ok. so i have a boy friend and he is 3 years older than me. BUT he really likes me. (and dont give me that he is just using you crap. i am getting it enough.) And he wont hold my hand or put his arm around my waist or anything. we havent been going out that long, 10 days. But it is because he is afraid that i will be angry if he kisses me or holds my hand and stuff. ITS FRUSTRATING. and im not really the kind of girl who is just gonna kiss him. what do i do? please help.
2007-10-16 11:01:22 · 13 answers · asked by littlponyluvr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok. i dont want him to be all over me. cuz that is not ok. but i just want to know what to say to him to let him know that its ok for him to hold my hand ect.
2007-10-16 11:15:13 · update #1
IF YOU ARE GONNA BE RUDE DONT BOTHER ANSWERING
2007-10-16 11:15:52 · update #2
um. its not illegal. he isnt 18.
2007-10-16 11:17:20 · update #3
Focus on school. Keep your tongue to yourself.
And just go back to being a kid. I can't believe you asked this.
*~*~*LIKE, DUH!*~*~*
2007-10-16 11:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ok.........I've dated older guys too, so I'm not gonna give you that crap! Guys are weird about that stuff. If it's in public that he won't do it, it's probablly because he doesn't like PDA. Plus you've only been going out for 10 days and he might want to take it slow. Not all guys like the touchy stuff! that doesn't mean that he doesn't like you............It sounds to me that he just needs a little warming up to you before he starts holding your hand. Also explain that you don't care if he holds your hand and kisses you and that you actually kinda want him to! but if he still doesn't do it then just remember that you are a new couple and it takes time to warm up to the idea.
Sorry if this doesn't help.
2007-10-16 11:11:19 · answer #2 · answered by lizardlip_14 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to tell him what you like. If you want kisses then ask why he does not kiss you. If you want to hold his hand let him know that it would feel good if he did hold your hand. If the relationship is just starting then you need to know now if he can give you the displays of affection you want.
2007-10-16 11:07:35 · answer #3 · answered by Frank J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are frustrated just after 10 days? No wonder the dude is afraid to do anything to you. First, you need to calm yourself down and look at yourself. Do some evaluating on what you want from him and tell him. See how that works.
2007-10-16 11:06:49 · answer #4 · answered by Kaya M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're not really the kind of girl who is just gonna kiss him? Are you the kind of girl who likes getting dumped for girls who are? I've seen this before. Maybe your next bf will be all over you, even in public. One can only dream.
2007-10-16 11:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay what you do is start holding his hand. It's not as dramatic as a kiss, but it'll make him fell more comfortable with you. How to do it? Say hey and grab his hand and start walking with him. It's so cute, simple, and sweet.
2007-10-16 11:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by Emma 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you should make the first move. he might be afraid to make the first move and he might be waiting on you to. so just do it kiss him on the cheek one time. try to hold his hand and start to hug him every time you switch classes or see him!
2007-10-16 11:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by emily p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you r his first girlfriend than he might be scared, but if not he MIGHT not want his friends to know he is going out with someone 3 years younger then him.
2007-10-16 11:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by I LOVE GREEN DAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most desent men are like that some are so afraid to talk to u some time give him some more time he will come around or u can question him about it and heard what he said.
2007-10-16 11:28:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.k. like, hold his hand! Like put your arm around is waist!
2007-10-16 11:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by david 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Maybe he's afraid of getting arrested because you are too young for him?
2007-10-16 11:05:31 · answer #11 · answered by Nancy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋