Unable to control emotions?

Question

Ever since I moved (August 1st) i had an extremely hard time adjusting to the new area.I'm sure this is normal...

The first day of school was horrible.Im in my sophmore year of highschool; and am normally a social person,but comming in knowing no one was hard.
I was overly upset the first week of school , crying every day ;
but then the first weekend of school , i kinda just sat and just thought about everything
i relized crying was pointless/useless ,and i should beable to handle everything...
Im not able to talk to anybody HERE about how im feeling ,and all of my old friends seem to be getting farther.
If i call them , i dont want to have to fill them in with all my problems. I thought i could just handle it, venting wasnt needed
Now It feels like... i cant feel anymore?
When i want to cry ,i cant.
Its like.. im unable to get upset?
All my feelings seem the same
Im just kinda';numb,and have been this way
I think i need help
is there any advice?I could use anything.Ty

just wanted to add;
I HAVE met friends,but still not compeltely safe with talking to them about personal things.
Also;
Im not sure if finacially(sp?) i can get a pshycologist.

Answer 1

Moving for kids and young adults is really hard. You were used to your social enviornment and didn't need to learn the skills for making new friends and relationships. Now that you're in a new enviornment, you are finding that you lack the skills needed to adjust properly and quickly. Start by getting a couple names of people in each of your classes (in case you miss a day of school and need to see what the homework is.) This is a fool proof ice breaker. Say you're new and where you were from. Ask about the area and things to do and see. Eventually, talking in class will lead to new friendships. If you're a sophmore, you're probably almost 16, getting a part-time job is one of the best ways to meet new people. Everyone there is new to their surroundings and meeting new people, so you won't be alone in that. Also, it will fill up that 'lonely' time with productive time. Small, subtle steps will go a long way here.

Answer 2

It's ok I understand how u feel my son is 15 and he went thru the same thing not the cryn and other things. But he had a hard time tryn 2 adjust and meet new people, but its all n u. If ur a nice and likable person it will happen n time. Don't think that people will just c u an run 2 u bcuz it don't work that way. Just continue 2 b urself and it will work itself out. But by no means is it worth cryn and gettin upset bcuz u don't know any1 YET. Just keep bn the mature teenager that u r and it will all balance out. 1 more thing don't let any 1 pressure u 2 do thing just 2 "fit n", if that's the way they come off...their not genuine. GOOD LUCK P.S my son eventually fit n perfectly he talked 15K min 1 month... that is N&W and mob 2 mob... but damn that is still alot. And trust me that is fact...I'm not stretching it. But with all that bn said he is still and HONOR ROLL student. So I dont complain.

Answer 3

My father was in the military and we moved a LOT. I was always the new kid and had a hard time making friends once I got to highschool. Just be friendly and keep your eyes open for somebody with similar interests. Join a school club or take up some sort of lessons (foreign language, musical instrument, dance, etc). You are depressed at the moment, get back into life and you will find a friend soon.

Answer 4

Back in the day, it's what we used to call the "School blues". It's very hard to adjust to another school. You feel lost without your old friends and that's very normal. They will always be your friends no matter how far you travel. Pick up that phone and call the one who doesn't mind you bending their ear. But don't give up at your new school. Be who you are and the others will follow. Look around, I'm sure there are kids who are just as lost as you are. Make new friends. A smile to someone who's blue, really does go a long way.
Chin up with a positive attitude.

Answer 5

Wow, this sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder: Mood swings, feelings of abandonment (whether real or imagined), depression, etc. Now I'm not a doctor so I can't say this for sure, but I would seek the advice of a mental health professional. Even if it isn't this, it is something that needs to be addressed. Good luck.

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity. Originally thought to be at the "borderline" of psychosis, people with BPD suffer from a disorder of emotion regulation.

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/borderline-personality-disorder.shtml

Answer 6

I recently moved and know how you feel. Change is hard! Even if you don't feel like it you need to get connected with some people and share how you're feeling. Perhaps a local support group, school councelor or church group. I know it's not easy but you need to! It's o.k. to cry and sometimes you won't. Don't worry about it. You'll cry when you're supposed to.
Hey, it'll be o.k.! Hang in there!

Answer 7

You could take her to her family doctor or pediatrician. You could speak to the school counselor. But my opinion is she may have bipolar or a personality disorder and if she she can't concentrate on school work she may have an attention deficit disorder. These things usually start to show up in early adolescence.

Answer 8

It's very difficult changing schools. It's like starting Freshman year all over again. Try to make some friends, and try to concentrate on your studies. Sounds boring, but soon enough, you'll have many friends and be very smart!

Answer 9

talk to your classmates. the only thing you can do is to be patient. you can also join some activity in the community or some volunteer work. I just move to a new area for a job, it is even harder to know people. but if you put yourself out there, someone will care to be your friend.

Answer 10

I think ur feeling homesick, and who should call ur friends and see how there doing...ur true friends will stick with you and try not to get upset joing a club at ur school or something that can make ya make more frirends...and remember always think positive!!