and isnt listening to mama. What should I do?
He has hit mama when he is very mad... all I can do is yell "dont hit mama" ... nothing is working so now sometimes I get nervous about being in public and my little son not listening..
How soon do toddlers really begin to listen?
2007-10-16 09:31:32 · 9 answers · asked by smilingontime 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He is at the age where he may be imitating aggressive behavior. Yelling at him will teach him that yelling is a method of getting your own way. He has learned to hit from being hit, or from watching it on TV. He is still young enough to unlearn these things. You need to avoid all aggressive behavior, and don't let him see anybody acting out like that, in person or on TV, etc.
Do not take him places until he has learned to behave nicely.
Be sure to TELL him that he is not being taken any place because you cannot trust him to behave nicely.
Instead of saying "no" to this or that... you need to tell him what he IS supposed to do.... for instance, "take my hand... walk beside me... wait here quietly until I am finished... help Mommy carry this... etc.... giving him things to do that will keep him busy and then praising him for doing those things.
Keep him busy enough that he will be less likely to get into trouble or be tempted to look for things to do that you do not want him to do. Spend time with him, pay attention to him, and when you give him instructions, always have your hand gently on his arm, making sure he is looking at you and paying attention. Talk TO him, not AT him. Best of luck!!
P.S. Don't let him hit you. Step away.... take his hand... but try to avoid that kind of body contact completely.
2007-10-16 09:41:25 · answer #1 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is very common at this age. When he does something wrong, kneel at his level, make eye contact, keep your voice serious but not threatening or yelling and tell him what you would like him to do. Tell him this is first warning. If he continues, give him a second warning. Third warning is a time out. One minute for each year he is old. It can be anywhere, a chair, a corner, in the car etc.., If he gets up, put him back no matter how many times it takes until he stays.
When he has stayed for the correct time, tell him again what he did wrong and why he is in trouble and make him apologize.
I strongly suggest that you either watch Supernanny or get the book. She is fantastic and covers things just like this.
Good Luck!
2007-10-16 16:41:39 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be firm and use time out or taking away a toy if he hits with it. Dont get nervous. No one expects a three year old to act like an adult. If he gets out of hand, remove him from the place to a quiet spot and he will definitely listen to you. Dont let him get in the habit of getting his way in public. It's a hard thing to break.
2007-10-16 16:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yu need to teach him whilst being at home so if he hits 'mama' at home then put him in a safe secure corner somewhere and leave him for like 5 minutes and it will take time but eventually he will learn.
2007-10-16 16:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont get nervous about being in public. Toddlers are embarrassing. Period.
anyway- when he hits you, try time outs. Put him somewhere and tell him he has to stay in time out because hes being mean.
For us, timeouts do not work. I have to put myself in time out. I go in a room, behind a baby gate my daughter cannot get through, and I tell her "mommy like to play with you hit." then i make myself look busy and entertained for a couple minutes and i ask her if shes ready to be nice. it works MUCH better than putting her in time outs.
2007-10-16 17:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by AK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it matters they'll listen, but at 3 or 4 it's also will over want.
You want them to do something, but it's all about how willing they are =D
Don't allow him to hit. If he hits, calmly tell him no hitting, be gentle and give him a time out for 3 minutes anytime he hits.
Just be calm and consistent, eventually it'll click for them.
2007-10-16 16:37:38 · answer #6 · answered by alisongiggles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to teach them to listen have you tried to put him in time out when he hits you or take away one of his toys and tell him he has to be good to get it back
2007-10-16 16:36:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
haha no one can tell my almost 3 year old seems evil at times i'm just waiting it out she can't possble continue this behavior , i hope
2007-10-16 16:41:43 · answer #8 · answered by roboshmere3000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him no back but dont hit him tell him something that he doesnt understand like dont do that
2007-10-16 16:35:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋