love help?

Question

First no RUDE answers! It's a long story so u wouldn't know so quit acting smart like you do. There's a love of my life. But I don't know what to do, how to deal. Like I said, it's a long story. I acted dumb many times. " I'm afraid once your heart is involved it all comes out in moron." So true. And "Sometimes our strongest fears of intimacy only surface when we find someone we truly love — and who truly loves us. This is one of Cupid’s cruelest ironies to be sure, but it happens all the time. Probably because when we find something great, we worry so much about losing it." So true. So I don't know how to act, normal, like nothing ever happened? I'm a realistic, factual person. I'm a thinker, I know it's not like that, and I worry. So I can't act like nothing happened because I know it did. So what do I do? How do I deal?

Answer 1

You are ALMOST a realist. See romance in all its glory isn't love, its an extention yes, but romance doesn't mean love. Love does mean romance thou, but were getting ahead of ourselves. Realize that love is just an emotion, ITS RAW BABY, YEA! So it has a simple job, MAKE YOU FEEL! Now these feelings are the true kicker because they can be infinite in their scoop. It's what gives rise to such lovly sayings like "I love him, but I'm not in love with him", "Love him, but I don't feel the same, as so and so" or my favorite "I don't care that you beat me, I still love you!" See the fact is were all pretty lost on love, all of us, because it doesn't matter. The love means squat, its actully a given, if you feel anything for anything, its because you love it, from disgust from stepping on an insect, to unbarable feelings of commentment, hope and faith for a person your envolved with. But the fact well always remain that the most important thing to a relationship is HOW you use that love. Love can't do it on its own, it can help, but its on us to turn it into the trully speciall things, like compassion, passion, companinship, trust, honesty, and understanding. To often people just get stuck at the love, and don't do anything with it, but have kiddos and get married, just to get a divorce later on when the "love runs out" (isn't the case, the fact is like I said before love makes you feel, the love does run out, you just no longer feel the same as you use to because reality is a *****) It always comes down to the fact that you were strangers in love, not friends, and really knew nothing more about each other then you love each other. A relationship like that sounds romantic, but is hell to be in, hence the 50% divorce rate..... this can get alot more complicated, hence why they don't teach you, most people don't understand human relationships, but I think you'll get my point from that, if not E-mail me, I love this stuff, oops I mean I feel great pride and an accomplished heart when I love this stuff.....heheeh closer to the truth there.....