Okay, thanks to all that answered my previous question about the shower. My next question is what should I do for the bachlorette party. The BRIDE specifically asked that NO alcohol &/or strippers be involved. This is what I was thinking....Getting together at the pizza place for a dinner, then going to the movies to see a sappy chick flick, then on to Karaoke at the bowling alley here in town. On friday nights after 10pm they close the doors to any persons under the age of 16, so a bunch of little kids wont be running around. Also, they turn out the lights and light up the lanes with neon lights. So I thought we could karaoke and bowl. Also, they have a party room that can be reserved and with it comes 2-4 bowling lanes, so we wont have to be waiting around. The other maids don’t really care for this idea either. They have suggested we blindfold her, and take her to a strip club. I think that would really P**S her off, though. Any other ideas of something fun we could do.
2007-10-16 09:49:37 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'd be paying for everything so it can't be too over the top as I'm running out of funds. Also, there are 10 of us that would be going to the bachlorette party so we will all be going in my Navigatior.
2007-10-16 09:51:07 · update #1
The other maids have made it clear they WILL NOT be paying for any part of it, regardless of what we do...I'd have to cover the bill.
2007-10-16 09:52:31 · update #2
The BRIDE wants NOOOO alcohol involved so why would I have it in a bar???
2007-10-16 09:59:15 · update #3
I'm not concerned with having to pay for it. I WANT to do this for my friend, and money is just money. (We cant take it with us when we die) The other maids are her friends too, so I don't see why they want to do something they KNOW she will NOT like.
2007-10-16 10:02:33 · update #4
I just don't want everyone being party poopers because it is not something that they would have done.
2007-10-16 10:03:39 · update #5
No offense, but karaoke and bowling?
Why not having a soiree with the girls on a hotel suite and go on a night on thetown. Go to a bar and have a girls night out then come back to the hotel, what a chick flick and have delivery food. If it's all about having a relaxed time with the girls, please, do it fun.
If the bride said no strippers, then you should respect her wishes.
Good luck
2007-10-16 09:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 5⤋
First of all, your idea sounds awesome! If you choose to do it, make sure you get her all the silly bachelorette accoutrements (but still tasteful, of course, as you will be in a place with minors).
I once had to plan a similar bachelorette party. Here are some other ideas I came up with:
1. Have a preteen sleepover
-- Play music from whatever decade she was a preteen (at one such party, we did "fake karaoke" while dancing on the coffee table).
-- Do manicures/facials/etc.
-- Watch chick flicks
-- Wear flannel PJ's and bring stuffed animals
-- Print out pictures of teen idols from that era to decorate
-- Play truth or dare and other games
2. Have a somewhat risque party at your house or another private location (If the bride is comfortable with it -- just don't use porn or strippers)
-- Play the "I've never..." game (This is the one where everyone gets in a circle and holds up ten fingers. Each person takes a turn saying something like, "I've never kissed two men in one night." All the girls who have kissed two men then put down one finger. The game continues until just one girl is still holding up fingers -- she is the winner.)
-- Decorate with phallic-shaped items; make phallic snacks
-- Have each guest bring a naughty gag gift
-- Play Naughty Pictionary (This is hilarious!)
-- Have a sex trivia game show (Also very fun!)
-- Think up some fun party favors for the guests!
3. Do a bachelorette scavenger hunt
-- Type one: Two teams drive around with only an hour or so to find the most things on a list of about 20 items (examples: an item with the groom's name printed on it; "something blue" for the bride to wear on her wedding day, etc.). Just make sure you pick items that could include the bride without giving her an unfair advantage. At the end of the allotted time, the team with the most (or the funniest) items wins!
-- Type two: All the girls go out to some public venue (bowling alleys, pizza places, and movie theatres would all work great!) The bride has a checklist of embarrassing tasks she needs to complete (examples: dance with a man of the same name as the groom, serenade a stranger, get someone to buy her a non-alcoholic drink). A variation is to give each party-goer her own checklist!
I hope these ideas help -- have a great party!
2007-10-16 20:32:15 · answer #2 · answered by Emmy Jo (13 weeks with #2) 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your idea sounds fine, if you think the bride would have a good time. you could also do a spa night at someone's house, watch cheesy movies, and eat snacks. Another idea is to go for brunch or dinner at a nice restaurant, but the other maids will have to help you pay for it. Or...if you're the outdoorsy types, go camping. (i would love that!)
What's up with the other bridesmaids not wanting to contribute?? That's a little obnoxious. You're going above and beyond the call of duty if you're hosting everything! Also, their idea of blindfolding her and doing something she specifically said she wanted no part of is just mean. You're right - that would definitely offend your friend. If the others want to go to a strip club, let them go on their own. What's the point of a bachelorette party if the bachelorette isn't having a good time?
I don't want my bachelorette party at a strip club or only at a bar (unless it's at a nice jazz club or somewhere with good live music). I think strip clubs are tacky, and alcohol does *very bad things* to my digestive system...even in small amounts. You can have tons of fun without strippers and drunk people. :-)
2007-10-16 17:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by SE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah that sounds good! It sounds like the bride has something like this in mind if she specifically asked for no alcohol or strippers. It's smart of you to think out that there won't be any kids around. And if it's just a girls night, karoake is a lot of fun! I might copy that for my bach party!
Another idea (that my SIL did) is to have dinner then a girl's night in. She had people bring stuff for pedicures and facials and they tried hair home treatments and everyone brought a chick-flick movie or two and some food. It was like a less-expensive version of a spa day.
The maids idea of blindfolding her is beyond mean. She obviously doesn't want it, and it's selfish of them to think she needs to have HER bachelorette party their way. I hate to even say this because she's got a lot going on, but if you think they might do it, warn her. I have many friends who've said no to the traditional bachelorette party and none of them would have been remotely happy. They'd be furious.
As for what they want to do, they don't get to have any say! If they're being selfish and not helping out even a little bit, they have no right to complain. They agreed to be in the wedding, that means they play by the bride's rules and her type of party. You're being a really nice friend for going to this much trouble and trying to keep them happy. But it's for your friend, the Bride, not them. Make sure she's happy with the night, and tell them to grow up and learn how to have fun without drinking or going to a bar or club!
2007-10-16 17:10:04 · answer #4 · answered by iheartbayley 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I am a bride who didn't want stripper either but I told my maids what I wanted- Rollerskating!! Some people are making comments too that it's lame but it's what i want.
Ask the bride and do what she wants- screw the other girls- they are suppose to be there for her, not for their own benefit.
They aren't her real friends if they can't respect her wishes.
And if the other bridesmaids don't pay- they don't go. What a bunch of jerks! You be better off just taking her out to dinner yourself and to a spa- or a spa weekend for just the two of you. You don't need to pay for all those free loading complainers.
Edit: My problem with other maids is that they have the nerve to try to get you do something against her wishes and they are downing your ideas. I am sorry, but if you pay- you rule!! And if you want bowling it's a fun idea and they should be more supportive of you!! Just ask the bride if she likes the idea!!
2007-10-16 17:14:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think the karoke and bowling is a good idea. You mentioned you were running low on cash (shame on the other maids for not pitching in) so I think a spa day would be out of the question. Bowling is fairly cheap and fun. Ooh.. how about a movie night at home and you can all have a spa night at home.. facials, diy manicures and pedicures.. rent some sappy chick flicks order pizza and call it a night.. I hope this helps.
2007-10-16 18:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by musicgrl42002 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
My friends have had fun with mystery potluck dinners. There is a murder mystery dinner kit you can buy; invitations are sent out to people about the character they will be and can only reveal the information on their cards. At dinner everyone talks about anything; there is a storyline you can follow; no one knows what the truth is; but once everyone has a guess you open the envelope and see who's right! I'm sure there are other dinner games. I bet there's other kinds of bachlorette games to put together too. I would do whatever you guys enjoy doing, or have talked about doing. You can always do a web search on whatever activity you come up with!
2007-10-16 17:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Jessi S 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
what if you and the bride went and got massages early in the afternoon (bc it is expensive and you are paying) then everyone takes her to dinner-you still need to have her wear the ridiculous batchlorette getup- and then you have a night to go to someones house and play board games or go roller skating. you can rent a karoke machine if the other girls dont want to go do that in public.
remember this is her night-what were her favorite things to do before having a boyfriend or when she was a child?? you should talk to her parents if you are unsure of some of these things. what does she want??? we know what she doesnt want and don't listen to the bridesmaids who are saying to go against her wishes-thats wrong! she wants to be sober to enjoy the night and not feel like anything she does is going to offend her soon to be husband.
do you live near a casino? or will the weather be nice enough to go to a park and have a girls only softball game and then have a bbq?
good luck-remember this is the brides day not everyone elses!
2007-10-16 17:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Jesus. Okay...do the other girls know that the bride doesn't want to have an alcohol filled event? If they do, then they are just being stupid little bitches..I am sorry. Give me a break.
I think that the bowling idea sounds great, karoke, all of that stuff can be fun. Invite the other two girls, and all of the other bride's friends she wants to come, and those who don't show, don't show. If they can't allow themselves to be all geeky and have fun, then you don't need them there. And neither does the bride!
2007-10-16 17:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by SisterSue 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you say they wont chip in, what do you mean? Are you having to pay their way to? Pay for their night out? Sounds like you are letting them walk all over you.
Tell them whatever they decide, they ARE paying. You are doing the shower, that is the important part. A bachelorette party isnt that important.
If she doesnt drink, make it a pizza and chick flik movie night. Keep the costs down. do it at your home or just go out and go dancing. You are going over and beyond your duties here. Being maid of honour does not mean you have to pay for everything.
2007-10-16 16:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bit biased as I LOVE to bowl, but that sounds like an AWESOME night out!
Definitely don't take her to a strip club, she's already warned you that she does NOT want alcohol or strippers.
I love your pizza/movie/bowling idea. If your Bride loves to bowl, that would be excellent.
2007-10-16 17:48:50 · answer #11 · answered by Terri 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋