Borderline Personality Disorder?

Question

Does somone with bordeline personality disorder always want to feel like a victim, thought they were before, do they still try to find reasons to feel victimized? Also, if somone with personal experience could explain in detail of what somone with B.P.D. has symptoms of.

said thought, meant though..

Answer 1

No, we don't WANT to always feel like a victim. BPD is a very broad category. There are nine criteria, and a person only has to have five to be diagnosised with BPD. Almost without fail, everyone has fear of abandonment in common and a lot of problems with relationships. We have a lot of trouble trusting people and getting close to anyone, so we have a great deal of difficulty making and keeping close, loving relationships. In the workplace, as well. Persons with BPD are highly sensitive people who were raised in consistently invalidating environments. People with BPD truly believe that we are inherenly unacceptable. That is what has been pounded into our heads our entire lives, and we can't conceive of any other picture of ourselves. That is what therapy is supposed to do for us, but sometimes it just can't. There is no medication for BPD. Medicine will help with the symptoms; we are on a constant rollercoaster of highs and lows. A person with BPD has very rapid mood changes, almost from one moment to the next. I can be on top of the world, then someone can look at me with what I consider to be a "strange look," and I will fall into a black hole of depression for hours or days that is so painful I feel like my skin is going to burst open. But no one else sees the pain, because my face is a blank mask. I live inside in fantasy world, but go through the motions in their world. I have no idea what thoughts go on in "normal people's heads. That is why it's hard for me to have relationships with others. I try to mimic what I see, but I don't know what is supposed to follow.

I know this is confusing, but life as one with BPD is confusing. Now I have recovered and don't have the issues I did. There is sooo much more I could tell you. Just type in Borderline Personality Disorder and go to some sites and read about it from people who have bpd.

Answer 2

There's not a simple answer to this question. I have a severe panic disorder as well as BPD and feeling like a victim is definitely NOT one of the perks. Speaking for myself I don't really feel like a victim. I know I was brought up in an emotiontionally abusive invalidating environment, but I don't feel any animosity for that and when I'm not having an episode I'm proud of who I am and the family I come from. The downside is the episodes... it truly is night and day. I can wake up with a severe panic attack and want to start cutting myself or take more medication then I'm supposed to. That's why I have a psychiatrist and a therapist I can trust. So my medications are being handled appropriately at the same time I'm learning how to cope with the pain and the stress and regulate my emotions with DBT (Dialectic Behavioral Training). There are people whom I love and trust that know the severity and type of disorders I have but that is so they don't start thinking any of it is their fault. Everyone whom I casually know just knows I've been sick for a long time which is why I was out of work so long but I'm doing much better now. I don't think your a victim if you have BPD, I think you're a victim if you give up living because the BPD.

Answer 3

no, I do not want to be a victim ever.... Borderline personality disorder for me is like this. I only see things good or bad. I go from one extreme to the other. I am scared to death that i will be left alone and abandoned by those I love or care about. I have major trust issues and my moods fluctuate rather quickly. I get my feelings hurt easily and take things hard/.... Sometimes I do not feel real and zone out for a while... I can get extremely depressed too.
Self injury and suicide attempts are common in people with BPD because we have a hard time with our emotions and do not know what Else to do.
We can have other compulsive behaviors too. Like spending too much, overeating, stealing, drinking, or anything like that. Eating disorders are common too.

Answer 4

A lot of those answers were good, especially the one with the name sun-(something.) I have BPD and for the record HEEELLL NO we dont want to continue to be the victim!!! But it seems we know no other way and we allow people to look down on us and treat us like sh*t because this is familar, this is what we know. We dont do it on purpose. When I have been in relationships with people that showed me attnetion, I let them go because I felt "freaked out" and "smothered", yet at the same time, I become deperatly attatched to the ones that DONT show me what I need. Its like all I want to do is FIGHT for the attention and WIN. If its given to me, well, theres no "challenge" and I think they are "too good" for me, like I dont deserve the "best", although its all I think about and crave. I want to stop all these patterns and it is discouraging when I study it, it says you have to more or less "reprogram" your brain cuz you are so fixated on negative thoughts. I was told by my therapist it is an extention of sever post traumatic stress disorder, which I have. (I witnessed my mothers murder when I was 5 yrs old then was abused in every sense of the word after that by my adoptive parents) I am so oversensitive its pathetic. I am *very* defensive and gaurded to the point I at times isolate myself, causing me to fall into a depression. I cut when I am overwhelmed and when things are good, "freak out" because I dont "know" this feeling. I actually feel relieved when something goes wrong and I have an excuse to cut because this is what I know. I think things to death and overanalize and my moods are so quick to change and so intense its insane! I could be fine and if my feelings are hurt, I could be in a ball with a knife just moments later. Im petrified of being hurt again and have even moved out of the state several times when "things go wrong", I feel like running away is a temporary fix for my problems. I constantly feel like a victim. Most people think I am "level headed, strong and friendly" and those that know me personally know otherwise. Its crazy, like Im two different people and I am conflicted about sooo much in life that I cannot find stabilty. Life is a mothaf*cken rollar coaster is all I can say!!!!!!!

Answer 5

BPD and the role of victim are not necessarily tied together.

BPD is often tied to other forms of mental health issues and its hard to separate them, for the person going thru it, however, BPD is noted for:

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity. Originally thought to be at the "borderline" of psychosis, people with BPD suffer from a disorder of emotion regulation.

Further info is available here:
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder.shtml

Answer 6

i have BPD. I always feel like i'm empty,with no direction in life. my goals change constantly. one minute i feel happy and the very next second i am extremely depressed or so angry i entertain thoughts of hurting others. this happens many times a day. medication does not really control it and i have been hospitalized in psychiatric hospitals 40 times in the past 7 years. i certainly hope nobody has experienced it as bad as me. and i hope this info. helps.

Answer 7

lots of people want to feel like victims, even when they don't have bpd.
but yes, bpd has trouble getting out of the victim role.

study the karpman drama triangle.

Answer 8

The Uk national mental health charity has an excellent online leaflet here:

Answer 9

Just stop telling yourself, because you start thinking it sooner or later you'll beileve it. It's how it starts, but at least you've reconized it.

Focus on being you.

Just think deep and hard, about what YOU'D really do in situations.

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Take care.