Well here it goes my girl broke up wit me, just left one day, we were living together. I didnt hear from her for 2 days and then she calls me and says that we cant b together. Well about a week later she shows up at my house and she is crying, saying how much she loves me and that she is sorry. so we end up doin the due and the next day she is gone again. I talked to her sister and she said that she really didnt want that. So I left it alone again. well then she calls me yesterday beggin to see me for jus 5 mins and I told her no and she aint worth my time. She was also sayin that she doesnt want to get back but she jus need to clear her chest and needs to see me in person so she can look in my eyes. My question is, what is this girls intentions. I dont understand it. O yea and she called me today jus to ask a stupid *** question. I jus hung up on her. Someone help me out wit this ****.
2007-10-16 11:08:39 · 25 answers · asked by yung_buk245 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did she cheat on you during that week? if she did, they it is over. should just move on. can't deal with unstability in a relationship.
2007-10-16 11:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by Carborane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! Sounds like to me that she needs and wants to be with you when it is convienant for her and that is definitely not the kind of relationship that you want. You deserve so much better than that. I know it is probably hard since you did live with her and spent quite a bit of time with her but trust me when I tell you that you will be better off if you just let her go and stay out of your life. There is that special someone out there that will love and want and need you for you and not when it is best for them. That is true love....to love you undconditonally all the time... So tho it may be extremely hard, you just need to tell her that you cannot keep turning your world upside down every time she has some sort of crisis in her life. And though she has or plans to apologize to you, is all fine and dandy but I am sure though you may have a big heart to forgive her, but you definitely will not be able to forget what she has done to you. Well Good Luck!!
2007-10-16 11:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by crazybitch_31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is she enjoys having you around to stroke her ego. She likes being able to push you around while she still plays the field with other men. Girls love that sense of knowing that a guy is always there if they really want him. She may also be mentally unstable, and emotionally unstable, and unable to have a relationship at this time, a person needs to be good with themselves before they can be good with others. If you do let her see you in person be prepared to hear a bunch of stuff you don't want to hear, like what she's been doing the last few weeks, and possibly even during your relationship that is making her feel so horrible. Its going to hurt if you let her do it.
2007-10-16 11:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone says i have a weird way of thinkin so here i go...
1. sounds like something where she got fired from a job and she is scared to tell u so she was leaving for days to look for a job.
2. there was another man and she was testing the waters.
a. seeing if you would chase her
b. seeing if you cared
3.she might not like you anymore
4. trying to trap you
a. gettin preg.
5. she might have been preg and did something and was scared
6. scared of the future
7. and that she called to ask you a question is to see if she can get you back, its a game
8. good luck girls are wack-o's
2007-10-16 11:17:50 · answer #4 · answered by pebzlude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DONE good Bro!
Whatever it is she has on her simple little mind... you performed proudly... I'm PROUD of you!
Let her sell it to you in good time. If she really FEELS the need to clear things off her chesty.. she can get creative in doing so! She dropped YOU so now she can work off her chest needs.. right?
My one and only X wife suddenly left me after 7 great years.
We were in love, traveled the country with a jet truck doing air shows and such.. had a wonderful time in our marriage and one day she dissapears with her bald boss from a part time job she got out of bordom... anyway, I talked to her twice on the phone and sent ONE package in the mail. But I pledged to her and myself that I would NEVER ever look her in the eyes again and I haven't! Every time she attempted contact and I failed to give it to her was a big WIN for my side of the war! F those fickle bit ches! I have learned to look away from those phoney-batting-eye lashes!
Your being a champion... shine'R'on dude!
2007-10-16 11:18:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women............................need i say more! She's just trying to **** with your head, tell her to talk a bit of sense and you'll listen! Otherwise just keep doin what your doin, i played up to it and was like whats wrong??? I love you!! And she screwed me over so dont answer her stupid questions - tell her to grow up! Truth is she probably does'nt know what she wants. Girls and women rarely do. Except to be the pretty pink princess and live the fairytale dream! Which never happens.... Dream on!
2007-10-16 11:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, i'm kind of confused too, and i'm a girl... but anyways, maybe she did something bad and wanted to leave you alone to not hurt you anymore, but by her going back to you and calling you up all the time (even if it is for some stupid question) she seems to still love you. talk to her and ask her what it is she wants from you and what is going on. if you don't get a good explanation, then move on. it's not worth for you to keep getting hurt.
2007-10-16 11:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by i don't know 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't want you anymore, but she is having a hard time transitioning out. She keeps trying to get closure by these little visits but it isn't working.
That's not your problem. You are not responsible for her closure because she's the one that left. Stop worrying about her problems and move on. If she keeps bothering you, have your new girlfriend take care of it.
2007-10-16 11:12:59 · answer #8 · answered by AJ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This girl is feeling guilty, and maybe unsure, about breaking things off with you. I'll bet she wants to see you so that she can go over every excrutiating detail of what went wrong in your relationship, especially what you did wrong, to make you feel as bad as she does.
I don't see how you will get anything positive out of seeing her, and having this talk. By ignoring her request, you're just giving her what she obviously wanted - out of your life.
2007-10-16 11:14:57 · answer #9 · answered by eileezy2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She either has a lot of issues or she is using this as an excuse to sleep with someone else then come back to you later without actually "cheating"
2007-10-16 11:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God only knows brother. You've got one of those Folks who Loves you, but doesn't love BEING with you. Personally, I think you've done about all you can do, save getting a TRO on her. Tell her to get some ammonia. Sniff that and i GUARANTEE it will clear her head RIGHT UP!!!!
2007-10-16 11:13:31 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Cellophane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋