.

Answer 8

What makes you think Christians reported you? You were talking about how great God is. Who is more likely to report you? An atheist or another Christian? Be serious.

Answer 9

Don't listen to those people. Listen to Jesus....He forgives. And He makes all things new. Therefore, do as Paul wrote: "forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead."

God Bless and congrats on conquering your alcoholism problem at such a young age!! Many people are much older by the time they are able to free themselves from this temptation.

Answer 10

i'm glad you found God and Jesus. i'm very sorry for your suffering. it is hard to forgive yourself i am sure, and i'm sure you have daily reminders to bare with. with your children, be understanding, perhaps they are not ready to forgive... let your conduct show who you are now and who you want to be, and give them time and space, but not let go of them completely. i think forgiveness is the most difficult thing, it is with me anyway. it doesn't seem humanly possible, but if we are asked to be forgiven then maybe prayer is the only way we learn the strength to forgive. forgiving isn't forgetting, it's just accepting.