my daugther was put up for adoption in 1998 i want to find her i know the city she was in?

Question

but its hard for me to remember her mothers name please help me in this matter we did it because it was best at the tim

her mother's name is heather hammerick in salbury n.c i had to think about it i need help not critizion if thats what you have keep it u haven't been there

Answer 1

It depends which State or Country she was born in

In the USA you can register with reunion registries and hope for a match - there are loads but here's a few to get you started

http://registry.adoption.com/
http://www.isrr.net/
http://www.almasociety.org/

If you can tell which State you're looking in someone may be able to get you in touch with search groups in that region

What is the exact Date of Birth and State?

Answer 2

I would beg of you to leave your daughter and her family alone. I am guessing she is a child and dealing with this situation would be unhealthy. All you are going to do is upset alot of lives. You made the decision to give her up for a reason, and you can NOT just waltz into the life of a small child and the only parents she has more then likely ever known! It is kind of scary because i am not sure what your motivation is for wanting to find her. I can assure you that all you will do is create a BIG mess if you do this now. If you care about your daughter, just hold off till she is an adult, and let her make the decision. Not you and not her adoptive parents!!!

Answer 3

I would start with the adoption agency that handled this. They won't give you information but they will accept your information and pass it on the adoptive family. The child may want to contact you when she reaches 18 and the information is there for her. She may also influence her parents to search before she reaches 18 so regardless of what else you decide to do i encourage you to place your contact information on file to make it easy for her to find you.

Many adoptive parents want open adoption so you might find that they are glad to hear you want contact.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Try a check of her name in the phone book, join and adoption bulliting board, there are search angles out there willing to help, send a letter to the adoption agency giving your permission to match you up if she ever sends in a letter. Don't disrupt your daughters life until she is an adult.

Answer 5

How come you can`t remember your daughter`s mother`s name???How bizarre??She`d only be ten years old?? I don`t think you`d be entitled to know anything... Find out her mother`s name and start from there.. It would help if you knew the mother`s name, she may have more info...But obviously you were " asleep" when your daughter was adopted, because you had a opportunity to have visitation or even custody. What happened???

Answer 6

Most places wouldn’t give you information till the child is of age. Assuming your daughter was a baby or even a young toddler(2 or 3) when you placed her back 1998.

Answer 7

You lost out on ALL your rights the day you gave her up, the adoption agency wont give you any info re where she is etc, its down to the child when she is 18, she will have any info she needs about you if she chooses she wants to find you.

Answer 8

At the time of the adoption you should have recieved a copy of all the information you signed to give her up for adoption...

Answer 9

if it was best at the time then leave it be now. She is obviously under the age of 18, probably was a baby in 98 and most states have laws that you cannot harass the children with their parents. Let her come to you IF she chooses. My cousins have 3 adopted kids who all know they are adopted and all are under 10 years old. They will let their kids decided if they want to contact their birth parents eventually. My mother gave her son up 7 1/2 years before I was born. He was a newborn. She called and gave our medical history to the adoption agency who contacted him with the pertinant info. He can get a hold of us IF he wants but has chosen not to. We will not pursue him as he has a family who loves him and he does not want ours.

Answer 10

look, i know that you want to find your child and that giving her up was the best decision for you then. however, now, you need to think about the child's needs, not your own. the kid is what, almost 10, how would you have felt at 10 years old if someone just popped up claiming to be your father. leave the kid alone until she is 18. you are not going to be able to find her anyway. law prevents it.