I have a reason to believe that my 8 month old son is being sexually abused. I picked him up at the sitters house this afternoon and I changed his diaper and his penis was really bruised like dark purple. I called the sitter and asked her about it and she said that she noticed it and thought it was from the baby bouncer. I also have a baby bouncer at my house and he plays in it all the time and has never been bruised before. If anyone knows if that's a sign of sexual abuse or if a bouncer or walker could have caused this I could really use some help because I don't know what to do. Any help would be appreciated.
2007-10-16 09:38:34 · 20 answers · asked by Jess 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I called the pediatrician and I have an appt. tomorrow morning before I go into work so hopefully we can get down to the bottom of this. I thank you all for everything and keep me in your prayers. The bad thing is I trusted this person to watch my son now I'm questioning my judgement as a mom. Thank you.
2007-10-16 13:21:42 · update #1
I would take him to the doctor to see what they say asap. I don't believe anything like that could happen from a bouncy seat.
2007-10-16 09:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Tbone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the doctor immediately and ask them what they think it's from. Does this sitter babysit any other children that you know? If so, maybe you should talk to the other parents to see if the same thing has happened to any of their kids. I don't know what kind of bouncer she uses, but if it actually was to bruise anything it should've been his bottom, not his penis. Seriously doubt a bouncer could do that, and it's strange that she already had thought of an excuse for it AND didn't happen to mention noticing the bruise when you picked him up. I say take him to the doctor, talk to other parents of kids she babysits, and maybe even get a new sitter and file a police report just in case. Good luck to you.
2007-10-16 10:09:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was in an at home facility and came home with bruises all over his back and front of his thighs when he was just under 2 years old. I immediately took pictures and called the police. I was questioned and handled like a bad guy, but in the end, they found out that the provider was putting kids in time outs in a high chair that had no cushioning. My child was literally beating himself up trying to get out of this highchair. CPS was called on the providers school and needless to say he never went back there. I was told that she had other complaints and her "school" was shut down.
What I'm trying to say, is that it could very well have been from the bouncer if he was in there for really long period, but... I think he would have markings on other spots of his little body as well.
I wish you the best of luck uncovering what is going on.
2007-10-16 09:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Wendi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't risk it. do what everyone else has said call your Dr. have your baby checked. look for another sitter of possible. it's just not worth it. your baby is the most important thing so if you suspect that your sitter did any of that don't take chances and just get a new one you don;t even have to give her explanations. it might not be sexual it might be physical abuse maybe she hits him a lot down there thinking that it will hurt him a ton and won;t really bruise or something but either way sexual or not any sight of abuse should be taken care of immediately not second chances or "wait and see, maybe she won;t do it again" just get a new one. I"m really sorry to hear that I hope your baby is okay.
GOOD LUCK !!
2007-10-16 10:05:16 · answer #4 · answered by lisvad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if a bouncer would cause this. I would think that with a diaper on it would not irritate the penis at all. If you suspect any kind of behavior, you should really call your pediatrician and have him/her examine your son. They would probably have a better idea of any other possible reasons to hopefully rule out abuse. Good luck.
2007-10-16 09:45:09 · answer #5 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is a painful memory, but I don't think there is a lot anyone can do about it anymore. Forcibly kissing someone is not exactly a felony , and come to think of it, this kind of thing probably happens to just about everyone (it happened to me at least 10 times when I was a kid, with relatives as well as school ground bullies or perverts). Consider it a learning experience to assert yourself DIRECTLY to the person doing anything to you that you feel uncomfortable with and tell someone about it immediately. Do not be scared but be confrontational, fight for your body and maybe even take some self defense courses in the future. Hopefully you will never have to see this cousin again and if you do, you will be tough enough to clean his clock and then some!
2016-05-22 23:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will suggest you to take him to the doctor and if it is as you pick him up from the sitter much better.. So an specialitst can check .. Don't let is pass so much time it is for the health and well being of your child and if you DON"t trust your sitter anymore then DON"T take him again.. If you find he is being abused then go to the police rigth away...Hopefully he is not being abuse in any way..I will still pray for you and your baby ..BEst wishes :)
2007-10-16 11:09:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son started using a bouncer around the age of 7 or 8 months and he never had any type of brusing from it.
If she were to leave him in it for an extended amount of time... a VERY long time (and that would be neglect), I suppose it could happen but I wouldn't buy her story. I would take him to the doctor or ER right now if I were in your shoes.
2007-10-16 09:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
dear friend i have had four children and like you i have of any bruising being caused by baby walkers etc.But i will ask at my nursery connected to my work. Abuse can take many forms and is usual well hidden from those involved . i would suggest that you remove your child from the sitters care until you are certain .although there expiation does sound plausible i could be wrong. please try not to feel guilty because you placed your child there in trust and cannot blame yourself for someone breaking that trust. we as parents do everything we can to protect our children from harm but sometimes circumstances are beyond our control. i hope your fears are resolved in a good way .please email me and let me know your friend mark b.
2007-10-19 09:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you made the doctor's appointment. Don't start getting down on yourself. Mothers all over the world are going through this and I know it doesn't make this any better, but you thought you were doing a good thing for your baby. Hope everything is fine. Keep your head up.
2007-10-20 09:36:22 · answer #10 · answered by IWTK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take him to the doctor NOW!!! the sitter could claim abuse on you and since you didnt get it checked you could be charged.... also the doctor has seen it all. if he says something looks wrong, you need to file charges instantly. never send him back there again. This is a big sign of possible abuse
2007-10-16 09:54:51 · answer #11 · answered by yourbigsis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋